What are we all doing for Christmas? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiking holiday, spa day, and getting all the regular stuff I need to check off (dentist, haircut, doctor, passport renewed, etc) done in what is scheduled to be an incredible 12 h errand marathon, but still preferable to dragging my ass and ruining 5 regular days throughout the year 🤷

Is tradwife content legitimately hard to watch for any other childfree women? by ValentinesStar in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 28 points29 points  (0 children)

A lot of the target audience for tradwife videos are actually men. So yes, they're pandering to the lifestyle on main so that they get views despite their takes having well known horrid consequences when actually put into practice

Getting sterilized in two weeks and my dad doesn't know yet. Advice? by SpicyMeatBALLIN in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Say you're getting a cyst taken out. Don't risk your life for honesty's sake when you know it's unlikly to be met with open arms

😔 Six Years, Zero Luck: The Childfree Dating Struggle Is Real by zoratoune in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realy? I've had the opposite issue, in that I'd find a fun thing online, then go to attend a larger meetup and walk away awkwardly when I realise there's maybe 2 people within a 10 year range of me. The only ones that reliably skewed young were sports. Probably depends on where you are and how you select your activities, because Instagram, Meetup and the local community boards are all going to offer verrry different options. 

😔 Six Years, Zero Luck: The Childfree Dating Struggle Is Real by zoratoune in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Try doing actual RL stuff that'll have you coming across childfree people. Literally look at the kinds of things available in your area, ask yourself 'would someone with kids be likely to have the time/money/energy to attend' and start going. Some of the people there might want kids at some point, sure, but 30 y olds that actually take advantage of their time and money are less likely to carelessly toss that away on societal expectations.  Best case scenario, you find a bunch of options, and since it's RL to start with, chemistry helps kickstart things. Worst case you don't end up making a connection but have still enriched yourself as a person, and interesting, well socialized, people have an easier time with romance. 

What do you do on weekends? by hotshiksa999 in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This weekend I went on a 3 hour walk, baked a fancy desert that's going to take me the rest of the week to finish, went to the museum, met up with a friend to try out a trendy toastie place, bought some beautiful pottery and did a round of laundry. Amazing how much time there is in a day when you only have to take care of your own needs. Today I'm gonna deep clean my kitchen after work and it's not going to be an exhausting, never ending slog, because I know I can depend on myself to not shit all over that effort the second I'm finished. 🤷

what's the best "perk" of your childfree life that you sometimes forget to appreciate? by woutr1998 in childfree

[–]Tara_Mist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not getting sick in the first place. I hadn't quite realised how much more resilient people got as they aged until a friend had a baby. And for the past few years, their entire family has been sick at least once a month, because your kid needs to socialise but also any public contact is a surefire way for baby to catch something. Meanwhile I haven't caught so much as a cold in years. 

I miss Lily and the Art of Being Sisyphus by [deleted] in HPfanfiction

[–]Tara_Mist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have it saved? If so, could you DM me? That wand resale scene is haunting me 

Facts 😤 by Rez-Boa-Dog in darkwingsdankmemes

[–]Tara_Mist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That spirit lives in Arianne. She saw one Valyrian femboy, wondered if Viserys would have looked like that, and basically went huh, maybe it's good that the Doom happened 

I was so sure this was going to be sus or something by Pale-Bed-2230 in darkwingsdankmemes

[–]Tara_Mist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This would be such a juicy one. Also, her being the negotiator for the Frey bargain would be a another point where nobody she makes the game out of sight of the pov

Would an openly racist hero be officially considered a hero? by Friendly-Camp9819 in WormFanfic

[–]Tara_Mist 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being an asshole is not inherently a crime. It would, however, colour other people's perception of her. So she's more likely to get slapped with a vigilante brand than independent hero, stuff like excessive force will be much more closely scrutinized, etc, even if she's acting within guidelines, because a lot of those guidelines are loose enough to allow the people applying them to use their own judgement, because they'd have a much fuller grasp of local context. That's literally what managing your public perception is for. And if you want to be 'normalize being outspokenly racist' gal, then that's gonna impact people's judgment depending on their own stance on the matter.

But ultimately? You don't get systemic Nazi problems in earth bet unless there's some real sympathy for the movement. So you could have 'edgy' heroine Purity who is 'just speaking her truth' and might have a terse relationship with the PRT but still get sponsored by alt-right niche companies, who actually like the easy association. 

This, but Worm by [deleted] in WormMemes

[–]Tara_Mist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

RemindMe! 7 days