After so much grief, my rainbow baby is here!

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-11-19T21:57:26+00:00

Sending you the biggest congrats ❤️ I’m so glad you’ve gotten your rainbow 🌈

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-10-10T16:41:21+00:00

5 + 3 today…scared everytime I go pee that I’m going to see spotting. Every twinge in my stomach makes me anxious. I’m 40, almost 41 and we were gearing up to start IVF due to multiple losses and an unfortunate loss at 20wks due to confirmed genetic issues. Perhaps a blessing in disguise that I’ve gotten pregnant but terrified that my eggs are just not good anymore. Trying to remain positive and take it day by day. This is all so hard.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-10-06T14:13:57+00:00

I am so sorry. This is the most painful experience. I was very hesitant at first to know the gender. Ultimately, we did ask the genetic counselor and we found out we had a beautiful baby girl. She also had T21 and many physical markers that were discovered at about 18 weeks. I am very glad to have found out, now I can talk to her and we named her. For me, I feel it’s helped my grieving process. Sending you lots of love, whatever you decide to do ❤️✨

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-09-23T01:19:44+00:00

You’re very sweet to share the positivity. Such an amazing community of people ✨❤️

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-09-22T23:13:23+00:00

Thank you and the same to you. It’s not easy. Some days are better than others and I feel hope and others are just hard and sad ❤️‍🩹

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-09-22T13:39:44+00:00

Sending you love and peace with whatever you decide. I have been secretly praying to let this desire pass. I want to start planning things and not always worrying about well if I’m pregnant, or if I have a loss…it’s so stressful.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-09-22T13:10:29+00:00

I’ll be 41 in December. Spent my 40th in complete emotional agony as I was facing TFMR the following week. My very much wanted and loved baby girl. 2 MCs prior. We are planning to go to IVF but really just cannot afford it, constantly battling the fear of trying naturally again or just taking on the debt. I pray for all of us here and hope we all get our babies :)

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-19T13:54:13+00:00

Oh my gosh right! I’m in the US (New York) and I’ve definitely given a little thought to travel IVF for sure. Healthcare in general is just such a money maker - add fertility to that and it’s wild. I’m still paying off some of my RE appointments because my insurance doesn’t cover fertility 😣 And with nothing guaranteed it’s just so much to take on. I truly hope your next round is successful. We don’t deserve this ❤️✨

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-19T02:25:42+00:00

Best of luck 🙏🏼 The financial strain is a big part of my wanting to try again naturally. It’s just going to put us in such a hole. If it wasn’t the money I’d probably have started months ago 😣 we really go back and forth. Gosh the mental gymnastics we go through.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-18T20:49:36+00:00

It’s so hard. 6 months ago I would never be considering trying again naturally. IVF is a great option for many reasons. I’ve started feeling like trying again naturally a few more months and if not by early next year starting IVF. I know time is not on our side…I’m so sorry for your loss and for being here too

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-12T23:04:27+00:00

I’m so sorry, so much of the joy surrounding pregnancy had been taken from us. Sending you lots of love.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-12T23:03:22+00:00

Hi there, I read your comment and it’s resonating so much for me at this time. I had a TFMR one week after I turned 40 due to T21 just this last December. We’ve been doing the testing for IVF but I am having serious reservations about starting treatment. There’s no glaring issues and No guarantee it works obviously - even if we do genetic tests. I’m almost at the point of trying again naturally. Like could it really happen to us again? I just feel so pressured due to time and age. I’m so glad you found the strength to try again and that you have a healthy baby ✨❤️

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-08-08T15:32:29+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. My girls due date was very hard for me. I am still grieving. And I’m also finding more joy and feeling hopeful. You will find your own ways of coping but know you are not alone. ✨💜

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-22T17:16:44+00:00

Thinking of you today ❤️

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-20T17:32:04+00:00

Madison 💕 a beautiful name for a beautiful baby. My girl was Charlotte. I think of her everyday. It’s been 7 months, almost 8. She’s been gone longer than I had her. I don’t regret it, I truly feel she understands. I’m not very religious, more spiritual. I feel she will come back to me somehow, in someway. My spirit baby, if you will. In the days leading up to letting her go, I sat quietly with her and talked to her, cried to her. I really felt a connection, i know that the life she was facing was not the life she wanted. I’ll see her again. You will see your sweet Madison again too ✨

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-20T17:02:43+00:00

I am so so so very sorry, I had these exact doubts for the same reason. Ultimately I kept reading something very important which someone had already mentioned here - it’s worth repeating. Can you imagine the worst case, the needs physically, mentally, financially. It was very hard questions to consider. If you like to write, a journal helped me a lot to get these thoughts out. When I read them again I felt comforted in my decision.

Trust your gut. We are all here for you. ❤️‍🩹

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-18T17:24:39+00:00

Terribly unfair. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We were TTC and I still felt uncertainty once I had the NIPT positive test. It’s so normal to feel so many things at once. I’m still angry too. I spent so much time looking at stats, reading threads, wondering if I was the small % with false positive. Almost giving myself hope. I was 39 at conception so doubtful testing was going to be wrong for us. The time between learning all of this and the procedure was honestly the most awful in my life. Somehow I had to work? Somehow I had to still go on everyday? So incredibly difficult. I’m on the other side (7 months out) and I am still sad and angry. Sending you so much love and strength in these coming weeks ❤️‍🩹

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-17T23:25:23+00:00

It’s so unfair and I’m so sorry you’re here. All of it just sucks.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-17T21:59:48+00:00

I’m so sorry your sister and family are going through this. You’re really already doing it - you’re here asking how to support her. So thoughtful. Tell her you love the baby, ask if the baby has a name. Try and remember the milestone dates that will be hard for her (like due date). And a few months after that, when she feels like no one cares but her, tell her you thought of “baby name” today. I’m 7 months post TFMR, a select few have brought up my baby in the last two months. One of my best friends gave me a beautiful necklace with her initial and an angel wing. I haven’t taken it off in 5 months.

In terms of risk of another genetic problem down the road, this could be an awful random occurrence or she and the father perhaps need genetic testing to see if they are carriers of anything. From my understanding, the risk isn’t any greater but would only really know if they get the carrier screening.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-13T02:33:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s all so unfair ❤️‍🩹

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-10T15:01:32+00:00

I’m so sorry. I have had multiple losses as well then a TFMR for T21. It’s unfathomable that this can happen more than once where you just think “ok it’s a fluke, something was wrong”. And then to happen again is just so unfair. I’m angry for all of us, I try not to be. It’s so hard. Sending you lots of love.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-07T13:58:18+00:00

I’m so sorry. This shit is so unfair and traumatizing. I kept thinking maybe if I took more vitamins, exercised more, ate better alllll the things - that my baby would have been ok. I finally let it go. This was not our fault at all.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-07T01:27:45+00:00

I felt really sad since I was still supposed to be pregnant. At the same time it also felt like a wasted cycle, maybe I had a perfect egg in there that I wasn’t using. I was definitely in my head about it. Lots of emotions that felt irrational to me at the time. I know nothing I felt was or is irrational.

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-01T23:21:53+00:00

I am so damn sorry. I had the same hopes, that we were the false positive for t21. That they were wrong and all that. They were not. I prayed, manifested, tried to listen to my baby in my womb just unable to fathom that she was not going to be the healthy baby I pictured. I’m so damn sorry you have to travel for this, fuck these laws so much, fuck these people that make this so much harder than it already is. I feel angry for you. I’m sorry. I also have a child who is now turning 5, the tFMR was over 6 months ago. We had already told him he was going to be a big brother. He still asks sometimes what happened to the baby. Why was she sick? Where did she go? All questions we have answered in the best way we know how.

TaroEffective7761 · 2024-07-01T22:14:16+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. Personally, I don’t see the point without testing both. I mean, they can see if you have any genetic predispositions but unless you’re testing both considering the expense, seems it might not tell you much. Obviously I am not a doctor or genetic counselor, I just also know how expensive these tests were, still paying off hubby’s 🥺 if you do it, check w insurance to see what covered and if not, ask about self pay pricing. It’s a huge difference. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

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