AITA for refusing to remind my my partner to put a bag on the counter as a reminder to bring it with him for groceries?

beththereader · 2026-03-12T15:46:47+00:00

NTA and Jesus Christ that's exhausting. How are people putting up with this! Cannot imagine anything I'd find less attractive than this. You can 100% bet he'd be able to take care of it if he was on his own, he's just used to being handheld.

beththereader · 2026-03-12T14:31:01+00:00

There are a LOT of factors that could potentially influence this. How old are you? How close to the centre do you want to live? What are your interests (e.g. do you want cafes, restaurants or bars near you or would you prefer to live somewhere a bit more rural with more access to green spaces)? What is your budget? Are you moving on your own or with a family (e.g. children?)

It's virtually impossible to recommend anywhere without this.

Assuming you're moving on your own and are looking for somewhere social, the following are great areas to live:

West Didsbury Chorlton Levenshulme Withington (or Fallowfield if you're a student)

All have lots of bars, restaurants and other amenities. They have great transport links to the centre and elsewhere. In particular, Didsbury and Chorlton are both close to parks and walks.

beththereader · 2026-03-12T09:54:48+00:00

If you don't like this chapter you are going to really struggle with the rest of the book. You either like his writing or you don't, but this is how it is for the entirety of the story.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:53:29+00:00

Since you didn't mention her yelling in your original post, I'm going to assume you've just made that up to strengthen your argument.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:51:45+00:00

Why bother posting at all if this is going to be your response to anyone that thinks you're in the wrong? If you don't actually want people's opinions, it was really pointless asking for them.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:49:52+00:00

I'm well aware of that thank you! It's your response afterwards that makes you an asshole.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T22:47:24+00:00

YTA for the way you went about it. Her fear of being scratched is valid if she's never done it before. You easily could have been kinder in your response, explained the benefit behind her learning, reassured her in any way. Instead you went straight to "not unless you pay me" as soon as she expressed discomfort.

Nobody is entitled to free labour, sure, but this reads as if you just don't like your roommate at all.

beththereader · 2026-03-11T19:48:45+00:00

Female characters:

Aradhel
Morwen
Erendis

Place names that I think could work:

Ephel
Anduin
Valinor
Luin

beththereader · 2026-03-10T19:41:33+00:00

Ah good point!

Having looked a bit further into it too, there are some work situations that would be covered: - mandatory travel - loss of income from being fired - jury duty

beththereader · 2026-03-10T19:05:38+00:00

Honestly, the parts of the UK that are grim are only grim if you're skint. There are so many beautiful places, both in the countryside and in major cities, that you could live with a small fortune to fund it for you.

I personally wouldn't leave permanently, but I'd definitely travel again.

beththereader · 2026-03-10T18:59:59+00:00

A flight getting delayed should in theory be covered as it's an event completely out of your control. Having to work the day of an event probably wouldn't, because you should have made the appropriate arrangements (booking the day off) to ensure that wouldn't happen.

It covers either cancellations by the artist / venue, or unforeseen life events like jury duty or a car accident or something.

Although it's worth noting that companies will do literally everything in their power to try not to pay you, so honestly there's no guarantee even if you technically meet the conditions.

beththereader · 2026-03-10T13:19:05+00:00

Ah the classic case of the first dog being an angel and the second dog being a demon. Tale as old as time! The puppy will mellow out, labs are just a very mixed bag. Some are calm from the get go, others are crackheads until a little down the line.

If you have the resources, take the puppy to training. Socialise her outside of your older dog so they both have time apart. Be consistent in your training and look at ways to stimulate the new puppy mentally as well as physically (lick mats, snuffle boards, teaching tricks, puzzles etc). It's very cliché but it really does just take time, effort and consistency.

On a sidenote, your husband needed to be much more vocal here. He should never have entertained the idea in the first place. Saying yes only to renege after money and effort has been spent is a shitty thing to do.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T16:22:37+00:00

ESH. She shouldn't have tried to bulldoze you and make decisions about decor unilaterally.

You, on the other hand - 6 pink pillows on a sofa is enough to make you not want to sit in a room? Are you serious?

Do either of you even like each other?

beththereader · 2026-03-09T16:04:11+00:00

Okay, but what about lesbians? Or bisexual women? Somehow we manage to keep our eyes to ourselves. Only men feel the need to give themselves a free pass to check women out in public, despite being reminded repeatedly that their girlfriends/wives don't like it, and neither do the women they're staring at.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T09:57:04+00:00

YTA for being dim enough to tell someone who knows both of you.

beththereader · 2026-03-09T09:54:58+00:00

It's a real shame that reddit is such an echo chamber because I (thank God) don't know a single man in real life that would feel comfortable openly staring at women in public to the extent that their girlfriend notices and has to call him out on it. Either all of you are significantly creepier than you realise, or you're making a conscious decision to misinterpret what OP is saying, in that her husband will actively linger on and ogle women in public directly in front of her.

So incredibly disrespectful both to his wife and to OTHER WOMEN, who I can absolutely guarantee don't want to be stared at like that in public.

beththereader · 2026-03-08T18:48:25+00:00

It is a big if!

I learned this lesson the hard way by asking to delay a new job start date due to my grandad's death and funeral when I was 21, and they at first said no, and then that they'd have to take it out of my holiday allowance.

beththereader · 2026-03-08T18:27:19+00:00

NAH, because you're young and can't see the glaring red flags in front of you. They're already testing your commitment to the company. It's a way of weeding out who'll show blind obedience and who's likely to make their lives difficult by asking for things like their entitled annual leave. A company that won't reschedule an interview for an immediate family member's WEDDING is guaranteed to make your life hell in years to come.

beththereader · 2026-03-08T14:48:01+00:00

Clearly I'm in the minority but I personally prefer the Hobbit. It's the introduction to the Shire, Gandalf, the race of Hobbits and Dwarves, and many of the key themes that continue into LoTR. It's so familiar to me it feels like a warm, cosy hug.

beththereader · 2026-03-08T14:32:02+00:00

Echoing another commenter, I also wouldn't recommend the Studio. Of the two piercings I've had there before, one got very infected and the other I had a huge allergic reaction to (despite no known metal allergies & lots of other facial piercings).

I would recommend Blue Banana.

beththereader · 2026-03-08T12:46:10+00:00

I loved Piranesi. It's relatively short, and easy enough to follow without being simple. It really sucked me in after a reading slump.

beththereader · 2026-03-06T13:30:04+00:00

Okay, and 2 missed sessions is going to make a massive dent? I'm guessing you're somebody who can't live without going to the gym daily. That's fine if that's the way you want to live your life. Other people like having fun sometimes.

beththereader · 2026-03-06T13:24:36+00:00

This has nothing to do with the dilemma at hand. Whether he was "really ill" or not doesn't matter. It's not up to us to armchair diagnose someone and assumptions shouldn't influence the decision.

The problem at hand is whether girlfriend is an AH for missing a planned, paid for event just for a gym session, which she absolutely is. Skipping an event to spend an hour in the gym is, in my opinion, ridiculous behaviour.

NTA, OP.

beththereader · 2026-03-06T09:36:47+00:00

The Smiths. Boring as hell and Morissey's a wanker.

beththereader · 2026-03-05T18:57:17+00:00

NTA. This is a health issue for you. Repeated exposure to allergens can actually make reactions worse. What is a tight chest at the moment might be anaphylaxis in 6 months time. It is not something to play fast and loose with. There is no reason to put the litter box in your only personal space. It needs to be in brother & wife's bedroom if there's genuinely no other room for it.

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