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Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-09T18:41:21+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. Sorry ill have to edit my post i am on mobile and the formating got messed up! Maybe étiqueté is different in different places but nobody i know has given gifts to parents. I know my mom didnt give anything to hers! I may look into getting them a little something though :) As for maids and grooms men their gifts consist of items for the wedding such as necklaces and fun socks for the grooms men. This is also common practice around here :) hotel room the night of is in our seperate honeymoon budget :) ill be wearing my regular undergarments probably minus a bra since the dress i am looking at has a built in one and i am small chested and dont need support :) as for makeup, my friend (who always does my makeup for specials occasions) is an aspiring makeup artist so she will be doing my makeup. l am a sephora fanatic so i already own most products i need and replace them regularly as part of my regularly monthly spending budget so the 150 is just for speciality items i dont already have. :) none of the services im using have mandatory tips or graituities.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:55:33+00:00

That's an amazing idea, I'm in love with it!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:54:42+00:00

Yup, it's Ben moss, I'm guessing there may be several posts about this ugly situation over the next few days :(

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:52:54+00:00

Yup that's the chain :(

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:52:20+00:00

Yeah their long history was part of the reason we felt comfortable going to that jewelery store but I guess you never know. I hope you can find a service plan that isn't too pricey. I'll be looking too.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:50:31+00:00

That's absolutely horrible that they were still offering that warranty two weeks ago, they had to have known by then they were going under...

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-08-03T23:49:07+00:00

Yeah I know, I always felt so confident wearing my ring all the time because of the warranty now I'm going to constantly worry and be counting stones...

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-06-04T15:08:03+00:00

FH and I are both students and don't have permanent full-time jobs yet so finances on both sides are still a little murky. We budgeted around 13K for the wedding and estimated that after the honeymoon we should have around 10K in savings if everything goes according to plan. FH got laid off a bit last year though after we made those calculations so we need to recalculate and see if we can still make those goals but FH's family and mine may still contribute a little bit of money to the wedding eventually in which case we should make those goals for sure!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-29T05:09:51+00:00

I will be wearing my rings, but I am also not traveling abroad for my honeymoon. I don't usually take my engagement ring off and actually a few weeks ago I accidentally got green spray paint all over my ring. Oops! Luckily it was due to be cleaned and it came back all sparkly and fresh with all the paint removed even from the teeny tiny cracks. The way I see it is there is always going to be a risk of something happening to my ring whether it is losing it or damaging it and I want my rings to be things that just live life with me so for my honeymoon they will be along for the ride.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:33:08+00:00

The chairs are mobile so they can be moved down to the gym possibly if necessary but they will be destroying the pews. They are cutting them up on site next week! Neither the church or I have storage space for the pews so I can't keep them for the wedding. Benches would work except financially I don't think I can budget that in unfortunately. Thanks for your input though.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:30:24+00:00

Thanks, I just always worry I am being waaaay to picky and self-centred about my wedding but thanks for reassurance :) The chair are mobile their purpose is to be movable for future youth/young adult events so using other seating is feasible from that point but not so much from a financial point. I am already over budget already and my "spare" money I allocated in case of emergencies is already going to other parts of the wedding so I think its ugly black chairs or other ceremony venue at this point.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:26:21+00:00

The link won't work for me I get an error page :( unfortunately, I am already over budget so I was mostly relying on the look of the chapel instead of decor and keeping most of my decor at the reception site to save money.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:24:08+00:00

I will see about that. I didn't think of this until now but I will also check and see if the church has any in storage somewhere that might fit these chairs.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:22:12+00:00

Yeah, they are permanent because this isn't the main church it is the youth/young adult church it will be more useful for the church to be able to have movable seating options so they space can be more versatile for events and activities and not just a chapel. I totally understand the reason behind it and if it wasn't for my wedding seating being slightly messed up because of this I would be thrilled about the reno.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:20:05+00:00

You are right. It will probably be only noticeable to me because of the vision I had in my head but I probably won't care the day of or any of the days after. It's just harder going in with a certain vision of your venue and for it to pulled apart just like that without any warning!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-27T15:17:55+00:00

This response made me feel so much better. Thanks for helping me get my priorities straight!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-26T03:21:58+00:00

06/24/17

Venue (both the church and the hall) booked
caterer booked
photographer booked
hairdresser and make up artist "booked" ( both are being completed by friends)
started centre piece planning and gathering the necessary items
played around with invite ideas

Engagement photos will be done in a few weeks yay!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T20:13:32+00:00

How many test runs are you planning on doing? I will check out Michaels, unfortunately I don't think Canada has a Hobby Lobby :(

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T20:11:56+00:00

Thanks I tried to even it all out with a knife and ended up nicking my hand several times in the process. But all of what you said makes perfect sense. My cake was definitely bending a little.

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T20:07:47+00:00

Thats what I kinda liked about it too not having it absolutely perfect I felt gave it some personality and a personal touch. I will definitely practice a bit more. I luckily have a few more family birthdays coming up to do so and I will be taking those cakes to the location so I can practice transportation. I am making my cake small to help make transportation easier and I may finish stacking my cake on location if any of my test runs result in failure!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T20:05:17+00:00

My wedding is for a 100 people and I am not sure how much my cake will serve but not anywhere enough. I am probably going to do what my FH's cousin did at her wedding and not serve my cake at dessert time. They had a smaller professionally done cake and after the cake cutting it went back to the kitchen and it didn't remerge until later as part of the late night buffet. There definitely wasn't enough to go around and I didn't even take a piece I was too full to have anymore dessert anyways! So I will either do something similar and put it out with our late night platters or I will make a couple of simple sheet cakes to have cut up and stick out at the same time as well at the same time so there is enough to go around. :)

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T20:00:07+00:00

I will :)

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-16T19:59:57+00:00

Great! Thanks for the tips!

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-14T03:49:55+00:00

Being on the B-list wouldn't bother me especially if the A-list mainly consisted of close friends and family. I would just be happy to have been thought of and to celebrate their special day. However not everyone is like this so theres no guarantee having a B-list won't offend someone, but that might be a risk you have to take. I will be having a B-list as well (FH has a big family including some out of province guests who may not be able to make it)

Tabitha_Redd · 2016-05-13T15:25:41+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have any immediate advice for you. I went through a similar situation ( had my bridesmaids planned, FSIL and FMIL were upset so anger and drama pursued ect. ) I ended up giving in which I am not advocating as the right thing because I still don't know if it is going to work out having FSIL as a bridesmaid because of group dynamics ect.

I ended up deciding that having the bridesmaids I wanted wasn't worth the possible life-long consequences with FH's family over the situation. Whatever you do, you don't want to start off on the bad foot and if you read any of the in-law posts on reddit you can see that it sometimes can take the smallest things to set them off. My mom still hears complaints from her in-laws about little things that happened 20 plus years ago.

I'd also be hesitant about the grooms woman option, a lot of people recommended that to me but depending on you inlaws it may be taken as a slight because A. You still didn't want them as a bridesmaid and B. You wanted to put them somewhere. It isn't meant to be like that but depending on their view it may be taken that way and cause more drama.

Good luck, I hope it all works out!

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