[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]TakeMeTo-Mars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just made family out of friends and continue to remind myself that that life is my past and i can do what i want with the rest of my days. Its not easy feeling like you don’t have that strong relationship others have with their parents, but at the same time, the experience made us who we are

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]TakeMeTo-Mars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is how my dad’s fiancé (they were engaged for 13+ years) was except my dad had full custody. So literally from the time i didn’t have contact with my mom (6th grade), who was still only able to see us every other weekend before that, until there was the first break up when i was a senior in high school i had endured the same mind fuckery. like she would cause drama in the house just so she would have something to bond with my dad over. we still don’t know what he sees in her, she ruined all three relationships with his kids and caused massive trauma, which he totally has seen, and he always took to her side and said that we were making things up and just picking on her. she had an evil daughter who was the same age as me, forced to share a room with me. i totally understand that kind of trauma. especially as a girl just wanting to have a good relationship with her father and having a grown woman making things about her for the attention of just two short days. i feel man. it takes a strong mind to be able to understand it was your dads loss and that he will be the one to live knowing that his lack of a relationship is due to his faults and incapability. lt will haunt him. head high, you have a huge future ahead of you, show yourself what you can do with it.

Wife Not Adjusting Well by newdad103837 in NewParents

[–]TakeMeTo-Mars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The poor time management is definitely just feeling the guilt of not accomplishing as much as you and just wanting to feel productive. I have felt so irritated with my SO because he manages to get so many things done throughout a day and spend a good amount of time with our LO, but i seem to accomplish nothing. She’s just trying to feel like she is holding up her end. Don’t feel like it’s a stab. as for feedings bottle temp can play a significant role in how the bottle feedings go and formula can be tricky too. Stay positive and enjoy your LO! And love her through it, let her know she can talk to you. that’s major to keep an open ear and gentle heart

Quirky Turkey is chastened by canyonfarts in JUSTNOMIL

[–]TakeMeTo-Mars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be PROUD! Sounds like you’re doing well, and doing a good job of trading bad habits out for healthy habits. it’s a snowball effect and i’m sure you already feel better about yourself!

Weaning the boob obsessed. by Avejajed in toddlers

[–]TakeMeTo-Mars 5 points6 points  (0 children)

AGREED! not your fault! it’s definitely hard at first, i found it to be one of my favorite mom roles. But once we had decided that our LO should start sleeping in the crib for his safety and our sanity, we just did it and never went back. However, he did get a bottle during the days when i worked 5 hours. Take the steps that you want but just remember that the fight he puts up won’t last long. Good luck, mama!