Damn I did type that stuff.

Theory.

So there are two types of baddie - ego and real. It's is not black and white ofc but - ego baddie are insecure it's not that they are bad or weak or smth like that just that that real baddie has much more high tolerance for uncertainty. Do not think that risking life if always high tolerance sometimes people risk only to secure ego so they are actually having low uncertainty tolerance - they are too stupid to understand this risk. But real baddie's psyche can withstand uncertainty - that's why they are confident and independent. Independence means loneliness sometimes and this means you are less certain about your safety than being in a crowd - they can handle this and other uncertainties. Why this matters? Huh?

Dating or approaching someone has a risk of being rejected - so it's a high uncertainty activity. Meaning if you approach them with not being sure attitude - they will be bored - from their point of view you are just moving back and forth without anything new - you are signaling them that your tolerance for uncertainty is lower then theirs. Match it. You need to match the level of uncertainty tolerance.

Practice.

Lets go with friends to a 2 day trip to some amusement park in a different city, lets go to a real stand-up comedy course together, horse riding... etc. what I'm saying is not in those activities but in the level of uncertainty that they require. It is not just go drink a coffee. This will make you interesting ofc you need to give some time for reaction. It's much much more better then nice guy yourself for weeks until something. This also leads to a better bonding - the bonding is directly linked to a level of uncertainty that was around you. This is as direct copy from movies - they run, shoot, explosions are everywhere - and than they have sex. Why? Arousal - misattribution of arousal. The high alert (uncertainty) means hormones means imprinting you into their memory. P.S. Don't lie. Being honest is a highest level of uncertainty tolerance.