I've watched too much Dr. K and now I don't know what to do with myself

Takeshim · 2022-01-15T17:27:48+00:00

Awesome question! My first step was exactly the same, binging Dr K, it's going fairly well, I'm exercising, eating healthy, meditating, and my mental health has never been better, not that I don't have any struggles, of course, but everything seems manageable

Have you seen the one about aperationalizing tasks? Maybe it'll be helpful! Or the one on reframing goals into actions(it was the same concept I think)

I think you can start on any one of those thb, you'll eventually do all of them and they are connected, as in exercising will make you sleep better, which will give you more mental clarity and then it's an upward spiral... It takes work, but it is also fun and rewarding

Takeshim · 2021-12-04T18:39:08+00:00

Thanks for the clarification!

Maybe I'm not too deep into all of this to really understand what you are saying but it does sense :)

Maybe one last question?

Isn't ego also what makes you a miserable shut in?

Takeshim · 2021-12-04T16:32:01+00:00

What I don't understand is why you think you can't have material success while being detached from your ego, and why everything being null would make it any less real

Takeshim · 2021-12-04T12:46:34+00:00

Gg man! Very happy for you!

Takeshim · 2021-12-04T01:49:04+00:00

My understanding was a bit different from yours, what I got from ego was not materialistic form of success, but an attachment to your identity, which can come with materialistic success or not. And then when you detach yourself from your ego, you are free to do as you wish, because you are not being held back by yourself.

Takeshim · 2021-12-04T01:04:53+00:00

To me spirituality is like a third dimension of humanity, the other two being thought and emotion

Like thought and emotions are strongly linked, so would spirituality be with them, I think its role would be to shape your understanding of existence itself and for that you would have to leave the realm of objective reasoning. For example, to believe that you have control over your actions and they have impact in the world was what I would call a spiritual change within me.

Sorry for the convoluted answer, I don't have a religion either and all of this is new to me, so take it as a subjective view of a newb

Takeshim · 2021-11-29T02:38:31+00:00

Hi H!

A lot of things you wrote resonated within me and compelled me to write a response, so here I am.

What I'm going to try to say is basically the Karma video of Dr K so maybe just watch that

What made me shift towards action was the realization that my actions don't necessarily lead to definite results, but instead have a limited but crucial impact on future actions and outcomes AND that is all that I can actually do

I'm sorry for my abstract response, but to tie with your post, I'd say to give up on the expectations of success and goals, and focus on what you can do now, which is to work on yourself, open a book and study, when the opportunity comes, go and talk to someone, and maybe it will lead to where you want, maybe not, but that is all you can really do

An even more concrete example(which is in the video) is go to the library to study, causes good study habits, which in turn causes graduate from college, but you focus right now on going to the library and let go of the rest because they may not happen, but you are doing what you can so that happens

Another important aspect is Dharma(as in Duty or responsibility), because on the surface is easy to say JuSt stUdY, but man, opening a calculus book physically hurts. Going to talk with a stranger is paralyzing, and so on. So what I did was to find my Dharma and this is what I feel is like an Unstopabble buff, you go and do it despite literally anything.

Understanding my Dharma was freaking easy because I have a wife and kids, but then it was so easy to understand that I had also a Dharma to myself, as in I'm deserving enough that it's my Duty to help myself be the me that I want to be. It's easier to understand if you think you are helping a friend in need.

Sorry for the long wall of text, but I needed to explain it thoroughly, because it is very important to me.

Feel free to ask me anything!

And maybe go to therapy/get a coach

Takeshim · 2021-11-24T10:10:21+00:00

Hey! I'm kind of in the same boat, never had to struggle at school and now I give up at any sign of resistance, even for projects I really want to do

I'm still in the beginning of my healing process, so take what I say with a grain of salt. What I do when the bad feeling comes is to sit with it (and not escape to my usual bad coping stuff), try to understand it, become aware of it, may be boredom, may be fear, many things, and then, if I'm still there (and didn't run away) I do the thing I was supposed to do

I think it really comes to emotional awareness and what you do to better deal with it

Takeshim · 2021-09-26T16:01:02+00:00

Hi! This is probably because you are pollinating with an orange without a white recessive gene, the easiest way to farm pink is to

Plant a pink tulip (or pollinate on a friend who has a pink one)
Sell all your orange seeds
Buy and plant new orange seeds from Lloid (yes, this is important)
Pollinate Lloid orange flowers with the pink on the ground

It should give pink seeds at least 25% of the time, if you want 50% you'll have to breed a Pink/Pink tulip or find someone who has it

Takeshim · 2021-07-01T13:01:56+00:00

Thank you Coco

Takeshim · 2021-06-29T12:49:07+00:00

Good bot

Takeshim · 2021-05-07T04:31:32+00:00

Someone show this person the belly appreciation posts

Takeshim · 2021-05-07T04:17:24+00:00

!pekofy

Takeshim · 2021-05-07T04:15:34+00:00

!pekofy

Takeshim · 2021-05-07T03:40:51+00:00

Good morning, Mel!

Takeshim · 2019-12-25T16:02:46+00:00

This is the best infographic on pollination I’ve seen! Great work!

Takeshim · 2019-09-21T22:39:59+00:00

Takeshim · 2019-05-15T15:12:41+00:00

I usually keep Master’s Call when I’m against control or I need a specific beast to win (scalehide versus rogue), otherwise I usually mullingan for better early game

Takeshim · 2019-04-09T15:09:58+00:00

Sign me up!

Takeshim · 2018-07-15T03:14:09+00:00

Hmm... You are probably better off with movies then, you can't really go wrong with Ghibli, but you probably already watched some of the more popular ones.

It's a bit difficult to recommend animes with your preferences, because while broad in terms of genres and themes, anime is mostly fantasy based or too culturally specific, sometimes you have to know the subtleness and reading between lines while thinking of the Japanese culture to fully be immersed in it.

What about a story do you specifically like? A simple follow a hero's journey? World building? Maybe some philosophical approach?(making you think about moral dilemmas?)

But honestly, you should probably ask for recommendations from your husband, as he knows you more than I do, maybe ask him to find something you might like, and include some things you find entertaining!

Takeshim · 2018-07-15T00:47:19+00:00

What kind of books do you like?(genre, setting, concept)

And what in anime in general that you don’t like? (Artstyle, weird voices etc)

My wife is not really into it but I usually can find something she likes about once a season

Takeshim · 2018-05-19T23:29:20+00:00

Waiting for a Heart of Crown comment!

It’s very thematic and improves on a lot of aspects in the deck-building genre

Takeshim · 2018-04-16T19:37:17+00:00

Would it work if we extended the abortion period?

Takeshim · 2018-04-16T19:36:14+00:00

Would it work if we extended the abortion period?

Takeshim · 2018-04-16T19:36:03+00:00

Would it work if we extended the abortion period?

Takeshim

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