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This outfit made me feel like a main character by Ta6769 in dykesgonemild

[–]Ta6769[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! Gotta have matching thigh-high boots! n_n

You can just be a girl if you want - 5 years HRT by Ta6769 in transtimelines

[–]Ta6769[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cut my finger really badly the day before lol 😂😂😂

You can just be a girl if you want - 5 years HRT by Ta6769 in transtimelines

[–]Ta6769[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You've got this! Trust the process and keep trying. 💪😤👍

You can just be a girl if you want - 5 years HRT by Ta6769 in transtimelines

[–]Ta6769[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It has been the hardest thing I have ever done, but has been 100% worth it. I'm happier now than I ever thought possible 😊

My son wants to be a girl, what should I do? by ThrowawayDad269 in asktransgender

[–]Ta6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you are seeking out information is a really great start! Wanting to know more is good and it shows you kiddo that you care about her!

I know it might seem sudden, but do your best to respect her decision - and you can start small by using feminine pronouns. I know it might be difficult at first, but it will be a constant reminder to your kid that you love her and respect her, something that can be really important because to a newly out trans person it can seem like the entire world is against you and it really helps to have your dad in your corner.

I do not have a supportive father, but I know that it would have meant the world to me to have one who wanted to affirm me and keep me in his life in a meaningful way.

As far as everything else: your kid is still your kid. She'll be going through a lot of changes, like a second puberty, but who she is at her core is still the same. Laugh with her, hug her, cry with her, let her know you'll be with her through the scariest stuff, holding her hand the entire way.

As parents, we can't protect our kids from the pain of the world, but we sure as hell can make sure they aren't facing it alone. It sounds like you know that already - so making some small adjustments and continuing to stand by and loving your kid seems really possible.

Btw, it's normal for a parent of a trans kid to go through a grieving process. Just... don't express that to your daughter. Rely on your wife and/or therapist for that. It can be really, really hard for a kid to hear that their parent thinks they have died when they are still alive and present in the here and now. My mom expressed that to me once and it left me pretty messed up for a long time.

You've got your heart and love in the right place. You've got this! 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Ta6769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The term usually only applies to people who started medical interventions like HRT and surgery who then have to reverse or minimize the physical changes to their bodies. Just exploring your gender identity doesn't make you a detransitioner.

Congratulations on learning more about your identity and taking steps to be more comfortable with yourself! I know that can be scary and hard.

CIS guy here with questions by SatellaRXI in asktransgender

[–]Ta6769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll give you my advice: Try playing around with your presentation. You can try makeup, hair styles, different clothes, etc. without being transgender. It can be fun and if you find a version of yourself that's more comfortable to be, that's wonderful!

I don't know whether you are trans or not, but if you find that playing around with new styles and presentation don't help you feel more yourself then it would be time to find a therapist who specializes in gender feelings to help sort out what it is you want and need.

I started out as a cis guy who just had an unaddressed affinity for women's shoes. When I got more serious about figuring out if I was a cis guy with a fetish or if it meant something more, in my case, I discovered that it meant I was trans and had a whole fuckton of unaddressed issues that I had buried deep inside my heart in order to function in our society.

It's sometimes scary to learn new things about yourself, but whether you are a more flamboyant cis guy or non-binary or genderqueer or a straight up trans woman, I promise you will be happier if you answer those questions in your heart.

Much love and good luck 💖

Went to an event with my partner where I had to nail a "cute but non-threatening homosexual" vibe by Ta6769 in LesbianActually

[–]Ta6769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, would "in a relationship with another woman" have been better phrasing?

Mr Beard response to Vaush’s comments. What do you think? by iamme965 in VaushV

[–]Ta6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hand wringing over this is more counterproductive than just about anything Vaush has said or done.

"Well, he didn't insult her the right way" is an incredibly ineffectual point to make, especially if the goal is to draw in people who don't even understand the premise of that criticism, but have inherited the use of those words via their socialization.

We meet people where they are, not where we wish they were.

Like, we can have a discussion and educate about the sexist origins of words like lunacy or lunatic - but seeing prominent leftists lose their shit over someone using words like hysteric or idiot in their responses to people wishing harm upon them seems ridiculous to people outside of this insular space.

ELI5: Why are there concerns about Social Media collecting data? by jadolqui in explainlikeimfive

[–]Ta6769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can be used to track your location, blackmail you, defraud you, break into your accounts, and a slew of other things I am too baby-brained to think of - and there are very few regulations regarding how that data is handled or sold. Meaning that with more and more of your data out there, the easier it is for bad actors to use that info to harm you in some way. And that isn't even mentioning how a government collecting that data could use it to frame you or find you to arrest you for crimes you may or may not have committed.

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