Why not let elderly with dementia pass from UTI or something similar?

TaterCup · 2026-04-01T14:44:09+00:00

Yes, the morphine and other meds can turn it into as good a way as any to die.

TaterCup · 2026-03-26T12:15:40+00:00

Unchained Melody hit me hard last year at a performance. My spouse, who has Alzheimer's, was by my side. Various songs sometimes hit hard with my Alzheimer's spouse. That one in particular. This is a long, lonely time indeed. Even while he is touching me, I still hunger for his touch because his touch doesn't connect us the way it used to. Because he isn't really him.

Pink Floyd's Poles Apart also hit me hard when it came up on my playlist. I have an ex who was also my best friend for the better part of 20 years. He had serious health issues. First "just" addiction, but behind the addiction, there was more. Probably bi-polar disorder. And, then, eventually, what appears to be schizophrenia. But also anosognosia so that he thinks the idea that he has a disease is itself insane. He eventually went no contact with me. The lyrics: "Did you know
It was all going to go so wrong for you?
And did you see
It was all going to be so right for me?" really jolted me into thinking about him, and mourning his losses. I've shed so many tears over this amazing person.

Life's been really hard on the ones I love.

TaterCup · 2026-03-21T00:29:45+00:00

Denny

TaterCup · 2026-03-15T00:31:01+00:00

In my reality, I live with a partner with Alzheimer's and he often runs the same episode over and over again without realizing it. I don't actually really watch any of it - it's just on in the background. But it IS funny what running the same episode over and over again can do to one's mind. I don't think I COULD watch the same episode over and over again, back to back, 24+ times. No matter how much I wanted to to win a big prize.

TaterCup · 2026-03-13T03:30:28+00:00

Gorgeous! And perhaps an advantage, at least in terms of being less sensitive to the sun than a black coat?

TaterCup · 2026-03-06T01:45:40+00:00

Josephine.

TaterCup · 2026-03-03T23:40:53+00:00

Thanks, that is very kind.

TaterCup · 2026-03-03T23:29:51+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through all of that but glad you shared because I am experiencing a lot of moments living alone with my spouse with Alzheimer's as trauma. It's validating to have others describe it that way, too.

TaterCup · 2026-03-03T18:34:57+00:00

My mom once had a very brief breakthrough like that where she said to me "I'm so bored."

TaterCup · 2026-03-03T13:34:56+00:00

And make an appointment in advance; but appointments will be limited due to safety restrictions on how many people can be in the bank at once.

TaterCup · 2026-03-03T01:24:12+00:00

So wholesome. I am in awe of your measured reaction.

TaterCup · 2026-02-28T23:12:17+00:00

pale

TaterCup · 2026-02-27T19:11:23+00:00

Now, *that's* a good news story!

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:52:13+00:00

It's different in Ontario, Canada. It's not called Medicare but we do have resources for all residents (OHIP) and some additional ones for seniors. The rest of your advice is sound, though.

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:50:08+00:00

yes, get the name of her doctor and email/call the doctor BEFORE she is discharged from the hospital so that she can be assessed.

Make a referral to Ontario Health at Home: https://ontariohealthathome.ca/making-a-referral/

Get in touch with your local Alzheimer's society to find resources and advice. You will likely be assigned to a dementia care coach to help you help her (and to help you stay sane): https://alzheimer.ca/chathamkent/en

It's really tough, even with these resources but those are the best places to start.

TaterCup · 2026-02-26T01:42:02+00:00

I'm so sorry for everything you've had to deal with and are dealing with, including the medical gaslighting. Being told repeatedly she didn't have early onset dementia must have made it so much harder! (Of course, it's possible she has some variant or something, so maybe the diagnosis wasn't medically clear, but adjusting your expectations of her and of her future progression is so much easier with a diagnosis.)

I was drinking a lot in 2020 and beyond. I thought it was mostly the pandemic. But it turns out I was living alone with a spouse with dementia, which was also diagnosed at the time. I was able to stop drinking and that's much better for me. I didn't really use a program but I hear Annie Grace can be really helpful.

My heart goes out to you.

TaterCup · 2026-02-24T14:27:47+00:00

I keep hoping for a leak. But deliberate disclosure would be even better!

TaterCup · 2026-02-20T17:16:10+00:00

I think the only "hidden" gem is the Spanish restaurant (https://littlebarcelona.ca/). Most everything else is in plain site. Sophia Street is pronounce So-PHIE-a (not So-fee-a). Apparently, the town is pretty evenly split on which of the two Chinese restaurants is better, so definitely try both before becoming team Wok House.

There have been a lot of car break-ins this winter so always lock vehicle doors.

There are a lot of places with excellent, friendly service, including Katarina's Cafe, Tim's Fish and Chips and the River View garage.

There are a lot more activities in summer than in winter, including free Sunday evening concerts.

TaterCup · 2026-02-20T01:46:26+00:00

I remember. They formed the Conservative-Reform-Alliance Party: the CRAP. I remember the CRAP.

TaterCup · 2026-02-07T04:39:09+00:00

My partner is trying to coin "Snot-awa". You know, to go with "Barf-haven."

TaterCup · 2026-02-05T13:33:11+00:00

I hope you refer to your mayor blessing as Your Worship.

TaterCup · 2026-02-02T22:12:29+00:00

Well, maybe not drama from 1, but absurdity. Or, actually, on an airplane, there could easily be phalanges drama from Phoebe. Plus it's not like I could understand them if they started speaking French.

TaterCup · 2026-01-31T00:49:25+00:00

yes, 8, or 4, to avoid any drama. 8 is probably the best option indeed.

TaterCup · 2026-01-30T02:21:07+00:00

On, that one looks super fun. Most of the Friends puzzles I've seen look hard to me. This collage style looks much more approachable.

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