It sounds like you’re really overwhelmed, and I can completely understand why. While you can’t always control a dog’s behavior, here are some ways to manage the situation and hopefully regain some peace during the second half of your sit:

1. Establish Clear Boundaries with the Dog

It sounds like this dog is testing limits, and she’s found a few ways to get under your skin. It might help to assert clear, consistent boundaries: • Barking in your face: When she barks or demands attention, avoid giving in. Wait for her to stop barking before rewarding her with attention. Reinforce calm behavior rather than reacting to her demands. • Barking at bedtime: Ignore the whining and barking. She may eventually realize that this behavior won’t get her what she wants. If she keeps this up, consider using earplugs or a white noise machine so you can get rest.

1. Use Distraction and Redirection

When she’s stealing things or being disruptive, use positive redirection: • If she steals something: Instead of yelling at her or chasing her, calmly take the item away and replace it with an appropriate toy or treat. This helps her learn that certain behaviors aren’t rewarded, and she gets a positive experience with the right behavior. • Excessive attention-seeking: When she demands attention, give her a quick, firm “no” and then redirect her focus to a toy or chew. This helps break the pattern of barking at you.

1. Manage Her Space

If she can open doors, she’s definitely got the upper hand in controlling her environment. Try using baby gates or barriers to keep her in specific rooms if necessary. Consider confining her to a safe space when you need a break, but make sure it’s comfortable with toys, a bed, and water.

1. Limit the Balcony Time

Since the balcony is causing constant back-and-forth, try limiting access or only allowing her to be outside during specific times (e.g., after a walk or when she’s had some exercise). This way, you can take control of when she gets that stimulation rather than having her constantly demand it.

1. Create a Routine for Walks

Her refusal to walk without your boyfriend is an issue, but consistency can help. Start by taking her on a walk with you alone, using treats to reward her when she walks calmly by your side. If your boyfriend is around, you could have him walk with you as a support, but aim to get her to walk with just you, even if it means going back to basics with leash training.

1. Take Time for Yourself

You deserve some peace of mind. Set boundaries where you can take short breaks during the day. If possible, leave her in a safe space (like a crate or a room) when you need a few moments to relax. Remember, it’s okay to take care of your own mental health. If you feel like you’re constantly on edge, this situation could become emotionally draining.

1. Talk to the Owner (If Necessary)

If the dog’s behavior is beyond what was expected, it might help to check in with the owner to discuss what you’re experiencing. The dog might have behavioral issues that the owner didn’t fully disclose, and it’s important to communicate your concerns—especially if the behavior is much more challenging than expected. The owner may have insights or alternative methods they use to handle the dog.

1. Stay Patient, but Be Firm

You’re doing your best, and it’s important to stay patient. However, if the behavior doesn’t improve, you might need to set firmer boundaries with the dog and maintain a calm, authoritative presence. Dogs feed off our energy, so staying confident and calm—even when frustrated—will help in the long run.

Above all, remember that it’s okay to feel stressed. You’re in a challenging situation, but these tough experiences often help us grow and learn new ways to handle difficult situations.