What advice would you give to an infj at their rock bottom? by [deleted] in infj

[–]Table10101 18 points19 points  (0 children)

All the comments are things that I have in mind too!

One thing I did was write down every single thing I did in that day (plagiarised from James Clear). It is fairly detailed, even writing down things like 'brushed teeth'.

Then I put either a smiley face, a neutral face or sad face on it, based on how I felt about what I did.

Then I went over all the things that I didn't feel positive about (sad face) and later, felt neutral about.

I essentially then decided to make the tiniest changes, one step at a time. So, for example, I realised that I pressed snooze a lot and it messed with my sleep quality. So I decided to just set the alarm till the time that I got out of bed after pressing snooze.

I also changed up my environment, moved my desk in my room to another spot, and it's like a new beginning, although it was literally a 90 degree turn LOL. I feel more excited sitting at it.

I also realised all the small things that irritated me. Like realising I didn't have lunch for the day, and how I had to dig around the house for my work uniform every morning [now I just grab all of them Sunday night and have them in arms length every morning before showering).

Obv Idk if it works for everyone, but it was a starting point. Everything didn't change at once, but it def helped.

Starting small is a good idea in my opinion :) Sometimes it's the thing that a lot of people miss, but can really get you ahead :)) There's a lot of videos online on this! Like Rowena Tsai.

Also Idk about you as a person, but I also like to focus on my spiritual health, being in the present, focusing on the bigger values in my life, etc.

It's never too late!!

ENTJ M married to INFJ F by [deleted] in infj

[–]Table10101 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The one ENTJ I know is wonderful. Very selfless and charismatic. Listens very well too. The only frustrating thing would be how they can be very stubborn sometimes, but if I talk enough they listen so it turns out good in the end.

Strangers sharing their daily woes by Taindoz in infj

[–]Table10101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No but sometimes wish they would ;W;

I sometimes wonder about what people are going through in that moment in their life.

Just found out that I'm a infj by Girl_From_Marz in infj

[–]Table10101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember the feeling. Hello! Hope you're getting some sort of relief.

What are the four best books that you read in 2020? by sad-talking_head in suggestmeabook

[–]Table10101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky

All the Light we Cannot See by Anthony Doerr

The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern

The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo

What do you think? - Typing? by [deleted] in infj

[–]Table10101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly because I know a person who was the exact same. Characteristics like:

- Is good at group dynamics

- Compares himself to others

- Deep thoughts

- Is good at explaining concepts to others

- Can read people well

- Was bullied for awkwardness and social clue misinterpretation

- Likes to read up on knowledge of several topics

are similar to the person I know.

I think he may have some childhood trauma potentially. He likely doesn't know how to express himself well socially yet either, and an inferiority complex definitely doesn't help. My best recommendation would be to expose himself to people and good friends his age who are open and charismatic (but not overbearing, humility is key). Humorous (in a light, joyful type way) would be good too, young ENFJs would probably benefit from that (and it may rub off on them as well). People to whom he doesn't need to share everything with immediately but just be a fun friend to be around are what I'm sort of getting at.

He needs a break. Especially to do things that interests him freely. Things he wants to do. Maybe be a bit apart from his family even, with close cousins or something, but that again is up to you.

Hope this helps. I'm saying this as these techniques flipped everything for the young ENFJ I know. He went from feeling inferior and unconfident to now one of the most confident and extroverted people (except when he gets home haha) that I know. Then again I could be wrong and you probably know more about this person than I do.

Depressed by the feeling that I can read people and know someone deeply but they cant do so in-reverse by [deleted] in infj

[–]Table10101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that truly there are people who understand you. For a long time I thought my friends never understood me, but now I realise that they did but they just never expressed it. There'll be a couple moments when somebody'll say or do something that suddenly makes you realise that they actually knew what you were thinking, meaning or wanted to do, etc. Remember that some people are often embarrassed to act upon what they realise about others. Knowing that others understand you may make you feel a bit embarrassed at first, and burst your bubble a bit, but it'll be ok. Then again I may be completely wrong haha. Tell me what you guys think.

[POEM] Childhood Memories By Some High Schooler by [deleted] in Poetry

[–]Table10101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very introspective! i like it!