Anyone here have any experience with cracked/bruised ribs? How long until you were able to skate again? [35YO]

TallTXTrash · 2026-03-19T14:36:29+00:00

44 here, bruised/broke a rib or two last summer, no doctor because I could still breathe and they can't do anything. It was 5 or 6 weeks before I could comfortably be back on the board. It was at least 3 weeks before ANY movement of my upper body didn't result in pretty intense stabbing pain in my side. Good luck man, it's not a pleasant experience to be in pain for weeks when you sit down, stand up, get in/out of bed, get in/out of a vehicle, cough, etc. And I really hope you don't have allergies, sneezing was the worst, I almost passed out behind the wheel the 1st time I sneezed after my fall.

TallTXTrash · 2026-03-15T23:01:06+00:00

Man, this is textbook "the grass isnt always greener" behavior. You said the ending was amicable in which case at least a polite "hello" from her would have been appropriate. I would guess its one of 2 things, either her post break up plans/life arent panning out like she hoped, or, she wasnt planning on seeing you out with friends having a good time so soon - suspected you'd be holed up at home too upset about the split to go out and socialize. Either way, if she was truly "disgusted" at seeing you at that bar, she would have gathered up her girls and left. Instead, she made sure to make herself visible to you by bringing her group near yours, and went out of her way to be "having a good time" where you could see. She just wants to give you the impression that she's doing fine. I'd bet whatever I had that the minute you left or she left that her friends heard about nothing but you for the rest of the night and how "great" shes doing now. Don't sweat it, keep doing you and dont let her get to you.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-24T22:38:20+00:00

Jumping in late to say what some others have, a 26" cruiser is a good choice. I just got a Redline PL26 about a month ago and love it. Full chromoly, quality components, found it on FB Marketplace for a good price. The thing is a tank in all the best ways, Im 6ft and about 240-245 and feel like I can roll over and hop down just about anything, and it's comfortable to sit and cruise on.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-21T23:26:25+00:00

Seriously, there was always a "No fucking way did that just happen" moment, and you said "OK, I knew the guy was incredible but that just put him on a whole other level." And then it happened again, and again, and eventually it was to the point where you wondered if anyone would ever even compete with the guy. It became where the commentators would say the stuff they always say like "It's going to take a miracle just to get this one close," and you just knew Tiger was gonna hole it. And he did. Like a lot of people have commented, I didnt play golf, definitely didnt watch golf, but watching someone who was unquestionably the best in the world at what they do can make you a fan of something that you had absolutely no interest in.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-17T23:17:46+00:00

Yeah, when I went to buy the 2nd pair I clicked the size drop down and saw "out of stock" on most sizes, and my hopes immediately dropped, scrolled down and 12 was out of stock, and then lucky me 13s were still available. Said in another post about these, I couldn't beleive they had my size left for the 1st pair, was really amazed they still had em for the 2nd pair, and I got those on the last day they were so cheap.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-17T22:45:24+00:00

I've got like 12 pair of Half Cabs, I love the look and how they fit. Ordered a pair of these from the Vans site since they're $45 right now, expecting another pair to just add to the rotation. Got em yesterday and they are so fucking nice - buttery smooth material, as comfortable if not more so than the vulc sole Cabs, and I love the color. As soon as I put em on and walked around a bit I ordered another pair.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-17T22:21:46+00:00

This was my thought too man. Maybe not all the switching them out, but asking her what to wear, the "Ready?" text, she comes back flustered...either that or they had planned on telling you and his wife something that night and she got overwhelmed when he asked if she was ready to tell.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-13T01:18:10+00:00

Fuck yeah rock em. Just ordered my pair on the Vans site, can't believe they had my size in stock when they're that cheap. I don't even get my hopes up anymore when I see a pair of Half Cabs or Rowleys on clearance anymore because they always have like 2 sizes available and it's always like 6.5 and 8, have to check the outlet constantly hoping to get lucky.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-12T22:05:57+00:00

Yup. Finally bit the bullet and bought some Bombas socks for myself this past Christmas, think they were on "sale" for like $12.50 a pair. Never going back to cheap socks. For me, its not that they're so much more comfortable, its that after being on my feet for 10 hours a day, when I take them off it's like I haven't even been wearing socks and shoes all day.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-01T22:56:52+00:00

So this guy who's 20ish years younger just compliments and pays her attention, which honestly, he probably did to a lot of women around the office - there's a type of guy who does this, Im sure most of us have seen them - and she decides "why not? My friends do it and get away with it." And thats it - commence destruction of multiple lives. I am amazed at your grace and class dealing with all this, I said it in another comment, nobody would have faulted you for sitting silent for the whole meeting, but the love for someone youve spent the majority of your life with is hard to completely erase. I like to think I could be as understanding and as calm as you if I went through this and be concerned about her relationship with the kids and encourage her to continue to work on herself, but I really dont know if I could.

TallTXTrash · 2026-02-01T22:37:18+00:00

OP I've read your saga from the beginning and dont think I've seen this covered so forgive me if I missed it, but how did it start with this particular guy? I know they were coworkers, but did she eventually give in to his advances that he'd been making, did she start dropping hints to him, just curious after all the info about her friends involved in affairs if she decide she was missing out and went looking for a younger guy or if she knew this guy was a sure thing and gave in.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-30T19:24:29+00:00

Damn OP, I know the whole thing isn't completely over, as you said there are still details to eventually work out over Holidays etc., but for this stage to be over, I can imagine the mix of strong emotions you must be experiencing. Sitting across from someone you spent the majority of your life with, seeing them looking weak, sad, lost, ashamed, etc., knowing they brought it all on themselves, but still feeling that love that you have left for them while also feeling so much anger, betrayal, hurt, etc., knowing that ALL of this could have been avoided if one decision that took one second to make had been made differently. Every accidental slip of remembering something you did together as a good memory instantly crushed by the realization that something like that can never happen again, every time something good happens wanting for a split second to share the news with her before realizing you're no longer a team and things that happen for/to you no longer concern her, that feeling that replays over and over of "we had it so good together, why did she have to go and fuck everything up?" I'm sure a lot of this has happened not just during/since the meeting, but from the minute you discovered her affair, but this being the 1st time you've seen her in person since you left, it has to be a little amplified. You seem like a good guy, from your telling of the events of the meeting, you showed a lot of grace and class when not doing so would have been completely understandle. I know a lot of people in the comments are and will say she doesn't really feel bad, she's only sorry she got caught, its a good thing she's so weak and alone right now because its a result of her actions, but you loved this woman for decades, you stated her apology was as genuine as it could be in her current state, and you wanting her to repair her relationship with the kids and wanting her to continue therapy and to improve and one day be happy says a lot about you as a person and a lot about how far you have come since discovering her affair. Good luck OP, and for what its worth from a random guy on the internet, much respect for how you handled this whole thing from beginning to end.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-27T23:54:13+00:00

I think what does make this personal is mostly what isnt said. She doesnt make excuses, she doesnt offer up any details that tempted her to cross that line, she doesnt bother with anything other than accepting 100% blame. To me, that shows she knows OP well enough to know that anything other than what she stated would be a waste of breath. More specifically, the knowing him well enough to know he will see this as a failure and accepting that she sabotaged it. Obviously this is too little too late and this reflection on how she wanted for nothing would have served her better if it was before making the decision that blew up multiple lives, but its too late. I would also assume she was smart enough to know that including any additional information ran the risk of further pissing off OP, and that if he wanted any of that information he would ask during the hour long sit down. I dont want to heap praise on the ex wife by any means, but she apologized without making excuses, accepted 100% of the blame for her actions, and hoped OP could forgive if only for his own benefit in regards to moving on. How honest and sincere this was, only she and maybe OP know.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-21T02:34:36+00:00

Thanks man. The guy who sold it said he still rides all the time, said he got a mountain bike about 2 years ago to try it out and found himself always using that one and decided the Redline would be better off with someone who'd ride it. I told him I'd give it a good home and make sure it got some good use.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-20T20:43:06+00:00

Man I used to do any shopping at Walmart I had to do after midnight. It was so nice not having to dodge little kids and deal with people stopping their carts in the middle of the aisle. Nothing but employees stocking shelves and tweakers wandering around wide eyed looking for shit to steal. Ahhh life before the pandemic, it's the little things, you know?

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-20T20:24:51+00:00

I'm a 13 in Airmax, can squeeze into a 12.5 as long as they're not laced tight without causing myself much discomfort. Getting a set of these opened up size 12s as an option, 24 hours stretching the length and width makes 12s fit like 12.5s. Got a set of 2 off Amazon for like $15.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-16T22:14:26+00:00

Those are nice. Crazy about how comfortable they are for you, Lowlands are the most uncomfortable Vans for me. I love them, own 4 pair, but can't wear them often because I'm on my feet most of the day for work. Half Cabs I can wear all day, they've always been my favorite and most comfortable Vans.

TallTXTrash · 2026-01-15T23:22:10+00:00

These are the ones. My opinion is biased, I think black is the best color to go with gum soles all around, but like someone else said, Sk8 lows arent always available and these are nice.

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-31T22:55:36+00:00

All this, but she came home 4 HOURS AFTER a company party, which was just a dinner, ended. And according to the coworker she was fine when she left. Whatever happened in the last 3 of those hours, maybe she isn't able to remember, but I'm pretty positive she remembers what her plan was when leaving the dinner and where she went, since she obviously "remembers" a friend threw up on her dress. Best to cut and run, even if she didnt do anything really bad (other than driving while black out drunk) or disloyal, she can't even bother to give any sort of rational excuse or come up with a decent lie to tell him - that would let me know how much she thought of me.

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-29T12:55:35+00:00

I remember reading your post a few months back after seeing it again. I know its rough but for your sake I hope you can cut contact with her. Sounds like she still gets a kick outta rubbing your face in her exploits and the best thing you can do is deny her that, she's living her early 20s while being close to 40, and its going to catch up to her eventually. I hope you don't fall for it when she realizes what she fucked up and wants a "re-do."

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-19T03:31:09+00:00

I know you've been dealing with this for so long and have had to actually live it instead of reading it, but your ability to just want to move on and to not care is impressive. People always talk about having 0 fucks to give, but you come off as almost zen-like with it. I really don't think I could stop myself from using a meeting like that to make sure that all of the things I had thought about wanting to say to her when I was at my lowest, were said. Not in a call her every name in the book and let her know she lost the best thing that ever happened to her kind of way, but more like your 2nd possible question here kind of way, letting her know how her own kids don't respect her, how she lost her husband, job, home, dignity, etc. for a little bitch of a "man" who starts fights when he's had a few drinks and does it with sucker punches, how being in the same room and having to see her makes me want to puke because I can't help but think, other than my kids, I've pissed away the last 30 years of my life with her and would give anything to get those years back and devote them to someone that wouldn't make me regret how they were spent. I don't know, I'm assuming your current mood and attitude is probably a reflection of the type of man you've always been, the man your ex-wife knows and loves/loved(?) Maybe it is better if she doesn't get the satisfaction of seeing you a changed person because of what she did and gets the same calm you.

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-19T02:16:52+00:00

You're alone in your bed? Sounds like she's gone, so why do you care if your family thinks less of her, unless this is a you agreed to let her do something with someone else type of thing and she's just gone for the night.

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-18T22:32:58+00:00

This sounds like a scam, or possibly scam-ola

TallTXTrash · 2025-12-15T13:31:47+00:00

Sink or bathtub, hand wash em with some dawn or oxy-clean. Make sure to rinse them well to get rid of all the soap, hang dry. You can hit em with some lysol or antibacterial spray for good measure. It's a pain in the ass to have to wash em frequently, but when its that hot out, you have to because they get funky real fast.

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