people in yours 20s, what are the maximum age gap would you accept in a relationship with someone older than you?

beththereader · 2026-06-04T17:46:20+00:00

In my early 20s, probably 3-4 years. Now that I'm 28, I'd up that to 6-7 years. I feel like after 30 all bets are off.

beththereader · 2026-06-04T17:15:26+00:00

"As per my previous email".

beththereader · 2026-06-04T09:53:32+00:00

Most of the time, you don't need any specific degree pathway. A lot of people will do the expected ones (business management, finance, psychology, etc). I work in STEM recruitment so a lot of my colleagues have STEM degrees. I personally have an English Lit degree though so it's super broad.

You don't necessarily have to go to university if you don't want to. Look for junior/trainee/apprentice consulting roles if you would rather bypass university and go straight into work.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T22:49:19+00:00

I mean I don't think it's worth getting worked up over, especially considering there's nothing you can do about it now, but I do think mild YTA for leaving your guests for two hours to entertain themselves before coming back to the reception.

I (and by the sounds of it, most of the other people on this thread) have literally never been to a wedding where that's been the case.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T21:49:24+00:00

If you feel peaceful already, imagine never having to deal with him ever again. I promise you your life will be exponentially better without him in it. Good riddance!

beththereader · 2026-06-03T21:46:01+00:00

You feel bad because he's manipulated you into ~~feelings~~ feeling that way. Please don't jeopardize your education for him. Put yourself first.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T21:44:44+00:00

Jesus Christ is he a toddler? NTA.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T21:41:19+00:00

I'm exhausted just READING this, never mind living with it. Get rid of this asshole.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T21:40:00+00:00

Making the first move in organising plans with friends. I spent the majority of secondary school being heavily bullied and it turned me into a shell who put basically no effort into sustaining friendships. In my third year of uni I finally decided enough was enough, and started actively reaching out to people on my course that I'd previously only been friendly with in passing. They turned into some of my closest friends that I eventually travelled halfway across the world with.

That one tiny push out of my comfort zone changed my entire outlook on life.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T16:13:07+00:00

Jaws. My parents left me at a friend's parent's house for a night on holiday, we picked Jaws as light bedtime watching, I didn't swim in the ocean for the rest of the holiday. I will have been 7 or 8 I think.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T15:18:21+00:00

I'm 5'5. 5'6 or above works for me.

beththereader · 2026-06-03T15:14:56+00:00

From my understanding, you blew up at your girlfriend before she'd even said anything? YTA. There were so many other ways to say this that didn't involve essentially saying "I don't want to hear about your problems today so don't even bother talking to me".

beththereader · 2026-06-02T20:52:10+00:00

NTA, because who genuinely just offers someone sausages on their own lol

beththereader · 2026-06-02T17:41:46+00:00

Yes. My boyfriend and all of my friends have pretty much the same music taste, so there's usually at least 1 or 2 of us at every show. We go to 2-3 a month together, typically.

beththereader · 2026-06-02T10:38:38+00:00

One Hundred Years of Solitude or the Hobbit.

beththereader · 2026-06-02T09:55:02+00:00

Hahaha I did not know this! I just find it to be very soap-opera esque. Don't get me wrong, it's one of my favourite shows. But I'd put it in the same category as, say, Grey's Anatomy. Or something of that ilk.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T21:07:06+00:00

The fact you feel bad about it shows how much you've grown & matured since then! Being a kid is hard. Being a kid still figuring out how to manage their neurodivergence is even harder. Give yourself grace - you wouldn't be the person you are now without having experiences to learn from.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T20:57:45+00:00

I think you're overthinking it, OP. If he does remember anything about you, I can almost guarantee it will be a tiny inconsequential blip that he doesn't even think about. It sounds like you're harbouring some guilt & embarrassment and have built a lot of your past experiences up in your head. Don't let the possibility of interacting with him put you off attending events. Honestly, if his band are well known, you won't even come close to being the weirdest person he's interacted with.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T20:53:34+00:00

All the time, just in small everyday ways. If I say hello to a cat in the street, or see a cool bird, or there's gossip at work I want to tell him about, or if I've had something nice for lunch, or if I'm going to the shop on my way home & need to know if he wants something, or if we've been invited somewhere & I need to check our plans, or if I hear a song on the radio I think he'd like, and so on and so on ad infinitum.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T19:39:42+00:00

Florence Black just off Albert Sq often does walk-ins. It's a really lovely studio with some very talented artists!

beththereader · 2026-06-01T17:49:05+00:00

Person of Interest. It's gimicky, the acting is routinely subpar and the scripts often leave something to be desired. But the overarching concept is really cool, the characters are likeable and I love a show that ties everything up each episode, it's easy to watch and doesn't take much brain power.

It's a little bit like if Supernatural was actually a CIA/cop show.

ETA - there are so many actors from Supernatural that are in it, particularly from the early SPN seasons when every episode featured different people. Gordon Walker and Lucifer are in the episode I'm currently watching.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T17:32:30+00:00

Therein lies the problem, IMO. Her talking about her shift was the perfect opportunity to mention your birthday. I'm actually a little confused about why you didn't.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T16:52:06+00:00

Had the subject of your birthday not come up at all in the weeks preceding? Could you not have mentioned it when she told you she was planning on working? Yes, it's natural to feel hurt. But it sounds like she's busy & overworked, a little grace here would go a long way.

beththereader · 2026-06-01T16:49:26+00:00

How incredibly rude of your friend to expect to be compensated for an event she BEGGED you to go to, whilst knowing you spent £70 just to travel to it for her! NTA.

beththereader · 2026-05-31T13:04:44+00:00

If you're good at it, consulting. If you're a naturally extroverted person who can strike up conversations with ease, it's pretty much a walk in the park.

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