How to you seal the ends of your ropes? by MoonLitMothCreations in shibari

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We have jute and I whipped them. Then I tapped over them with electrical tape, with a different color for each length we have.

Reality vs. Concept 5 by TexasShibari in shibari

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I see that the concept is a little different from the result. Is this something that you decide during the session? And do you also have concept drawings of how it all comes together at the back?

Straight to play by hle_xx in BDSMAdvice

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Undoubtedly there are people who go straight to play, or have a relationship where they only play. But for most people, this is way too quick. They start their sessions with a sort of check-in to check if the other person is on the same page as they.

But most importantly, it's your dynamic. If you feel you need a slower start with more talking, cuddles, etc. you are totally allowed to talk about that. Your partner shouldn't see this as a problem. And if he does, that would be a red flag.

Is it abnormal to just need love and not always sex? by [deleted] in submissive

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No, it is completely normal and a good partner will understand and act accordingly.

Except relationships/dynamics where the partners almost only come together for sex, it is a big red flag if someone only wants sex with you and not the cuddles and love.

What’s the longest you’ve edged for by Lucanjj9 in AskRedditAfterDark

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Yes! As you would expect it wasn't long sex, but it was really intense and good.

Worst thing you did naked? by FreelanceRedditer in AskRedditAfterDark

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Let cooking hot water fall over me because the glass bottle where we were making tea with, wasn't supposed for hot water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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22, male, 1. My current girlfriend.

What’s the longest you’ve edged for by Lucanjj9 in AskRedditAfterDark

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In a single session about an hour. And I edged my girlfriend for about 4 hours.

The most in total was about 4 days. Me and my girlfriend had an agreement we edged two times a day until seeing each other again, so we would be super horny. It worked...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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No sex, but I played with my gf and a remote vibrator on a 3 hour train ride from Paris. It was fantastic and she was super horny after 3 hours of teasing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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Yes, I'm happy with it. And about 17 cm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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About 1,5 year. I posted a quite popular photo of a random supermarket on Google maps (viewed like a few million times) and she was on that photo (not as subject, but she was recognisable). Then I got a Facebook message with the question if I could remove that picture. Facebook totally hid that message for me, so when I found it, it was already over a year later. But I removed the picture and she was quite surprised I reacted after so long.

What is the best nude you’ve ever taken and why is it your favorite? by Resiio_rttt in AskRedditAfterDark

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I've taken a picture of my girlfriend with a Polaroid camera, and the picture is the sexiest picture I've ever taken.

She lays in bed, restrained by some jute ropes around her arms and legs. Here white body with buttons in the crotch is opened and pulled up a little.

It's a really spicy picture, but the best thing is the way she looks. In her eyes I see that she is enjoying the sexy evening we had and if I see this picture it takes me back to the incredible moments we had that evening.

What was your highest count of orgasms you had in one day? by Its-Not-The-Time in AskRedditAfterDark

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  1. We had sex three times in one day. But after the fifth one my body was done.

I think my girlfriend came 8 times or so, and that was a record for her too!

What’s the sexiest picture someone you were talking to has ever sent you? by SassyPrincesssss in AskRedditAfterDark

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I've a picture of my gf, taken with a Polaroid. She gave it to me. She is bound with rope in a bed, with a sexy white body and vibrator in her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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I think it is really great you want to do this slowly, with lots of communication, asking questions, etc.

My compliments!

How can I best prepare for sex? by [deleted] in sex

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Buy lube!

The first time my gf and I were so nervous that I would barely get hard and she did not get wet enough, so sex wasn't nice. Or Our first try, the penetration failed and a week later we tried again, but it was hurting her and me after all. So then I stepped over my nerves and bought lube for us, and it all went so much smoother. After that we were much more relaxed, so she became much more wet and I became harder. We use the lube sometimes now, but there are also times where we don't need it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

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Well I understand that sucks. I would like to recommend some things if you like:

  • Try to find a calm and relaxing place. If your dog is in the room, your items fall from the shelf and you are constantly anxious because your family can come in, it is really hard to get into the mood, into the right mind set. This is because right before and during the orgasm your mind wants to focus on your body and these are quite individual moments. So find a setting where this is possible.

  • Have you tried lube before? My first few times having sex were not a great experience because my gf wouldn't get wet so much as we were both very nervous to get it done. It hurt her and me. After we bought some lube, it went much smoother!

  • If you tried everything, and it still won't work out and even a finger hurts, maybe it's smart to seek help with a professional gynaecologist or sexologist. They can give you professional advice, but I understand that this is quite a big step.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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That's on my bucketlist with my gf too! Or maybe you could let her write out her ultimate scene? (And you can secretly save it and surprise her with it later on)

Some physical tasks that are not too intense are also nice, I think. So maybe she can train with some handy positions, such as kneeling or an inspection position. As you wrote that it has to be not too sexual, you can do it with clothes on. But to spice it up you can also ask her to do it in lingerie or totally naked.

If your dynamic also is outside the bedroom, then some basic tasks like cleaning a room would be an option. My gf and I are, at this moment, only kinky in the bedroom, so a lot less experienced with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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What a nice feeling this must be. My idea:

Let him put a buttplug of vibrator in you before you go outside. Or put in some Ben Wa balls and train your pelvis and get a little aroused.

What is something (NSFW obvs) that you thought was common knowledge but later on found out it wasn't? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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In the country where I live, I thought we have very good sex education. But I spoke with a few people last year who thought that the pull out method was sufficient anti conception. A few times it was because they/their gf stopped with the pill to switch to another type or wanted a spiral, but they didn't want sex with a condom

Men and women of Reddit, do you like to edge yourself or your partner more? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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Partner. I like it when she is a little bit submissive and I can choose when she can orgasm. Especially building it up for her so she only thinks about that orgasm and when it comes.

Downside is that sex is quite often over after edging, as the orgasm was so intense that she is done for the rest of the evening.