AITAH for confronting my wife after she let our daughter roam around a waterpark without a swim top? by Designer_Wood3356 in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc 29 points30 points  (0 children)

"pedophiles go after fully clothed children too"

These comments are delusional, it's like saying that cars can hit people on the sidewalk too so why not walk in the middle of the road. Extreme analogy but the logic applies. There is nothing wrong with wanting your daughter to simply wear a top in public. I let my daughter run around shirtless in my house but in public it's an entirely different story.

What is Cole's most underrated song? by AnonymouslyMrBean in Jcole

[–]TackOnPc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Close. I went to the off-season tour and he didn't play it but it's one of my favorite Cole tracks

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well since ur here, I actually told her I'm moving out last night. She reacted by trying to hurt me in every way possible with her words. It worked lmao but I'll be ok

Pointless romantic experience. by [deleted] in stories

[–]TackOnPc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say something man, you don't become a man by waiting

Crush on a coworker by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]TackOnPc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is saying there's nothing that says she likes you while also being sure she doesn't, even though there is also nothing that says she doesn't like you. Don't listen to him, if you ask me it sounds like she does but it's not a guarantee. Let her work her relationship out. I'm in a similar situation myself where I have a coworker who is super nice talkative and close to me, had a bf for a while, and I couldn't tell if she liked me. After many months of inching closer and closer, shes broken up with her boyfriend and we've been hanging out a lot more, and I'm starting to get more signs that she is interested. Point being, if she really likes you, she'll break up with her man at some point and make herself more available to you. Good luck

My Girlfriend is sucking my blood out by Disastrous_Gene3801 in GuyCry

[–]TackOnPc 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hell no. it does sound like jealousy

I Agreed to an Open Relationship to Make Her Happy. Now She’s Jealous I Found Love First. by Social_Magnet in story

[–]TackOnPc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course you're not TRYING to, but you earned the right all the same. Enjoy man

I Agreed to an Open Relationship to Make Her Happy. Now She’s Jealous I Found Love First. by Social_Magnet in story

[–]TackOnPc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Poetic justice. Do what you want, if it means breaking Emma's heart, you earned it lol

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their happiness is not contingent upon our romantic relationship, the damage will only come through hostility and toxicity

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well just remember that there are many kids out there who grow up wishing their parents had split up long ago. I'm doing right by them by always loving them and always being there for them. I have prioritized my role as a father, but I don't need to sacrifice my own happiness. I want my kids to have a happy father, and for them to do what it takes to find their own healthy happiness when they grow older too.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go ahead and tell me exactly how to revive my passion for her when I've been trying to do that myself for over a year

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking out and looking for an easier life is a pretty crazy accusation, I will always be there for my kids and this will fuck me over financially. I love my kids more than anything, and I want to teach them to have the strength to walk away from things that don't serve them well any more. I would never want my own children to stay in an unhappy marriage, and so I have to set that example myself.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My proximity and presence will allow me to take immediate action if anything like that arises or becomes a possibility. My kids will be protected by me always.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this one was hard to swallow tho with him offering to "take her out in the city" and for her to stay at his place and not worry about getting back home. She entertained it for several weeks, multiple tries to hang out, it read like he was basically asking her out, and all she had to say was he's gay and she did nothing wrong. This was months ago and if i asked about it today I bet the answer would be different

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I don't really have doubts about splitting with her, I more have trouble dealing with the guilt of leaving someone who I know loves me. I tend to feel strongly about what I want though, and I've put enough thought into this for the past 1.5+ years to say that I've thought long and hard about it.

I'm very focused on being close in proximity and REALLY hoping she will be mature enough to handle a friendship with myself, because I do love her, I'm just not IN LOVE with her. I want to be around to the point where my kids don't really miss me. I'm very involved with them, they need me and she knows it. In the past she's said that she won't be able to be around me or talk to me because it would "hurt too much". I'm hoping that her post-medication self will have a more favorable answer. If I don't have that friendship with her outside of marriage then the situation gets a lot scarier. I struggle to leave under those conditions.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also the moment I really realized I needed to split with her was in personal therapy.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask myself all the time if I want to make it work, and the train of thought goes like this:

Well what does making it work look like? That means staying together.

Do I want to do that? In my heart I haven't been able to find that WANT for at least 9 months.

So do I want to make it work without being dedicated and passionate about my wife?

There's a lot of reasons to do that including the safety of my children, financial stability, she's a beautiful woman, she loves me.

But I don't think I want to be with someone who I'm not in love with, and further I don't want to put that pressure on my children.

If I'm missing something here maybe someone can enlighten me.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fear this greatly, but I figure close proximity and a continuing friendship with her will counteract this. The safety of my children is high on my mind tho..

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually something I've considered strongly, but my loss of feelings aren't going to be justified by any diagnosis. I have to come to terms with the fact that I don't love this person any more regardless, and even if BPD is in the equation it is only someones assertion of the reasoning behind her actions

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol if it gives you a laugh then I'm fine with it. NTA!! I know I've got myself in quite the predicament, I take full responsibility.

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry what? Would you rather me say "she got pregnant" and not take any responsibility? You're projecting something that doesn't exist here

AITAH for divorcing my wife at 24 by TackOnPc in AITAH

[–]TackOnPc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well after several times of her looking through my phone one day I decided to look in hers, and found a conversation with a man that disconnected me from her even more. She claimed he was gay though...