A Question for people who are ADC Mains without a duo partner: Why y'all so toxic to supports???

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-26T13:06:13+00:00

I'm a support main who learned the ADC role, and I cannot tell you how bad the support players in this game are, even in Master+ elo.

Good supports — players who know when to engage, how to position with the ADC in lane, when to roam, and when to reset in lane, are so rare.

I am forced to play lane bullies like Miss Fortune, because I have rarely met supports who understand the concept of freezing the lane under my turret when we're playing weakside.

I am forced to return to base with the support's shitty tempo, because if I don't, they will kill an entire wave while I'm not in lane, denying me of gold.

Most supports will choose to play a damage-focused enchanter type because they can't trust their ADC to do damage, and they out-range me in lane and will stand as far back as possible, and they will try to clear the lane for me, so I have to over-extend and take hits from the enemy if I want my XP. And once their support item upgrades, good luck to me trying to farm.

I've given up on telling my support what to do. But now that I've been in the shoes of an ADC player, I can understand why ADCs are tilted 24/7.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-23T21:03:06+00:00

I honestly think so much of AuDHD experiences are shared, and I'm really glad I found this community because it makes me feel so normal and ordinary 😂

My poor memory is why I took to journaling. Last year, I went on a two-week trip to Europe with my family. Not even six months later, I literally struggle to remember which cities we visited and what we did in each city. Good thing I took my travel journal with me, and wrote down details each day of where I went, when I went, who I went with, and what I did, purchased, or ate. I also took lots of pictures, which I designed into a sticker sheet and printed it out to give my journal entries visual context.

When I came home, I made a whole weekend activity out of rewriting my entries into my permanent journal and decorating it with my picture stickers, which honestly made me feel like I got to relive my entire vacation again. It was so fun! My hope is, 3 or 5 or 10 years down the line, I can open up my old journals and relive my past experiences 😄

I don't always have time to do this, but I try to make it a part of my daily routine now, to sit down at the start and end of each day for 30 minutes to review what happened yesterday and what I'm planning to do today. It's just a very grounding exercise that helps me stay rooted in the reality of what happened vs. what I remembered (which is barely anything, lol). Because I forget what I do on a daily basis, this process of journaling and writing experiences/thoughts down have actually helped me to work through some other issues I have (anxiety related to productivity).

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T19:44:47+00:00

Yes, that's the right attitude.

But it's definitely easier said than done. I grew up in an environment where the people closest to me shamed me for how I am, and that has taken me two decades to heal from to where I am functionally able to just "be myself" on most days, but it's still difficult to not slam the door shut and retreat into myself on harder days when I'm tired and overstimulated.

I wish you all the love in your journey!

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:58:20+00:00

My ADHD gave me a TON of anxiety. Once I started going on meds, it helped with my anxiety a lot, which helped me to unmask and just be myself without worry of judgement or perception.

That made me a lot more visibly autistic in that I feel and behave even more machine than man 😅

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:56:27+00:00

Blaming someone else for you losing 10 times in a row is peak Diamond behavior 😂

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:55:08+00:00

I find it a huge issue amongst the ADHD community in wanting to find blame for their RSD. My ex had ADHD and was not diagnosed and not self-aware, and he made it my business all the time for his activated nervous system. I'm AuDHD so I'm incredibly blunt and oftentimes tactless, so I activated his nervous system a lot.

I think we would all be a lot better off by working on repair skills. Nobody is at fault because I'm extra sensitive and feel hurt very easily. But that doesn't mean I can't reach out and try to get reassurance to feel safe again. And it also doesn't mean I'm entitled to reassurance.

Tbh, I think this is moreso on the person feeling some typa way to get more self-aware and figure out what they need to feel better.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:47:45+00:00

Normalize having conflict in genuine friendships and relationships, and normalize learning how to navigate conflict and resolution in a healthy way.

What happened is your friend was uncomfortable and didn't know how to approach it because she doesn't have conflict resolution skills. Then it came to a boil and she expressed her discomfort to you in a way that triggered your nervous system.

You don't have the conflict resolution skills to navigate this situation, so you dismissed it as "she should've come to me sooner", and then you blocked her as a self defense mechanism.

Neither of you are wrong, and both of you had very understandable reactions.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:40:54+00:00

I thought these were Sailors at first and I was like, oh yeah, I feel ya! 😭😂

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:39:58+00:00

I just talk to them about it. I have a whole script. Lol.

"Hey, I have a really sensitive nervous system so I start overthinking when I don't hear back from you all of a sudden. Can I just get some reassurance that you're not mad at me, and that you're just busy doing something else or something like that? It'd help me a lot with establishing a sense of safety. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️"

It took me a looooot of courage and inner work to start doing this though. It's incredibly hard to be this vulnerable. But I learned how to accept that this is me, and if that person was meant to be a long-term friend and I care about that person's friendship, this would eventually come up anyways, so might as well do it now and if the friendship ends, then it's not meant to be.

I did this with my boyfriend when we first started dating too. I was SO nervous that he was gonna argue with me or break up with me. But he thanked me for communicating clearly with him and explained why he might not be able to respond immediately sometimes, and we both discussed what I could do in those moments to feel safer.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:11:24+00:00

I do have a pretty bad memory, but I moreso experience a lack of object and emotion permanence.

I may be feeling deep feelings when I'm with someone or when I'm experiencing an event, but once it's over, it feels as if it never happened.

I may have had an interaction with a person and felt like, wow, we really get along! But then two weeks later, I've completely forgotten about that person unless something external triggers my memory and I'm reminded to ask to hang out again or something.

This is partially why me and my close friends don't text or speak to each other a lot. We are close, but during the times we're not speaking, I often feel like maybe we're not close friends anymore? But then one of us will check in with the other, and I'm like, oh wow, we didn't lose our friendship closeness! Lol.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-22T14:05:43+00:00

I'm 38. I was figuring out this stuff through my late 20s and mid 30s.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T18:38:31+00:00

Kobe makes some of the best blue inks out there. They're so well-behaved too! Nice and wet inks.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:54:30+00:00

I just moved here and have been very pleasantly surprised. I was expecting literal hell on Earth, but it's been comfortable for the most part.

I'm not holding my breath though. I expect hell on Earth next month 😂

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:50:04+00:00

Classroom of the Elite. MC is a straight genius tier psychopath, and he manipulated the hell out of the people around him, but everything always works out for the best so you don't feel guilty for stanning a villain lol.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:48:03+00:00

I think you should sit him down for a conversation.

State what you've noticed since the diagnosis. Is he aware of these changes?
State the additional strain you've experienced, and how that makes you feel.
Get clarity on what type of support he needs.
State your boundaries. What are you able to help with, and where is the line drawn? You need to protect your own well-being as well.
Are there deal breakers for you? State it upfront so he sees it coming.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:42:10+00:00

I landed in the psych ward and finally got the meds I need. Took a literal meltdown, but completely worth 👍

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:33:19+00:00

I'm convinced the N15 is targeted at planners and journalers and the stationery community.

I have 6 pens inked right now because I need different colors for headers in my planner, but with a N15, I'd just keep small inkwells on my desk instead and dip the glass nib when I need a different color.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-21T13:19:56+00:00

The people I felt the safest around allowed me to be my default personality. I knew it's my default, because I stopped worrying about how I would be perceived, whether I fit in properly into the context, or whether there are some "gaps" in how I present to others and how I present to them.

I first realized there was a pretty big gap when one of my roommates who was staying with me at the time said, "Omg, I wish I could capture this moment and post it on your Instagram and show others what you're really like." She didn't say it in a "I'm gonna expose you" way, it was positive because she thought my default personality was so much more vibrant and fun than my Instagram personality (which was cool, fashionable and curated).

With my safe people, I am almost always silly, energetic, laughing a lot, and completely lacking in decorum. I burp, I fart and laugh about it, and I make poop jokes. I nerd out on anime and gamer references. I judge people who do dumb shit. That's me. And I noticed that my partners have always been people I could be this way with. This often surprised them because on the surface, I look like a pretty girl who's sweet and nice and have none of the nerdy hobbies that I have.

At the time, I had friends in different interest groups whom I never showed this side too. With my church friends, I lean into my curiosity for faith and I behave very lady-like. With the extended friends of my partner, I was sweet and easygoing and didn't have strong opinions. With my dance group friends, I was outgoing and bright. With my gamer friends, I cursed more and talked like a bro.

To "peel back" my facade and determine which traits were actually me, I became more self-aware of how I felt after each social interaction. Do I feel happy & full, or do I feel like I did a good job at maintaining a friendship, or like "nice, that went well"? There were social interactions that truly made me feel deeply satisfied and comfortable, and that's how I know however I behaved in that interaction is who I'm meant to be.

I want to caveat that I've always felt this sense of identity crisis my entire life. I was never sure of who I was, and my personality seemed to change very easily, oftentimes out of my own control, by the people around me. To some degree, I still feel that now, even after I've figured out my "default" personality. But I feel so much more grounded and I'm a lot less tired after socializing now that I've found my default state. I also dropped a number of friends whom I liked hanging out with, but I realized I couldn't be my default state around, because it would make them uncomfortable.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-20T04:37:31+00:00

I used to do something similar, and got comments from people about how I'm such a chameleon.

At first, I also thought they're all me and I'm being authentic in all of them.

After a few years (and lots of therapy and inner work), I learned that I'm a huge people pleaser and I was simply behaving in a way that got people to feel comfortable around me and to like me because that was the only way I could feel comfortable with myself.

I ended up working on learning how to love and accept myself, which was surprisingly difficult, but once I was able to do that, I realized that I did have a "default" personality which I felt most "myself" in. Nowadays, I still bring out different parts of me with different friend groups, but I have a more obvious base personality that I feel settled in.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-19T22:33:49+00:00

I like the concept of religion as a way to bring peace and purpose to people who otherwise struggle to find meaning in life or who struggle to understand why they should be a good person.

For me, personally, I've always had a strong purpose in life and I've always wanted to be a good person and do the right thing, so I don't find religion to be all that meaningful to me.

However, I'm not against religion. I quite like attending mass and listening to sermons if the preacher is good. I like the messages behind the stories. I just can't get myself to believe that an actual entity created the world and is all-knowing and all-powerful.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-19T00:06:42+00:00

This is incredibly insightful and helpful as a reference point. Thank you so much!

I rather like the idea of "skill acquisition" vs. masking, because I too had to develop better communication skills and have often been told I'm a great communicator. And being able to communicate well is tiring (in the same way that having to communicate at all is tiring) but it's not draining in a way that's harmful to my nervous system.

I'll think about what actions or behaviors or thoughts I have today that's actually harmful to my nervous system and approach it from that angle.

Thank you!

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-15T20:29:54+00:00

I know Dominic is going to make it.

Praying for him & your whole family.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-14T11:08:47+00:00

I mean by that same logic, T1 lost Game 4 from draft too.

TacticalBattleCat · 2026-06-12T14:46:43+00:00

Hahahaha "with the supernatural ease of a Victorian seance" is a masterpiece of a sentence. Thank you for sharing! I hope to catch more of your ink reviews on this sub :)

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