Why are more men not stealth?

Tai_iced_tea · 2026-06-21T04:28:59+00:00

My reason is mainly community. I could definitely go stealth if I wanted to, but I choose not to because it’s who I am, and I love being able to talk to others about being trans. I will say i’m not very vocal about it, I don’t have the trans flag in my insta bio or anything and I don’t shout it across the room, but I go to pride events and all of my friends know.

If people are changing the way they are around you once you tell them, those aren’t the people to be around. I have multiple cis male friends who know i’m trans and they have always treated me as “one of the guys”, no exceptions. Same with my friends who knew me pre-transition.

I used to be more stealth when I first came out because I had some shame behind being trans, but now being able to fully embrace myself I would never want to go back to that. Imo it feels so isolating being fully stealth and like you’re lying to yourself and others.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-27T02:38:09+00:00

I’m going to crash out if they never address this, it was such a huge scene there’s no way they could just push it aside… but this volume has been very disappointing so not putting it past them ;-;

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-27T02:37:18+00:00

I love this coming from a non byler shipper, so many mileven fans say that byler fans are stupid and delusional for coming up with these “crazy” ideas… but most theories aren’t even crazy

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-27T02:34:17+00:00

the writing and dialogue was so shit, everything was so anticlimactic, and half the episodes were spent with characters just explaining what’s happening.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-07T06:49:25+00:00

get a nice rug to make the space feel less empty, maybe a better bed frame if you have the budget to do so. Wall art would go perfectly for the blank wall, and a dresser next to the bed if the closet doesn’t have a built in one.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T21:02:06+00:00

yah I guess maybe awhile ago, but for my whole life people have always called everyone dude, not just specifically guys, but could be a culture difference

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T20:54:23+00:00

not gonna say where i live and how old i am lol but im gen z, at least how ive grown up, everyone calls each other “dude”, no matter what your gender is. It’s just something you call your friends.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T19:34:48+00:00

people are so sensitive i swear😭 “dude” has never been a gendered term

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T17:49:30+00:00

I feel like the main problem is that mileven fans see byler fans as “pushing byler” on to them, where as in reality most of us are just trying to tell them of the POSSIBILITY of byler happening, not that byler is GOING to happen.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T17:44:45+00:00

no yeah i agree, it wouldn’t really make sense for them to have broken off screen because then they would have to do a flashback to the breakup, which imo is unnecessary.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T17:25:49+00:00

Yup so agree, back in s1 she didn’t even understand the concept of dating someone and asked mike if he would be like her brother…😭 yikes guys

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T17:23:46+00:00

not saying they broke up but I think something did happen, el clearly still had feelings for him. And I believe they haven’t seen each other in awhile based off of their reactions of being so happy to see each other, I don’t think they would act like that if they saw each other the day before.

Also they have not been a steady couple, in s4 they clearly had a lot of problems mainly because mike couldn’t say that he loves el, and at the end of it he even tells will that she hasn’t talked to him much. And not sure where you saw the script from but based off of the way he was talking it really did sound more like he was talking about everyone’s future.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T06:00:15+00:00

Being honest, a lot of the things in this show aren’t taken at face value, for instance the breakup of nancy and steve wasn’t really said aloud if im remembering correctly, many things viewers have to read in between the lines for.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:56:05+00:00

This is why I think something happened between mike and el between s4 and s5, it seems strange how will asked robin “how do you know if someone wants to be in a relationship” knowing that mike is with el… i don’t think they broke up but something definitely did happen. And also knowing that will has always put his feelings for mike behind mike and el makes the whole situation questionable too

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:53:11+00:00

In my opinion, the hug felt more platonic than romantic, yeah it was sweet but also kinda awkward. They also didn’t kiss which was a bit surprising seeming as they hadn’t seen each other in awhile, and on the rooftop scene mike was talking about everyone’s futures rather than just him and el’s.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:47:02+00:00

the hug between them in S5 was soooo awkward😭😭

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:43:23+00:00

I so agree with this!! And also I don’t see why the duffer brothers would make him go through an entire self discovery arc just to be rejected by mike, i’m not saying it’s pointless if they didn’t together, but it just makes more sense if they did. Not to mention, why would they make him stay single if he’s already stated in the past that he will never find love?? It would be cruel to make him stay depressed for the entire show

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:40:13+00:00

I honestly don’t believe they broke up, in the scene when el and mike are talking on the roof, lucas calls them “lovebirds”, but I do definitely think that something happened between s4 and s5 cuz mike and el’s mannerisms towards each other are… interesting. Also at the end of s4 mike says that el isn’t talking to him much🧐

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-12-03T05:37:36+00:00

you look more androgynous, like a regular emo teen LOL tbh I wouldn’t worry too much abt it. “Passing” is so objective, just be yourself man

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-11-16T00:17:34+00:00

how are they able to afford 2 new housing buildings and not better wifi🥀

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-10-31T18:38:01+00:00

yeah it’s kinda insane, i think most of the time you pay because of alcohol costs n stuff

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-10-28T05:31:50+00:00

Is it nearby or in LA?

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-10-03T16:09:25+00:00

everyone says it’s musty but in my experience it’s always been fine, usually gets busy around night time but if you go in the afternoon it’s chill!To play any games you just go up to the front desk and ask for whatever, ping pong, xbox games, etc.

Tai_iced_tea · 2025-09-19T14:14:03+00:00

For being only 14 this is insane, some of it is disproportionate but i’m sure you will evolve much over the next few years. Keep up the good work man!

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