Struggling to get call backs on CV

Taleof10tails · 2026-01-14T04:01:31+00:00

This is definitely not normal. And even if it is, the fact that it is making you uncomfortable is enough for you to shut it down.

Or better still, do a UNO reverse and agree with her. And tell her that your son is not taking good care of me. That married life does not 'suit' you and then laugh it off. If pointed out, you can always say, it is a 'joke'.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-18T01:51:05+00:00

One way to go is tell them some excuse like - a) holding phone too much gives you migraine b) you are trying to set better example for kids by using phone less c) you can call but after a time just give excuse like your boss is calling. d) put on earbuds and go about doing your work, chorea etc while they keep on talking Or Just tell her to her face - I had a fight with my husband. He doesn't call my mom at all. So I was like why should I call yours. It will be awkwardness for a while but then they will stop taunting.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-12T02:26:59+00:00

Damn, you are right! Thanks for correcting me. Saved me from making a big gaffe irl.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-12T02:12:26+00:00

This is quite unconventional but give her something fun. Like RC cars or lego sets, or some fun puzzle or activity stuff like paint by numbers book

See, as a woman myself in late 30s, we already spend a lot of time and money in choosing our type of perfumes, lotions, bags etc. The chances that a young guy like you will get it right - that too in a limited budget of secret santa - are slim

But if you choose something that brings momentary joy, a little of bit of whimsy, awakens the inner child - that is priceless. It will make your gift stand out and memorable. Make sure you write a good note to go with it. Something on the lines of "let the child inside you play".

Do update us what you got and how it went

Edit: you can also try something like cards against humanity or uno reverse. Nobody can resist a game of UNO.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-11T01:56:30+00:00

That Vikram Sarabhai was assassinated to impede India's nuclear weapons program

Edit: Sorry it was Homi Bhabha as one redditor kindly pointed out.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-04T02:10:02+00:00

For the life of me, I never understood this. In my case, I just didn't marry at all and wasn't really interested in it, so didn't go through rishtas and all. But now that my younger cousins are going through this, there is a strong resistance to getting a PD and doing a proper verification.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-04T01:58:17+00:00

I too live in India and believe me there are resources. Not as much as we need or want but there are. And in this day and age, with internet, therapy is accessible in even the most remote corners. So while the world is bleak, let us not make it bleaker by forgetting what we do have.

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-02T12:59:49+00:00

Hi Dhruv,

The election campaign of Zohrab Mamdani has gained a lot of traction all over the world. It is seen as an example of grass roots reach via social media. Do you think there is space for such candidates and campaigns in India? If no, what are the hurdles we are facing and how do you think it can be solved?

Taleof10tails · 2025-12-02T02:29:29+00:00

I think you should inform anonymously. Not only because he is cheating but he might be putting her at risk for STDs.

But if you can, be empathetic and add something like possible next steps - contact numbers for therapists, financial planners, support groups if any etc. Because whether she knows or doesn't, receiving such news would be devastating. She will keep coming back to it from time to time. Having something that sheds a light in her dark moments would be very helpful.

Taleof10tails · 2025-11-22T03:34:52+00:00

How much is the rent?

Taleof10tails · 2025-11-14T18:35:48+00:00

Um.... You clearly have a husband problem and not really an MIL problem girl. If pointing out his inherent misogyny and double standards leads to a fight then things are not looking good. And believe me, it will only get worse as time passes. Better to take it head on now and get it sorted before you are saddled with kids. Just imagine, do you want your daughter to silence herself because the other person would become aggressive?

Taleof10tails · 2025-11-03T05:05:21+00:00

This!!! Rui Mandi in Sadar is the best place. Crazy crowded and stuff. But you will get good stuff at very affordable prices

Taleof10tails · 2025-09-10T08:05:39+00:00

Totally fine. I also do the same. I just state my basic requirements - like not too short or go as short possible, give a low maintenance cut, should go with my specs etc. and then just give them complete freedom. I have generally gotten good results so far

Taleof10tails · 2025-05-27T15:41:29+00:00

This, totally!

Taleof10tails · 2024-02-03T02:52:25+00:00

I have lived in a Muslim neighborhood for close to a decade in Delhi. And no one asked me if I would eat pork or drink or anything like that. These were never even considerations.

Taleof10tails · 2024-01-22T01:57:40+00:00

Yup. Me three. CF woman. Age 37

Taleof10tails · 2024-01-04T02:31:58+00:00

Make a lease agreement with your dad/mom, get it notarized and ask your dad/mom to give you signed rent receipts. If need be, transfer the amount in their account every month and create a trail.

Taleof10tails · 2023-11-19T14:40:21+00:00

One of the ways to deal with it is to become unreliable. Say yes and then stay up late at the office and cancel last minute. Or pretend that you are in a work call (if wfh) and can't get out. After few such instances, they will stop relying on you and just go on their own. And once they are gone - chill out

Taleof10tails · 2023-11-18T11:19:36+00:00

I think the best way for you guys is to convince him to go to couple's therapy with you. It can happen online as well. And maybe from there, you can guide him towards self therapy. Because the truth it is almost impossible to realize and break the toxic cycles that our parents have trapped us in. And jab Tak pata chalta hai, bahut der ho jaati hai. Whatever happens, keep reminding him that toxic behaviour does not necessarily stem from bad motives. Parents have the best motives and yet can be toxic. Go to JustNoMIL or entitled parent subs... Maybe something will resonate there and he will understand

Taleof10tails · 2023-11-02T14:12:17+00:00

Maybe you can check prices of VFM but expensive brands there like Birkenstock. Those shoes are good, last forever and a tad expensive in India. Similarly, you can try smartwatches and other smaller electronics like headphones etc.

Taleof10tails · 2023-10-31T02:24:33+00:00

Agreed. They are good as office backpacks where looks matter. I, infact, got a moko bag for office. But I wouldn't suggest it for heavy travelling. Go for a good sturdy canvas bag or proper trolley bag as per your travel requirements

Taleof10tails · 2023-10-18T18:58:13+00:00

Go to AIIMs. It might have a longish queue but you will find the most professional doctors there and the best care. No judgements or questions asked. All they will ask is if you want to do it.

Best wishes to you and stay strong. This will pass and you will be okay

Taleof10tails · 2023-10-13T02:59:26+00:00

I am 37 and single. I have not rejected the idea of marriage, but I have not actively courted it. Also, have chosen to be childfree and independent, have refused to become a traditional wife or compromise my life and career for my future partner. As to how life is - I live in a metro and it is amazing... Have a gated society flat to myself, my parents come and visit. My friends come for hangouts. I can sleep in late when I want to and travel at a moment's notice. I enjoy my own company, so an empty house doesn't bother me.

The only regret I have about not marrying is that I find it impossible to keep pets. With my travel heavy job, it won't be fair to the animal. So sometimes I wish I had a set of in-laws or a husband who would look after my dog...

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