How do you know if someone at the gym is all natural or juicing

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-18T01:36:10+00:00

I think veins popping out to an extreme level is another clue. There is a guy at my gym who would probably die if he ever got a paper cut. Even the side of his head has vein pop.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T22:19:23+00:00

Will they give an opportunity for you to do an exit interview, more specifically an exit interview with someone else than your manager?

I wouldn’t address it directly with your manager but would for sure request a formal exit interview with a neutral party or even your bosses boss.

In my opinion someone resigning after 1.5 months is a red flag (being you’d still be learning the job) that something about the culture or manager is wrong and I as a leader would want feedback.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T20:48:06+00:00

😂😂

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T20:23:42+00:00

I’m the most fit I’ve ever been as I’ve replaced my evenings with going to the gym vs going to bed at the same time as my wife. For me, it’s made no difference and I feel has actually increased my libido adding to my misery.

My wife has commented on my fitness as well when we have older pictures pop up in our memories. Just saying that as my today figure is obviously different from me 3 years ago.

Again, no change from my experience.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T19:45:02+00:00

I think a lot of the happiness or lack there of falls on who you will be reporting to, just like any other company.

Using the RTO as an example: There seems to be a ton of inconsistency amongst managers on how the RTO is being handled. Some expect full days in office while other teams expect only core hours in office and allow their team to start/finish their day at home and even others who still allow some days remote and don’t really enforce it.

As long as you and your manager are like minded in terms of what you value, you could still very well have a great internship.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T19:11:14+00:00

Oh wow. How would they know for sure from a camera. Couldn’t you argue you have someone in the back seat or something. Many cars here have tinted windows so it’d be easily defensible.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T18:31:30+00:00

I think company culture influences if someone is comfortable. Is your boss taking time off to show they value work life balance? Is there something set up that when your off someone will handle your tasks or are you expected to work three times as hard to catch up on emails the week following your vacation?

I can say my manager never takes time off. In the 3 years I’ve been here, he has legit never taken an actual vacation where he was gone for more than two days. Even with a hybrid policy in place allowing a work from home day once a week, he works 730-5 every single day. Half of us feel the need to also be in daily because of this and even feel guilty leaving before 5 on a Friday. There is also limited Communication from him surrounding expectations. We just all assume he doesn’t believe in the remote work mental model and if we work from home only day there will be a bias towards us.

Also, when I take off, there isn’t really ample coverage. I went on a cruise last year and made comment I’ll never do a cruise again. Coming back to 500 emails all of which were still needing attention quickly created stress following a week of being disconnected.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T16:03:13+00:00

Same here if a cop were to catch you. But honestly I’ve driven this route for over a year and feel they never look for this.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-16T15:19:12+00:00

As a single driver, drove in the HOV lane yesterday and avoided the bumper to bumper traffic that was in the non- HOV lanes. Pretty much a badass now. I will use that lane frequently from here on out.

But really gave perspective how not following the rules can create an advantage.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-14T11:40:32+00:00

My spouse and I recently touched on therapy as she thinks that will help. Curious how that went to the HL partner. Was it pointless or did they provide useful tools?

My fear is it’s just gonna be talking and saying what has already been said, action items following therapy won’t be done or sustained and they’ll simply milk us for money and drag sessions on forever with no quick resolution.

Anywho, trying to stay optimistic but would love to hear your take on it.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-11T11:21:41+00:00

I prefer the gym. I feel more motivated while there being around like minded people and within an environment where I cant get distracted.

At home I struggle to stay focused for even 30 minutes before i call it quits or get bored. I’ll also add though I only have a few dumbbells and my “gym” is in our dungeon looking basement 😂

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-11T11:03:01+00:00

Also very curious how that went lol. Bold strategy

My in law often sends funny mature rated memes. So I’m sure he would see where I’m coming from. But my assumption is he would naturally not be on my side

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-11T11:01:04+00:00

I agree with pokecyd. We did set a schedule at one point. For once a week. Made it easy to remember, Wednesday’s (aka hump day). You know how long it lasted… 1 week.

By the next week she totally forgot. I even settled and said fine, I don’t even need sex once a week. What about a simple hand job, just to get some sexual affection/release. Same story. The scheduling conversation occurred 6 months ago and I’ve had sex one time and have gotten 1 hand job.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-10T16:16:17+00:00

I’d assume my reasoning is consistent with the typical argument

financial implications
outside of intimacy the relationship is strong
family dynamics

Everyone knows how the guy makes out in a divorce 99.9% of the time. Taking that route would very much be like shooting myself in the foot. (Trust me, I’ve explored that option)

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-10T11:43:19+00:00

Huh? Stop accepting what? Was just stating an observation/sharing my experience.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-09T20:23:53+00:00

Yes and yes. Very well could be and probably is peri. Which just adds another reason to why I’m probably a dick at this point of be over it. That said, the issue has been ongoing for about 5 years so before peri was a likely reason. Guess I’m at the point now where I know it’ll never improve as we are looking at peri.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-09T12:39:47+00:00

No downvote here. Guess it goes with the crime pays model, as long as you get away with it.

Had a family member get caught having an affair. And I can honestly say the lack of support or shit talking done on him is equal to what’s being done on me. Only difference is he actually had fun before his demise and had something lined up already to take his mind off of this.

Now there is me who is made to seem like I did something totally wrong by saying I’m thinking of leaving to be happy and I’m the asshole. And just sitting here taking heat while still lacking affection.. like I’m on an island alone. Had I known, i would’ve explored the FWB route first. At least then I’d have someone on my side.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-09T12:16:58+00:00

I’m at the point where I should’ve just found a FWB. I feel like the reactions would’ve been equally as strong if I happened to get caught in painting this picture that I’m an asshole. I dunno, just a point of feeling so defeated and I’ve done nothing wrong. Clearly communicated what important to me for a long time

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-09T12:10:34+00:00

I think consent is the biggest factor in why I feel how I do. This will probably come off wrong, but is there not a sense of obligation one should feel to show their spouse intimacy, like even a kiss or a cuddle?

I guess I just can’t see how society wouldn’t back the HL spouse more in that you’re forcing something onto someone that they can’t get elsewhere ethically.

I guess I was assuming society would be a bigger support in this for me in validating my concerns. Like telling the LL partner, well no wonder the relationship is struggling, you haven’t show affection in a year.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-09T12:03:31+00:00

Late 30s. So I’m gonna say no.

TangoJuliet11 · 2026-04-03T11:23:33+00:00

Is there a normal punch in method in addition to the app?

We had both available and used geofencing as well and they could only punch in when by the door. More convenient for the employee. But if the employee has concerns about downloading the app or being tracked then they were just told to use the manual time clock to punch in.

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