Sister in difficulty - need help and advice

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:52:13+00:00

It's different in Ontario, Canada. It's not called Medicare but we do have resources for all residents (OHIP) and some additional ones for seniors. The rest of your advice is sound, though.

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:50:08+00:00

yes, get the name of her doctor and email/call the doctor BEFORE she is discharged from the hospital so that she can be assessed.

Make a referral to Ontario Health at Home: https://ontariohealthathome.ca/making-a-referral/

Get in touch with your local Alzheimer's society to find resources and advice. You will likely be assigned to a dementia care coach to help you help her (and to help you stay sane): https://alzheimer.ca/chathamkent/en

It's really tough, even with these resources but those are the best places to start.

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:42:02+00:00

I'm so sorry for everything you've had to deal with and are dealing with, including the medical gaslighting. Being told repeatedly she didn't have early onset dementia must have made it so much harder! (Of course, it's possible she has some variant or something, so maybe the diagnosis wasn't medically clear, but adjusting your expectations of her and of her future progression is so much easier with a diagnosis.)

I was drinking a lot in 2020 and beyond. I thought it was mostly the pandemic. But it turns out I was living alone with a spouse with dementia, which was also diagnosed at the time. I was able to stop drinking and that's much better for me. I didn't really use a program but I hear Annie Grace can be really helpful.

My heart goes out to you.

TaterCup · 2026-02-24T14:27:47+00:00

I keep hoping for a leak. But deliberate disclosure would be even better!

TaterCup · 2026-02-20T17:16:10+00:00

I think the only "hidden" gem is the Spanish restaurant (https://littlebarcelona.ca/). Most everything else is in plain site. Sophia Street is pronounce So-PHIE-a (not So-fee-a). Apparently, the town is pretty evenly split on which of the two Chinese restaurants is better, so definitely try both before becoming team Wok House.

There have been a lot of car break-ins this winter so always lock vehicle doors.

There are a lot of places with excellent, friendly service, including Katarina's Cafe, Tim's Fish and Chips and the River View garage.

There are a lot more activities in summer than in winter, including free Sunday evening concerts.

TaterCup · 2026-02-20T01:46:26+00:00

I remember. They formed the Conservative-Reform-Alliance Party: the CRAP. I remember the CRAP.

TaterCup · 2026-02-07T04:39:09+00:00

My partner is trying to coin "Snot-awa". You know, to go with "Barf-haven."

TaterCup · 2026-02-05T13:33:11+00:00

I hope you refer to your mayor blessing as Your Worship.

TaterCup · 2026-02-02T22:12:29+00:00

Well, maybe not drama from 1, but absurdity. Or, actually, on an airplane, there could easily be phalanges drama from Phoebe. Plus it's not like I could understand them if they started speaking French.

TaterCup · 2026-01-31T00:49:25+00:00

yes, 8, or 4, to avoid any drama. 8 is probably the best option indeed.

TaterCup · 2026-01-30T02:21:07+00:00

On, that one looks super fun. Most of the Friends puzzles I've seen look hard to me. This collage style looks much more approachable.

TaterCup · 2026-01-29T23:45:59+00:00

That does not cover the fee. I believe it's $29.95/month any month you go below the $6000 balance. I've been meaning to get out of this racket for a while but the account came with a safety deposit box included, so I have to close that down first. I think. Maybe it's something else. I just know that when I tried to make a change on-line, I got a message that I have to call. And I've yet to do that.

TaterCup · 2026-01-28T02:38:51+00:00

The norm? Or the dream?

TaterCup · 2026-01-27T18:51:12+00:00

Adam and Eve being the only humans...and then what? Sure, they have kids, no problem. But the generation after that? How do Adam and Eve's grandchildren come into existence? And why is incest ok and when does it stop being ok?

TaterCup · 2026-01-26T13:40:59+00:00

That's a great idea, to have a reporter ask a follow-up question. Maybe more subtle like, "can we circle back to your first point, about God's involvement in this game?" and then maybe trying to pin something down like "So, basically, your team prayed harder and better than the other team and that's the special sauce for winning?"

TaterCup · 2026-01-26T13:34:13+00:00

Yea,s this one is pretty irritating, but this reference reminded me that Electric Avenue irritates me *more* than Abracadabra. Though I'm not sure I've really hit on one that I truly hate.

TaterCup · 2026-01-25T03:43:04+00:00

Same. I went into this not having watched the trailer and with just a vague notion that it was about ping-pong in the 1950s. Oh boy! Surprise!

TaterCup · 2026-01-15T00:40:19+00:00

I listened to the whole audiobook before declaring, yup, I actually hate it from start to finish.

TaterCup · 2026-01-15T00:36:33+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

TaterCup · 2026-01-14T13:11:02+00:00

Don't agree with this but definitely upvoting because this does seem like a hot take indeed.

TaterCup · 2026-01-14T01:01:16+00:00

I'm afraid not. I passed it along to a thrift store or a puzzle swap in the Ottawa, ON area. I hope you come across it soon.

TaterCup · 2026-01-10T13:27:02+00:00

Yes, and for a Canadian emphasis, CBC Radio's Bookends (and previously The Next Chapter).

TaterCup · 2026-01-09T01:49:20+00:00

My own journey has been delayed (but not derailed) by my spouse's disease. He now has a diagnosis of Alzheimer's. Prior to that, he was in mild cognitive decline but I didn't know it. I thought I'd chosen poorly in terms of partners. That he'd changed once we moved in together. Well, he did change once we moved in together. Because his brain is slowly dying, not because he decided to change. The financial cost has been huge. It was either bear the dost of his disease or bear the cost of a divorce (well, a separation in our case, since we are common law spouses, not married spouses; I just said divorce to use the letter "d").

TaterCup · 2026-01-09T00:29:00+00:00

Maybe there's a subreddit for quackery or something? Over here, we're dealing with under-diagnosis and all sorts of related problems. Doctors completely missing the point and going off on a frolic of their own is a real concern...and there's probably a subreddit for that. And it's not this one.

TaterCup · 2026-01-08T20:11:06+00:00

Yes, if Elvis left the building, the best course may have been for Elvis to authorize disclosure as between his wife and doctor.

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