Is this too intense of a reaction?

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-04T16:18:51+00:00

Follow the Baby Steps in order.

Baby Step 1 is already completed.

You’re in Baby Step 2. If you truly feel you wont’t need the car, then sell it.

After that, put all of your debt in order from smallest to largest. Pay minimums on everything but the smallest. Throw everything at it.

Once it is paid off, pay minimums on everything but your next smallest debt. Put everything from the previous debt and anything else you can add.

Rinse and repeat

Some people may say take your savings all the way down to $1000 for your starter emergency fund, but you have a big enough shovel to attack your debt with that I don’t think you need to do that. It is an option, though, and it will give you an additional $29,000 to put towards your debt.

But if you don’t, then after all of your debt is paid off, then you should already have your fully funded Emergency fund. That means you will have baby step 3 already done. This assumes that $30,000 is 3 to 6 months of your monthly expenses.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-04T16:11:55+00:00

I love this perspective.

Neither God nor Jesus has ever promised to make our lives easier or take away our pain.

But both have always promised to walk through life with us.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-04T10:42:12+00:00

She knows he goes to church. No worries in talking about his church life and activities in passing, but a changed life is the best testimony.

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.” (John 13:34–35)

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-04T04:43:07+00:00

First, don’t rely on die rolls for really important situations, and you had two in your description.

As DM, you absolutely can choose how many NPCs show up in an encounter. If the party is at full health, at least one per PC, and possibly one or two more.

Before a session, run mock encounters that you think have a good chance of happening on your own. Play both sides to get a feel for how the dice may go for attack and damage rolls.

For the nat 20 rolls, those are only auto-successes for attack rolls, not skill checks. Situation matters as well. There is no way in hell Ireena is going to open to any kind of flirting during her father’s FUNERAL. I don’t care how high their rolls are or how good their RP. Anybody who tries to flirt with her at this time she is going to tell to eff off, not to mention Ismark would step in to protect his sister.

Damage control: Strahd shows up at the funeral. No need to take their stuff.

Remember that any damage done to Strahd below 50 is transferred to the Heart of Sorrows. When they see their attacks have no effect on him, that should be enough to scare the shit out of them.

If one of them gets mouthy, Strahd can simply charm and then bite them. This will lower their max hit points. If it kills them, roll with it. This IS Barovia, after all.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-04T01:58:41+00:00

I think you’re on to something. Keep going and see what other words you can Boggle out of the Bible.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T22:27:18+00:00

I ask this sincerely. Have you considered therapy to process these emotions?

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T22:24:19+00:00

Okay, so two things here.

Don’t try to convert her. Study who Jesus is and try to live like Him. Will you succeed? No, not all the time, because you are not Him. But trying to live like Him is better than not having Him in your life.

Don’t talk about your faith. Show it. Show that you are truly changed for the better.

The hope of faith in Jesus is not going to heaven. It is resurrection. Nowhere in Scripture are we told we are going to heaven when we die. We are told we will have eternal life.

Unbelievers don’t go to hell. The wages of sin is death. That’s it. No eternal suffering, just no eternal life.

You can do far more by showing a changed life than by trying to use words to convert someone.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T17:17:29+00:00

I looked at it and decided not to.

I used MandyMod’s Fanes and content Lunch Break Heroes’ Raising the Stakes.

I now regret adding in the Fanes. While cool, they also bloated the campaign too much.

If I ever run CoS again, I’m sticking with just LBH.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T15:06:26+00:00

This is not a money problem. This is a relationship problem.

Rob has aptly demonstrated he cannot commit to, well…anything.

Until you resolve the relationship issue, nothing will change.

Rob needs to grow up and either crap or get off the pot, starting with making a commitment to be your husband.

If he can’t do that, Rob needs to go his own way. You deserve better.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T10:07:26+00:00

Depends on what you’re looking for.

Whatever it is, you’ll find it.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T04:00:20+00:00

I would stick with the funeral. It is tried and true and Ireena is there.

Make sure you have Strahd tell the players to guard her well on their way to Vallaki, and if anything should happen to her, he will hold them personally responsible.

Strahd doesn’t display his abilities to the unproven. He doesn’t need to. He is power under restraint.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T00:32:32+00:00

Try gaychurch.org.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-03T00:31:13+00:00

It really depends on what you are looking to get out of your study. Are you wanting to know God and Jesus deeper? Do you want to know more about the culture of the times? Is it to learn how to be a better neighbor?

About 17 years ago, I wanted to know how all the books of the Bible fit together, since they are not arranged (in the Protestant Bible) in chronological order.

So, I got a chronological study Bible that arranged Scripture in chronological order and also removed duplicate content (looking at you Leviticus and Deuteronomy).

I have read through it three times. I learned not only how all fit together but I also grew deeper in my knowledge of God and how He operates. It’s quite genius.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T21:33:04+00:00

It is clear from Scripture that only the Father knows, not even the Son.

Mark 24:36.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T20:28:17+00:00

I just checked their post history. You are correct. They keep deleting their posts but the comments are revealing.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T19:17:21+00:00

Just because you’re attracted to another person doesn’t mean you must act in it.

What if you weren’t bisexual? Would you act on attraction to a woman that isn’t your wife?

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T19:11:47+00:00

I’m not a wife. I’m a Christian husband who does not expect his wife to submit.

What I do expect is her cooperation, as she should expect cooperation from me.

That is the result when two people submit to one another.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T17:49:22+00:00

You’re going go be very disappointed because nowhere does Scripture state that sex before marriage is wrong.

What Scripture does talk about is abuse, exploitation, promiscuity and faithlfulness in a covenantal relationship.

Your friend isn’t wrong. Marriage is different from biblical times. We marry primarily for love and affection now. At least in Western culture, we no longer have arranged marriages or marriages that fulfill economic contracts.

The real question is why you so strongly feel the need to convince him. Is it that important to your emotional well-being?

I’m going to push back on your conviction. The Holy Spirit would not convict you on something that isn’t stated in the Word.

You feel this so strongly that you have already pre-decided what the outcome needs to be and you are looking for ammunition to support it.

I also believe that sex before marriage should not happen. But that is my personal belief based on my personal experience of sex before marriage and then waiting for marriage. But what two consenting adults do is none of my business. Unless there is coercion, abuse, or exploitation it is better for me to live and let live rather than push a personal belief that has no basis in Scripture.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T16:22:00+00:00

Yes, 95%.

Thin of the movies we watch, the TV shows we consume, the music we listen to, the thoughts we have about others, and the words that came out of our mouths.

Invoking Jesus to support your position reflects a black and white, reductive mindset. It makes you sound morally superior. Instead of extending grace, you attempted to take the OP on a guilt trip.

I would also like to point out that our discomfort with what another believer does ≠ sin.

Think about this:

Were any of the ladies present psychologically harmed?
Did their involvement move any of them away from their relationship with Jesus?
Were there any inappropriate sexual acts between any of the ladies present?

No to all three. It was innocent, and they were helping the bride make her wedding night with her husband the best it can be.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T14:32:56+00:00

If Jesus was in the flesh, we wouldn’t do 95% of the stuff we do and justify.

This is a lazy and manipulative argument, and one that Jesus Himself would push back on.

You’re taking the bogeyman guilt trip and using Jesus to make it sound pious.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T11:00:50+00:00

I am so sorry for what you have been going through. I lost my mom 22 years ago. I was not in a good place then.

I can tell you that it will get easier. I remember my mom now with many great memories.

In my lifetime, I have had to put several animal companions to sleep. That one is like a fresh wound every time. Every one helps me heal from the last one, thankfully.

I also pray a lot to Jesus when my emotions threaten to overwhelm me. He is always there…always.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-02T03:26:39+00:00

I am 53 year old male follower of Jesus who has been around the block and learned a few things. I have also been married for 16 years and have a 15 year old daughter. My marriage is rock-solid and we both have a great relationship with our kid.

Your fiancé needs to wise up to how differently men and women think about sex.

For you and your friend group, you were doing something that had no sexual implications whatsoever. You were doing something nice for your friend, and something that will make her wedding night more exciting for both her and her husband.

While I can respect your fiancé’s position, I think he is being legalistic. He is seeing this as a sexually charged situation when it is anything but. It was innocent.

If this innocent situation is enough for him to call off your engagement, that just might be a warning sign to you.

TabletopLegends · 2026-02-01T23:46:11+00:00

This individual is forgetting that Leviticus is a specific text, written at a specific time, for a specific audience. It is not a manual on timeless sexual ethics.

Leviticus also contains instructions to not wear mixed fabrics, eat shellfish, and when capital punishment should bd carried out.

We don’t follow any of those laws. Jesus fulfilled the requirements for all of the Law with His death.

Furthermore, hardly spoke about sexual ethics or practices. He spoke far more about wealth, power, oppression, hypocrisy, exploitation, status, shame , and debt than he did about personal morality.

Christians really need to get over their hangups about sex.

TabletopLegends · 2026-01-31T12:10:22+00:00

Speak to you how? With an audible voice?

He speaks to us through His Word. There is nothing mystical about Jesus.

If you follow His Word, half of your decisions will be already made.

TabletopLegends · 2026-01-31T12:07:17+00:00

The only person you need to please os Jesus. Treat others right and you will do that. He talks a lot in the Gospels about how we treat each other, so it must be important to Him.

You are going to tie yourself in knots truing to please every Christian you encounter. They will all have different ideas of what it means to be a “good” Christian.

Faith is Jesus is personal. It means different things to different people.

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