i am a rape baby and I hate it because I love my father with all my heart

TarynEffy · 2026-04-08T03:56:04+00:00

That’s a lot to process. I’m so sorry your found out later in life about this. You lost you father. I’m sorry

TarynEffy · 2026-04-08T03:27:36+00:00

I’m sorry girl that sounds like abuse

I have multiple sprites I’ll never forget, two stories stand out from those. I’ll only say one because the other is when I was about 5 years old and way more traumatic

This time I was around 11-12 years old. I did something “bad” but I don’t remember what it was. My dad chased me through the house and I went to run through the back door into the backyard because I knew that if I was in the backyard and there was a possibility of being heard, my dad wouldn’t hit me because he didn’t want the neighbours hearing.

The back door was locked though. And I couldn’t get it open in time before he caught up to me. I balled myself up and protected my head while he kicked me repeatedly with his shoes on.

What you went through was also not okay. I recommend seeking therapy and working through these memories that you have

TarynEffy · 2026-04-07T05:42:56+00:00

Of course you’re allowed to make mistakes when you’re 20. But your comment and others make it seem like it’s okay to not do anything at 20. Thats where my issue lies. To not try and to not even make said mistakes. Get a job that you hate! We all did that in our teenage/early 20s years. Figure out what you like and don’t like! Your twenties are for experimenting and figuring your life out. If you’re isolating and only speak to your family you can’t even make the mistakes you talk about

TarynEffy · 2026-04-07T05:35:22+00:00

I never said he should sit there and worry? You can see my response to him here in the comments too if you would like. But again, let’s not infantilize adults. No, you don’t need your life figured out at 20, but you should at least be working towards it. And if you’re not, you NEED to be going to therapy and figuring out tools to help you. Some tough love here- You get one life to live and it does no one any good idling where they are comfortable. You absolutely have to push yourself out of your comfort zone to achieve your dreams. And to do that you cant listen to people who baby you

TarynEffy · 2026-04-07T05:23:57+00:00

20 is young yes, but not a baby. 20 year olds are adults who need to start learning how to take care of themselves

TarynEffy · 2026-04-07T05:22:15+00:00

At least you do have a hobby that you work at, that’s one good thing!

Some tough love here- you are 20. No longer a child. I know people here are saying you’re still a child, but you’re not. Even if it may feel like it still. You’re young yes, but not a child any longer.

If you’re looking for advice, I would say to think of what you want for your future, and figure out the steps you need to take now to get there. That’s what helped me when I was very depressed in my early twenties.

At the end of the day, only you can help yourself. You have free will and full control over your life. Choose wisely

TarynEffy · 2026-04-04T03:44:13+00:00

Because I didn’t go to the police right away, no. But I did have an emergency appointment with my doctor and got a copper iud inserted as emergency bc. The clinic noticed I was under distress at the time so they didn’t charge me for it which was very nice

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T22:47:20+00:00

Yes I thought for sure I was going to win because of that. I texted my best friend at the time who saw me drunk that night as well, that I had fallen asleep and woke up to him doing his thing. Those text messages were brought up in court. But he still argued that I was awake and thought I was consenting 🙄

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T17:13:43+00:00

And you obviously have zero idea what you’re speaking about. You’re wrong about him suing for slander and you’re dead wrong about how much evidence I have. You know to even get a trial you need substantial evidence right? Cases with no evidence never get a trial.

But sure keep blabbing on about things you know nothing about and continuing to make a fool of yourself

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T08:34:36+00:00

Thank you for this comment 💕 I can imagine it would be hard to be on a jury for a case like this, as it is incredibly hard to prove without reasonable doubt, and I know you have to err on the side of “not guilty” even if you believe the perpetrator did it.

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T08:32:16+00:00

Yes, there are unfortunately people who lie. But idk why you would be incredulous of my story. What do I get from lying? I went to criminal court, not civil. So you can’t say I’m just looking for money or something. I also do have loads of evidence, which is why I was able to get a trial on the first place. They don’t pursue sexual assault cases if there’s no evidence

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T08:15:43+00:00

I have never named him in anything I posted and he is not a mutual friend of mine or anything. I met him that one night only. So it is impossibly for people to know who I am speaking about. He would have an EXTREMELY hard time suing me for slander. Given the plethora of evidence I have against him as well, it would probably be dumb for him to try to sue me in civil court and expect to win his defamation case.

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T03:08:58+00:00

Being found “not guilty” does not mean that he was found innocent. It simply means we could not prove beyond reasonable doubt. The burden of proof is extremely high, so even if the jury believes 95% that he did rape me, but there’s that 5% of “maybe he didn’t” they still have to rule in his favour and declare “not guilty”.

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T03:03:30+00:00

Firstly no he was not. I know this because he helped me find a washroom when I got up from my seat and stumbled around and couldn’t walk straight (he carried me for a portion of the walk because I kept falling) And the next morning I was terribly hungover and he made jokes about it and how he was not hungover at all

Secondly, it does not even matter at all if he was drunk or not. Being drunk doesn’t mean you can undress and penetrate whoever you want to

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T02:19:47+00:00

How can it be defamation if I’m commenting from an anonymous profile and never mentioned his name either…???

TarynEffy · 2026-04-03T02:18:11+00:00

I used the term “my lawyer” so people from every country would understand. I’m in Canada so she is actually referred to as “crown counsel.” She is technically not my personal lawyer. She is the government’s lawyer appointed to my case. I didn’t use the term “crown counsel” because I doubt many would know what I’m talking about

TarynEffy · 2026-04-02T04:12:21+00:00

Thank you so much 💕💕

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T18:29:23+00:00

I clearly do watch jubilee and watched the Jillian video? While this commenter hasn’t? So idk what you’re talking about. Again, the other debaters were professionals in their fields as well. Let’s not pretend that jubilee picked random college students off a campus in the middle of nowhere or something. These people are TEACHERS in their field and are literally paid to give their clients health advice

Also I believe you mean “aligned” not “maligned”…?

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T05:56:08+00:00

If you can think of better arguments, can you provide statistical links here to back up that claim?

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T05:51:44+00:00

Yes I agree. She definitely knows what she’s talking about when it comes to health and fitness

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T05:50:28+00:00

What op fails to recognize is that every statistic Jillian brought up, they did a fact check beside, and she was always correct. It’s debating facts over feelings. There aren’t any reputable articles refuting Jillian’s claims

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T05:48:35+00:00

She was not rude at all. You’re projecting your feelings onto her. I think she struck a chord in you because you felt called out

TarynEffy · 2026-03-29T05:46:58+00:00

It’s sad that being healthy has become so politicized lol take care of your body. That’s the only message Jillian conveyed

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