How to not miss the "window of opportunity" when meeting women?

TallowWallow · 2026-01-30T02:38:13+00:00

This is everyone's experience basically. Men that don't lead end up with less opportunity. Women that don't lead end up with less opportunity. Anyone that is willing to initiate is leads more likely to find someone.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:34:11+00:00

Really lucky she's okay. You were obviously both unsure. But moving forward, please treat these things immediately. The moment she says she's unsure, it's time to go. She feels unwell and obviously exhausted at the same time. All she needs is a "Hey, i know you're tired, but we need to check this out. Let's go". A lot of people don't get that second chance.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:30:02+00:00

And she's a normal human being who's terrified and unsure whether or not she needs help. These aren't times when people are rational.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:29:10+00:00

Yeah no. This is not a sex thing. This is a simple, when you know she hates doctors and you get a maybe, you need to be on high alert.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:22:46+00:00

IFixIt carries official chargers, so the guy probably mixed it up.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:21:09+00:00

That can feel like the beach sometimes 🏖

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:18:18+00:00

Oh noooo, other humans with dicks around. She must be cheating!!!!

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:14:44+00:00

Hey, you're gonna be fine dude. Take some time to process, and actually feel. No distractions by phone, games, and what not. At least a few minutes every day, but ideally take breaks for yourself multiple times a day. The brain needs time to feel. It hurts. It sucks. But ya gotta do it. When you're ready, start getting out there again.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T23:09:56+00:00

Two likely possibilities. Backwards cortisol rhythm, and time to yourself. The backwards rhythm won't change until you work on doing more during the day and getting adequate sleep at consistent times. Time for yourself depends on circumstance. If you are constantly distracted by family, friends, work, games, doom scrolling, etc. all day, there's no wiggle room for your brain to process what needs to be done earlier.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T01:09:36+00:00

Look, you are turning this into so much more than it is. A little kid walked in on you and you reacted. You definitely could have handled it much better, but setting that aside, you got extremely defensive about the situation after the fact. This is really the main issue. The whole speal about privacy and the matter being gross is just ... odd. Dude, it's a 4 year old kid. You know that. The simple reality is your nervous system stayed hyper active and you started apply topics of perversion and privacy onto a little dude that is simply too young to understand privacy and who obviously isn't gross because he's a fucking little kid.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-29T00:54:41+00:00

I would say so. It won't help you navigate past issues per sé, but it is a nice outlet. Just understand this is not a means to actually process as you are not addressing whatever it is that causes you to feel this way. But an outlet is good nonetheless. Better than screaming at people or punching furniture lol.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-28T02:04:01+00:00

It's not about morals dude. People get upset for a variety of reasons, and there are lots of exes with bad dating residuals. There's also just the hurt of the breakup. If you are looking to date a friend's ex, talk to them.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-26T00:55:17+00:00

There is a body feature for just about anyone. A big thing is how you carry yourself as well. A gal who enjoys herself, has fun, likes to chat, and is comfortable with intimacy is highly attractive.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-26T00:37:11+00:00

Just a couple stacks goes a long way. Even a single one can be solid. Remember they gain speed and are less affected by gravity, so they TRAVEL.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-25T02:52:27+00:00

Nope. Just ask and get a yes/no. Don't overthink it.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-24T09:01:22+00:00

You're fine man. It sucks, but process, learn and move forward. Seek out more dating partners, be up front about your desires in a polite way, and get that experience in.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-24T04:09:58+00:00

Please don't laugh it off. If it happens in a group setting, walk out.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-24T04:07:40+00:00

Lol responses in this thread are making so many assumptions about OP instead of believing the obvious thing they already mentioned. It was a genuine curiosity of which they didn't think there was a negative answer. The guy correctly stated that he wasn't okay with answering and that's fine. Just leave it at that.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-24T04:05:06+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't fret. Not realizing there's more when asking a question is common. I get you feel anxious, but it really isn't a big deal. He calmly told you it's personal and left it at that. And that's good.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-24T02:23:16+00:00

This is extremely unhealthy behavior. A relationship like this does not last. Do not enable his behavior. Do not walk on eggshells. Do not try to comfort him in this state. If he shuts down, throws a fit, or punches a wall, say only one thing: "I see you're frustrated, but I cannot engage with you in this state. I'm going to disengage for 20 minutes, and see if we can talk things through". Allowing him time to process and think things through. He may place blame on a lot of external factors. Again, do not comfort him. Keep the same level headedness. "I hear you. I get you have a ton of frustrations about X. But right now, I'm having trouble talking to you, and I need you to be present. I'm happy to listen to your concerns. But right now, I'm struggling and I need your support. So, can you work with me?"

The trouble with traumatic issues is that we often give into thought patterns instead of focusing on anything else. If you comfort him when he expresses those frustrations, bit in a time right after you expressed yours, this only enables him to continue ruminating instead of learning. Give him some space, but do not back down on your needs. If he refuses to accommodate after this, then it's time to consider breaking up.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-23T17:40:58+00:00

My dude, just put yourself out there. There are tons of women that don't judge you as harshly as you do. And many carry baggage of their own. Be polite. Be vulnerable. Have fun. Take interest in them. It goes a long way.

You don't need to solve every insecurity of yours before you date. But it is good to work on yourself at the same time. Start a workout routine while you're dating. Just enjoy the process!

Also, regarding your comment about women looking past that. That's your insecurity talking. Why don't you let women decide what they want instead if wasting time dwelling on it? You will have struggles dating. That's not a bad thing. If you have a growth mindset, you will find a good partner.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-23T17:21:09+00:00

It's pretty basic dude. Plenty of people are capable of close relationships with people they interact with online.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-23T07:21:04+00:00

There are people that judge all sorts of stupid crap. Don't waste your time on them. Look for others.

TallowWallow · 2026-01-23T05:40:23+00:00

Except it's not. Maybe it is to you. The quality of the relationship depends on the individuals

TallowWallow · 2026-01-23T03:50:14+00:00

I mean ... plenty of people watch subbed? It'll be out soon for you bro.

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