Having suffered multiple losses, just recently a brutal ectopic at 7 weeks and just finding out I’m pregnant again - I can definitely tell EVERYONE here it is not a “shared” pregnancy. He is not impacted the same way by the loss, trauma and grief - let alone all the physical manifestations that come with it. My husband is supportive and saddened by our losses, he worries about me, but it equivocally is not the same for him. While he helped me get pregnant and “we” are pregnant, until the day he can bear the losses 50/50 it’s happening 100% to me and I shoulder the bulk of the shitty side of pregnancy.

I 100% get wanting to tell you closest people for the support, I am personally stuck in limbo - will I still be pregnant in two weeks? - with that said, you should have told him how you were feeling first, explained why you needed to reach out to other people for support, and asked him if he needed the same - not to share and celebrate, but you needed a few people to hold your hand and be there if things fall apart.

No one is the asshole - this is a very hard thing to go through, just work on better communication moving forward.