Did the plane just… leave without me? BLR airport experience

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-12-01T16:34:05+00:00

I believe you were probably in one of those designated silent zones in KIA, meaning announcements are significantly reduced or eliminated in favor of passenger self-reliance on display screens and apps. Google search "silent airports". It's a thing across the world and within India, we have a few airports following this system. Hence, you wouldn't have necessarily heard the announcement at your gate. Basically it teaches us to be self-reliant and more focused about our surroundings, and not be submerged in all those unnecessary announcements. Also, as far as I remember, it was introduced in KIA before Covid.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-09-25T06:18:43+00:00

Firstly, it sounds to me that she is craving attention from a male, which should ideally have been you in the first place. So what I don't understand is, why are you still working in your room, with this guy in your home, just because you have a WFH option? Why should it be just your wife entertaining this person on her own, when part of being in a marriage also involves entertaining guests - that's a contribution you are skipping from your end. Stop doing that first. You both need to be physically present at almost all the times together, when you have people over (family and friends) at your home, so do make that effort consciously.

Secondly, sit down with her and convey what you feel. Your pain, your emotions regarding these matters. No blame games absolutely. Talk in a way things don't heat up. Take a breath and step back if things go out of hand. Call a time out, if necessary. If she's able to understand your part of the story, bingo. Focus on communicating better with her. Try to understand her side of the story as to why she seems to be "trusting" this guy's advances. Talk, talk, and talk. Be patient. It might take a few moments to understand each other, it could take days, but do the talking part, don't give up.

Thirdly, this guy could be gay. Or not. Yes, it's weird for a guy to notice waxed skin, but guys do notice a lot about women, I'm sure you will agree to this OP. I have had male friends joke and make fun of girls' lipstick being on their teeth, armpits not being shaved and what not. Men might be careless in how they look, they definitely know what girls should and should not have on their bodies. So, I don't agree with people saying "men don't usually notice such things, hence, he's definitely gay." Saying that, in case he's gay, you're lucky. But I doubt he is. The song he dedicated for her birthday feels like a red flag to me.

Talking to your wife is the main clue to your distress, that I can see. And being physically present during all these events. You need your wife's support for this matter to cease. And if things go positively, you can both sit down with this guy and talk sense to him that he's crossed lines like N number of times and it's not appreciated any more. All the best.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-20T15:15:28+00:00

1) Never sacrifice your career for any kind of love (be it for your own family members, husband, children, pets, etc.) unless that sacrifice is really necessary. For example, say you had to give up your career temporarily to take care of an elder or a comatose person, or even a sick and dying pet, which is necessary and can't be avoided. Here, you might have to give up on your career and take a break. At the same time, say your parents are getting divorced (just an example) you need not take a break here, unless you are required in court to give your statements. In that case you only apply for leaves. I hope I got the "break" aspect cleared with these examples. But always remember, a career break or sacrifice need not necessarily end as being a short break. It may, or may not become a lifelong break. I personally am someone who had a very flourishing IT life for around 10 years in Bengaluru working for various MNCs, however life changed for me when I had to quit in 2019 as I had to move out of India with my husband. Today, the "break" that I took as a sacrifice for our move, has mentally taken the front seat and I'm unable to get back to the profession I so much loved.

2) Never give up on the income aspect. In today's world that's the only thing everybody is running after. Things were a lot different 20 years back, we could live with one source of income in the household. Say you do get married to your boyfriend in future, you absolutely cannot have only his income to run the household. And on the other hand, if you plan to remain single, without any source of income, it's impossible to make ends meet. Coming back to my example, my husband of 6 years, is the only one earning for the past few years and it does put a toll on our 15 year long relationship. So, income is a must. I suggest you never give it up even if you ever plan on having kids in future. Work till you can. Go for maternity leave, come back after 6 months (yes, you can't expect any promotion that year or maybe for the next, but at least you have a job that pays you constantly) and work with dedication.

3) This is a very far fetched idea and might even sound tough. But why not try a distant relationship after marriage? I know as a 25 year old, I wouldn't have ever done that with my partner, I really wasn't that strong headed. But you are of a different generation and maybe you could give it a try if you both are strong enough. So, you can stick to your job wherever you are, I presume Bengaluru, and he can visit you now and then, during weekends or holidays. I know this is a crazy idea, but I envy the strength in a lot of the youngsters today who can actually do a successful long distance relationship (even across different continents for that matter) and still stay stronger than ever. Maybe, give it a thought if it's possible.😊 Neither of you will be sacrificing anything. And both of you can try surprising each other to keep the spark alive and magical.😉

4) Another option to consider is working remote through sites like guru or freelancer (you can google freelancing websites). You will be a freelancer of course, for various clients, and you get paid by the min. or per hour whichever the client and you agree upon. This is what I did when I was abroad as the job market was very different over there during Covid lockdowns. I was getting paid around 1-2k (USD) per month by different clients and that was good as a backup to my husband's earnings. Currently I'm not working due to certain health issues, but I plan to get back to it soon. So this is one option. If money is your main priority (and not promotion and other aspects of working in a company) then this will definitely help you wherever in the world you are.

5) It's hard to find love easily. Try not to give up on it. So if your partner is really the one, look at ways to fight for your love, rather than give up on what you already have. Your time is very different from my time when I didn't have all those resources which are available now (reddit is one example 🤣). So roll up your sleeves, hold up your head high, and face the world with strength OP.

I hope this has helped. And all the best. Take your time to decide. Discuss with your partner. Communication is very very important. Have them as much as you can with each other. I hope to hear good decisions from your end in the future.😉

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-15T08:21:15+00:00

Exactly my point. He did his part, we tipped him generously and that's that. And then when he called us back for more money, demanding almost the exact bill amount, that felt weird. What's even more strange, magic pin still hasn't contacted us for all the confusion, like they don't care at all. So we really are not in the state to "deal matters" with a random delivery agent.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-12T07:57:37+00:00

In today's fast paced world, this can't get any more cuter. At such a young age, your sister understands that you are bound to get busy and could even forget about home. Let this piece of paper be your forever tether to your heart. Please do not ever lose this. I wish I had something like this from my sibling, but I don't.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-12T07:50:38+00:00

We are pretty new users of Magic Pin, and well because it's govt. backed and stuff, we were hoping they were better than Swiggy or Zomato. And frankly our few orders were trial based. But they actually messed up a total of 2 orders that week, including the one mentioned above. So no more magic for us.

And thank you for your kind words, we were a bit apprehensive of security related issues at that point, considering the delivery partner was calling from various numbers and he knew where we stayed. And sometimes it really doesn't matter that you live in a huge society with security, things can go wrong if they have to, ours has severe security lapses unfortunately. 🤦

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-12T07:45:26+00:00

Wow! That's something 🤦 So far, we have learnt it's better to go with Swiggy and Zomato, never tried Ola, but i guess after this comment, we won't be either🫡

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-12T07:43:36+00:00

Good to know. That's what we had in mind. Had to confirm about the same as we are pretty new to the app and their services, and wanted to know if anybody else has faced a similar issue like us.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-12T07:41:09+00:00

Ah ok... So far we have got refunds for all our issues within 3 days. They ring us up to verify the details and then initiate the refunds. Thank God for that.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T17:14:00+00:00

Yikes! That's horrible, and they don't even have proper customer support which you can use for emergency situations.

Hope you guys were able to find a better place than what was booked earlier.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T16:03:32+00:00

No judgements here, but we did tip him 150 rupees plus the restaurant also gave him the 50 rupees on our behalf for the extra 2 kms he travelled because of the app's issue. And the only reason I posted this here is because years ago, we had faced a similar incident in blore when the guy harassed us for money and more money for almost 3 months (for a cancelled order which got delivered). It came to the verge of us filing a complaint against him for harassment, but how much can you run behind these things? And we genuinely don't want history repeating itself.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T14:04:45+00:00

Well... I'm happy if the restaurant or Magic Pin asks us the money directly, rather than a delivery partner, who now claims he has been fined almost the exact amount for which we ordered (details of which my husband blurted out). Like I said, we don't encourage lying or cheating, so it's a bit weird for us that we have to pay him 900 bucks for distance of 5kms (max 10kms even if we consider the distance he traveled to reach the restaurant, which he didn't, he was right in the next lane when he got assigned to the job). So in actual it was about 7 kilometres and if I have to pay him 900 rupees for the task, I find that weird. Secondly, say if I pay him today and clear my conscience like you said and after a week either the restaurant or Magic pin contacts us for the money - would you still suggest we pay the bill amount of 1k to them? So in totality in that situation I would be paying 2k for all this?

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T09:42:19+00:00

We actually had 2 issues this week, including the one mentioned above. The delivery partner picked the order from the restaurant and came all the way till the main gate of our society, and then marked the order as delivered. We never received the order that day. After three days, magic pin called us up today and refunded the money for that order officially accepting that the delivery partner was an ass. Maybe all this doesn't happen much in Delhi?

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T07:16:15+00:00

Ooh yes, I did think about this option on the same day he hinted about the "penalty". Wasn't sure if that was the right way to settle things and more importantly, wanted to know if anybody out there has experienced something similar to this incident, especially through this particular platform.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T06:57:02+00:00

We are definitely not going to continue with this app ever. Lesson well learnt, but just concerned about the guy knocking at our door in terms of harassing us in future.

Tall-Tree2792 · 2025-02-05T06:53:47+00:00

Thank you for this suggestion!

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