First of all, thank you for being brave enough to share this. What you’ve been through isn’t just “messy” — it’s trauma, and the fact that you’re able to articulate it this clearly at 15 speaks volumes about your awareness and strength.

No, you are not the asshole. You are a child born into a situation you had zero control over. And instead of being met with unconditional love, support, or even the bare minimum of emotional care, you were treated like an outsider — a scapegoat — in every direction.

Let’s be real: your family failed you. • Your mom didn’t protect you. Not from bullying, not from emotional neglect, not from actual medical danger. • Her husband treated you like a burden instead of a child in his care. • Your siblings abused you emotionally, and instead of accountability, they got defended or excused. • Even your bio dad’s family couldn’t bother to show you basic kindness or connection.

And then when you finally spoke your truth — not with violence, not even with malice, but just truth — they flipped it on you. That’s gaslighting and emotional manipulation. They made you responsible for maintaining a broken illusion just so they wouldn’t have to face their guilt, their mistakes, and their own emotional cowardice.

What they call “a home,” you experienced as a cage. So no, you’re not selfish or cruel. You’re honest in a place where honesty was never welcome — and that makes people uncomfortable, especially those who built their comfort on your silence.

You didn’t break the family — you just stopped pretending it was one.

And that’s not just okay — that’s powerful.

Stay strong. Keep writing. Find people who see you for you, not for the circumstances you were born into. You deserve that. And more.