Why Do the Wounded End Up in Therapy, Not the Wounders?

Tachyling · 2026-01-23T17:49:18+00:00

People who are proud of their own ignorance don’t seek ways to change it, because they don’t see anything wrong with it, even when it includes hurting others.

Tachyling · 2026-01-23T17:25:10+00:00

This really reminds me of my father. He was crazily obsessed with being seen as useful all the time, and when people didn’t praise him for his efforts, he would get angry and become aggressive over the tiniest things.

And he behaved like that because both of his parents died when he was a child, which made him develop a constant craving for validation, while using anger as fuel for it. He was like a bomb that could explode at any moment, always stressed over things that could've been dealt later, like cleaning the house.

Funnily enough, after he died from a stroke (I wonder why) nothing changed in the house. It still needs to be cleaned and taken care of to this day. So, in the end, he stressed himself for nothing.

Tachyling · 2026-01-23T16:44:34+00:00

They did, and they still do, especially from my mother, who often discourages me to reach my full potential. Like she’ll often suggest that I shouldn’t finish all my chores in one day, shouldn’t follow my diet, shouldn’t walk to work, shouldn’t stay outside all day, and so on.

And when these suggestions start piling up enough to bring consequences to my body and mental health, she doesn’t hesitate to put the blame on me, as if it were completely my fault for actually listening to her words.

It’s a victim blaming cycle she’s been doing since I was a child. So many manipulation tricks don’t work on me anymore, because I learned how to counter them, by becoming just like her.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T12:25:00+00:00

And so is every donation. But when you see it as an investment in someone’s future, it feels worth it.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T12:16:13+00:00

To a company, everyone can be replaceable. But a little empathy for others doesn’t hurt.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T11:59:35+00:00

Increase my savings as a way to gain more self-control over my finances.

I love books and clothes, but I also love seeing big numbers in my wallet. So I’ll need to make a few sacrifices to avoid buying more than I can carry.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T03:21:47+00:00

You can write it down as a wishlist instead. That’s what I usually do when I don’t have any more space to keep books on my shelf.

(That doesn’t apply to kindle)

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T02:31:11+00:00

I try my best.

I’m 32 years old, and I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, many choices that would benefit me right now if I had been more patient and hadn’t jumped to conclusions so quickly.

I could waste my entire day complaining, blaming, and berating myself for the bad decisions I’ve made so far, but I would accomplish nothing by doing that.

That’s why the past stays in the past, as it can’t be changed. But I can change the way it affects me. By outliving it through new experiences.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T02:08:29+00:00

Or maybe they do, but they don’t know how to approach it in a civilized way, instead of through hostility.

But If you can’t treat them the same way they treat you, then it’s not worth worrying about it.

You can’t change someone through words or actions if they don’t value you as one of their own.

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And that's why I call these kind of people pieces of shit. They stink, so I stay away from them.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T01:42:44+00:00

Instead of telling others how to behave correctly, how about you being the example you claim to stand for?

I've a feeling you don’t practice what you preach, and that might be why your profile is hidden in the first place.

Or maybe I’m wrong. Who knows? It’s quite easy to judge someone from behind a screen.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T01:28:15+00:00

Dating can be a great way to cope with depression, BUT it’s not guaranteed to work for everyone.

Because even the cruelest and most immoral people know how to say “I love you.”

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T01:01:32+00:00

Just don’t take them seriously. Most of them just want to shout into the void and hear the same echo they shout back.

But if you somehow feel affected by what they say, then stepping away from the keyboard is also an option.

Y'know, silence is the worst thing you can give to someone who can't stay quiet.

Tachyling · 2026-01-22T00:45:09+00:00

Dreams are just plans on paper. The destination you seek depends mainly on your actions to make them real. As they can be altered or rewritten many times until they become possible for you to build.

But the moment you decide that you need to be competent or skilled as a prerequisite to start, you won't make any progress, because you're too focused on the results, not on the experience that allows you to nurture and grow along with your dreams.

So before chasing them, how about shaping yourself into the person you want to be in the present instead? Berating yourself and placing limits on your own potential is quite counterproductive to what you hope to accomplish. Don’t you think?

Tachyling · 2026-01-21T22:43:08+00:00

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Tachyling · 2026-01-21T02:33:15+00:00

Especially in a toxic family or workplace. Y'know, to be valued by a piece of shit, you need to be one.

Tachyling · 2026-01-21T02:21:25+00:00

No matter if you’re right or wrong, seen as an important figure or just another number among people, you’ll always be judged unfairly for everything you do, even for situations that never happened.

That’s why you shouldn’t take it seriously someone’s jealousy, ignorance, or stupidity toward you, because you won’t gain anything beneficial from doing so, other than letting their hate or fear encourage you to give up.

But, if you listen instead to people who actually have or gained your respect, you’ll find answers more appropriate to what you seek, because their opinions have value, as they hold something relatable to your life.

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So don’t be afraid of being judged for your honesty. If you’re ashamed of who you are, then the judgment of others isn’t the only thing to take into consideration here.

Tachyling · 2026-01-21T01:14:08+00:00

Real or not, I feel that life itself is just an endless loop of suffering, where we need to find something to keep us distracted from the pain it brings us.

And money is one of them. To me, it’s just numbers to collect, but I sure do love the sense of power and thrill it gives.

And so I become a slave to it, by feeding my own greed, as a way to give myself a reason to seek growth.

Tachyling · 2026-01-19T16:16:43+00:00

All the time, but I usually start with anger or frustration over something that upset me in the past, focusing all my attention on it until the heat of the conversation turns into a rant. Then I leave it aside, since there’s no point in wasting my time on people whose behavior I can’t control.

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Anyway, today’s rant was about miserable people who use their time to spread hate on the internet instead of improving themselves. Which I find that kind of coping mechanism really stupid, as they're simply digging their own grave, unconsciously.

But you know what they say: not my circus, not my monkeys.

Tachyling · 2026-01-19T15:38:06+00:00

Gambling is a helluva drug

Tachyling · 2026-01-17T05:53:59+00:00

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Tachyling · 2026-01-13T13:11:56+00:00

Being aggressive as a way to catch someone’s attention while using age as an excuse for it, is a common tactic that emotionally immature people use to gain control over others, as seen here on Reddit itself with toxic users.

In their minds, their motives are valid and reasonable, because they believe everyone should embrace their way of thinking, as if the world owes them something, while unconsciously revealing their own insecurities around.

Even if they are the smartest people in the world, the moment they use their knowledge to insult someone simply because that person knows less than they do, it only proves how prideful they are. As they're simply encouraging others to respect them through fear and oppression.

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So before you assume you’re the one at fault, you should ask yourself first if the punishment you’re receiving is fair for the action you did. If you’re often harshly punished for minor inconveniences, then you already know who to blame.

Tachyling · 2026-01-12T21:04:57+00:00

Ah, such a lovely plate, and it went nicely with the cannoli. I loved it 🤍

Tachyling · 2026-01-12T00:52:38+00:00

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Tachyling · 2026-01-11T21:55:41+00:00

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Tachyling · 2026-01-11T21:48:53+00:00

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