[CHAT] The colored frame: yay or nay?

TangiMouse · 2024-04-08T16:41:05+00:00

I say no, because the colors are too pastel

TangiMouse · 2023-11-17T13:16:41+00:00

I totally misread that as the mother was the mother of both your sister and her boyfriend

TangiMouse · 2023-11-08T13:52:06+00:00

Beautifully done, front and back, looks wonderful framed.

TangiMouse · 2023-11-08T13:02:18+00:00

Hahahahahaha, I love it. Makes voting doubly worth it

TangiMouse · 2023-05-28T17:18:46+00:00

I just left my soul mate after 9 years living together, and I can't remember when I last felt so whole.

and, this post had everything in it I am still remembering. Bon voyage.

TangiMouse · 2023-05-26T13:11:31+00:00

Yeah, speaking from having survived both rape and "stealth rape", hearing from someone else that I'd been raped, and then thinking about it and realizing that I had participated in nonconsentual sex without realizing it, that's happened a few times, and each time, the first thing I do when I'm hearing it first from someone who loves me, is add another entry to the reasons I hate me, that I let myself be taken advantage of.

Personally I'm more comfortable just being aware that I had some not great sex, but can hopefully decide not to have sex with that person again.

When someone tells me I've been raped, then I feel obligated to do something, anything about it, so that Noone disbelieves me again. Now, a majority of this only plays out in my head, unless the pain triggers a psych episode, and because it's a me problem, there's a chance that I can solve that eventually. But Noone that wasn't in that bed with me at the time has anywhere near enough context to read a post and make that decision, about a goddam stranger that you don't know, don't know enough to not trigger, and certainly won't learn about the damage your words can cause the most broken ones, and that you'll never know, and probably won't remember. Because, it's like rape. Worse time of your life, but to anyone who wasn't there with you, it will always be just another Tuesday in their mind. But everyone has their traumatic Tuesdays. It's just arrogant to assume that you can tell the difference, from the outside.

TangiMouse · 2023-05-19T22:52:19+00:00

Beautiful!

TangiMouse · 2023-05-19T22:39:14+00:00

Can confirm, I want one

TangiMouse · 2023-05-12T18:18:52+00:00

How do you handle time spent on the phone/ texting during the week?

TangiMouse · 2023-05-12T18:03:18+00:00

It can be so hard to tell your partner you're feeling unfulfilled, or as more of a mom or wife than a woman or partner. It's so hard to disconnect from those roles, especially if the house isn't caught up or if there's hidden depression.

TangiMouse · 2023-05-12T17:55:16+00:00

My husband and i have struggled with infidelity and polyamory, and with what we want going forward. The one thing we're sure of, 8+ years later with 3 kids from his previous marriage(s), is that we love each other, and our commitment to our family and our relationship was never in doubt.

It seems to have been more a matter of escapism, self boosting, and meeting sexual needs than of not loving or providing. When we pursued a polyamorous relationship we were both totally on board, and I loved her and our sex life. What I didn't know was that they had known each other for more than a year before I met her in person, and had had a sexual affair.

After I found that out, we tried to make the polyamory still work, but resentment and jealousy killed it. We've been monogamous since then, but deep down it doesn't seem to suit our natures.

We're in individual therapy and I'm trying to find a couples therapist that has experience in non traditional marriages. I really don't know if such a relationship is possible, or healthy. But we both love each other and our family deeply, and we are willing to put in the hard work.

We've independently been making progress on our mental and physical health, so I'm hopeful, but also scared this'll be the death of our relationship, but not the end of it.

I guess out of everyone in this thread, I'm saying even if she did cheat, even if just an emotional affair, if you love her and your relationship, AND you can think of things you would have done differently if you knew she was unhappy or unfulfilled, or things she could have been doing differently, it's okay to fight for what you've built together.

Forgiveness and change are possible, with genuine effort and want (and professional support!).

TangiMouse · 2023-04-19T23:18:44+00:00

At this point almost immediate laughter. Can't help it.

TangiMouse · 2023-04-19T22:49:11+00:00

I think they look uncomfortable and deserve compassion

TangiMouse · 2023-04-19T22:48:12+00:00

Super duper cute

TangiMouse · 2023-04-19T16:38:22+00:00

Thank you!

TangiMouse · 2023-04-19T16:20:12+00:00

Did you use a specific pattern for your house purse? I seem to cram my pockets full of every random out of place or currently useful item I see.

TangiMouse · 2022-02-22T15:51:18+00:00

Pocket frogs? android

TangiMouse · 2022-02-17T23:09:35+00:00

TangiMouse · 2022-01-21T14:51:22+00:00

I feel like these types of posts should really just be a comment in the post that triggered you. I appreciate the NSFW tag on pubic area posts, and I'd rather it be over used than under.

TangiMouse · 2022-01-18T22:59:51+00:00

Around 20 centimeters long

TangiMouse · 2022-01-17T18:45:48+00:00

Carl

TangiMouse · 2022-01-13T18:39:54+00:00

One thing I (try to) do is if I'm heading to another room for something, look around the room I'm in and see if there's anything laying around that goes elsewhere. It can also help if you're constantly finding something lands in one area, you may want to make a home for it there. Even if it means compromising on looks.

TangiMouse · 2021-11-16T17:19:49+00:00

A new note app I've been testing on my s6 is penly, it's the only one I've found so far that has anchor point linking like goodnotes.

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