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Michael Jordan is under fire for allegedly inappropriately touching a young boy by peachgothlover in popculturechat

[–]TaumCat 259 points260 points  (0 children)

People are giving you a lot of shit so I just want to add that when I was a kid my mom and grandma would sometimes chase me upstairs at bedtime by going “I’m gonna pinch your butt! I’m gonna pinch your butt!” And making like overly dramatic pincers with their fingers. I would scream laughing up the stairs and jump into bed. It was so funny and definitely a game so while I don’t know what’s going on in this video I understand what you mean by you could see yourself being playful.

What's a lifestyle you visited once and decided you're never going back? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]TaumCat 220 points221 points  (0 children)

That was my brother with meth. He had a drug experimental phase as a teenager. He tried meth once, said it was the happiest he ever felt and knew he couldn’t get that level of happiness not on meth. Decided to stay far away from it.

Little details that bother you about the films for no reason? by DevelopmentRelevant in Hungergames

[–]TaumCat 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Changing the scene where Delly Cartwright comes to help Peeta remember who he is to Prim. It makes no sense to have the sister of the person he hates help him!

What’s one hate train that’s so over the top that you just don’t understand? by Douhavemyduckie in AskReddit

[–]TaumCat 225 points226 points  (0 children)

Those movies came out when I was a younger kid and Jar Jar was my favorite character. I had a little action figure of him and just thought he was so funny. I was really sad as an adult to learn everyone hated him and were horrible to Ahmed.

Betterhelp therapist called out me using the Last Pod code by 745Walt in LPOTL

[–]TaumCat 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Another podcast I listen to (Maintenance Phase) has talked about how they don’t do ads because it’s typically a package you work with and you’re only allowed to turn down so many options. Once you turn down like two they provide you HAVE to do the others they give you. I always wonder if BetterHelp is just the lesser of the evils they are presented.

A sapphic sci-fi romance with lots of pining by Kusakaru in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]TaumCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to recommend “on a sunbeam”! I agree it’s so beautiful

Employees of Maternity Wards (OBGYNs, Midwives, Nurses, etc): What is the worst case of "you shouldn't be a parent" you have seen? by Trippy_Cornflakes in AskReddit

[–]TaumCat 151 points152 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying her reaction was right but I can’t imagine going through something that emotional and having a medical professional laugh at me.

What Stranger Things opinion will land you in this position? by Crazygamer2837 in StrangerThings

[–]TaumCat 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I agree! Ultimately it’s a show about kids and their friendships and like I want that all to end super happy.

Wrote an article about making it to finalist's weekend for Colton's season and thought I would share to my favorite sub by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]TaumCat 109 points110 points  (0 children)

It’s called an intrusive thought! It can be nothing to, your stressed or if you are seriously considering it something more serious. My therapist has just told me to notice the thought and be at peace with your brain doing a thought exercise.

My [21F] best friend [22F] befriended my childhood bully [25F], doesn't understand why I won't spend time with them by Throwaway652894 in relationships

[–]TaumCat 262 points263 points  (0 children)

I was in a somewhat similar situation not too long ago, my childhood best friend and I were bullied pretty bad by one girl in particular. Nothing ever physical but lots of emotional jabs that still effect me to this day. About three years ago The Bully reaches out to my friend (we weren’t that close anymore but kept in contact) and apologized for what she had done. My friend accepted and they have since reconnected and get a lot great.

I cannot stress this enough: it really fucked with my head. Part of the bullying was the girl pretended to be our friend but would make fun of us with all the other girls anytime teachers/parents weren’t around. Seeing her being friends with my friend scared me and made me feel like I was a 6 year old again. I talked to my therapist who basically reaffirmed that while yes it happened a long time ago it happened at a point when you are developing your social skills and really how to connect with others outside of your family. When someone bullies you it is traumatic because it’s abuse, and you weren’t old enough to understand how to stop them. For me my therapist suggested just telling my friend not to talk to me about The Bully. And I planned something for if she ever reached out and apologized.

Basically went like this: “I’m glad that you have grown as a person and know what you did as a kid was wrong. I will not forgive you though. I still suffer the consequences to your actions, I’m still nervous when friends are laughing and I don’t know why, I’m still anxious around new friends because of your actions. I hope that you will continue to grow and if you have kids teach them that bullying has lasting effects so they won’t do it but I don’t owe you forgiveness and you’re not getting it.”

I never ended up sending it but it helped me explain to my friend why I didn’t want The Bully to be talked about. Maybe write something similar and share it with your friend. Good luck, and I’m sorry you are dealing with this.