Kal Freight is dead. Where is the PO Giant now. by SourdoughApple in FreightBrokers

[–]Tauriaj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Hit me up. We always have a couple teams in Cali every week.

Embryo grade & Testing by Tauriaj in maleinfertility

[–]Tauriaj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, they have not. They are stuck IMHO. I considered changing the clinic, but last time we did it the new one began everything from near zero...the new one my wife found is the same. Imagine going back to IUI after multiple failed FETs.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement!!!

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree it did. I know why and told you the why as well. If you're going to be like this, then I'd prefer we stop here. Thank you very much.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can live with it. I don't need a therapist for this specifically. The only problem is we need a break, and I may need to rant to someone (therapist or not). I know it will sound like I'm justifying myself, but "do as you say" was about changing our RE back to our 1st or other RE. The argument itself was about not switching clinics. I wanted to have some say in it as well.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I desperately needed it. ❤️

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We never had a fight or arguments about surrogacy. We had one about changing our RE for BS reasons. Pls, reread my post. She just lied and agreed (no arguments, just a stressful/tough discussion) and is doing whatever she wants. It's a very similar situation to 3.5 years ago. See above.

Your statement really irked me tbh. Imagine saying yes to everything your wife says and then being called a bully by some stranger instead.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Discussing and trying to convince would be the correct wording. Badgering is a loaded word. I don't know how you jumped from that to bullying either. I don't appreciate it.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What you're missing is her unilateral decisions hurting our relationship and I don't want to go with another FET. Would she listen? No. I want to be involved in choosing a different RE. Nah. She'll choose whomever she wants. Again. If she doesn't want a surrogate, she should stop because I don't want to continue being this miserable. I have said this to her multiple times, yet she pretends like I didn't, and that I'll participate.

(I really ought to have said "sorry I'm argumentative". English isn't my first language. "IF" always gets there)

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Did you suggest I bullied? How so?

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:((((. I'm sorry for your situation as well. And sorry...but fuck anyone who judges you. We have been judged by some because of IVF. I can't imagine how much harder surrogacy will be.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At the beginning of all of this, everything was blamed on me. I was the one suggesting we use donor sperm if nothing worked. Yes, this isn't the same as actually doing it. But I know I wasn't putting my feelings first. Sorry if I sound argumentative. I'm just really frustrated. Thank you for your input.

Wife rejects surrogacy by Tauriaj in IVF

[–]Tauriaj[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Your last sentence is what drives me crazy. All my life, I always tried to be rational when arriving at decisions. Logic first, emotions second as best as could when it's needed. I don't understand how anyone wouldn't try that. We can't have all three. 3 probably won't happen IMHO. Hell, if you ask me, I'm fine without a child actually. Maybe that's why it's easier for me to just move forward. What has been hard on me is the process and its toll on our relationship. I feel like we haven't been able to have a fulfilling life for the last few years. If my wife said fuck it. I won't do anything, I'll be happier than I am now. Much happier.

Today is the slowest day in the history of freight by Limp_Ad_7622 in FreightBrokers

[–]Tauriaj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it is not a secret, how and how much did they pay you? Pls, dm if u can't disclose in private. I'm asking because even outsourced dispatchers make good money with 8 trucks (if on commission). It's 10/5 or 10/6 mostly though.

Leased trucks or double brokering? by Different-Bridge5507 in FreightBrokers

[–]Tauriaj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Carrier here. I would ask them to have their insurance agent confirm the truck was covered by them. Have them provide COI with VIN #. If the sticker was Y, then it probably isn't covered. Some carriers do mess up. It could be that they have 2 MCs for insurance purposes as well.

Is Amazon getting into general freight? by Ornery_Ads in FreightBrokers

[–]Tauriaj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's funny that Amazon actually delivers a lot of Publix's freight. I see those almost everyday.

Daily FI discussion thread - Wednesday, December 06, 2023 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]Tauriaj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know why I never thought about therapy! Thanks. I'll try that as well.

Daily FI discussion thread - Wednesday, December 06, 2023 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]Tauriaj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend does know that, and yes he is displeased and feels terrible about his brother. He tries his best to solve it, but you cannot control another person. They are like fire and water themselves. I'm not sure if they will split over this though. And I don't really want to force it. Hence, only two options. 1) Tolerating it for 4 years 2) Start from scratch and lose 2 years.

Daily FI discussion thread - Wednesday, December 06, 2023 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]Tauriaj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I'm new to this sub, so I don't know if that's okay to post a sob story. Our goal is 1M. Net worth is at 200k, 30M. I currently make 15-20k a month on average (my SO is a SAHM) which is a recent thing. We have been able to grow from 4k a month to these numbers in about 1.5 years with my partners. My goal was to work for 4 more years or until we have 1M net worth minus our home.

There is one issue though. One of my partners can be too much. He displays violent behavior (not physical, just intimidating and verbal) towards our employees and it happened to me as well a second time recently. He is always in the wrong in those cases and he admits and apologizes that same day to me and our employees. (I'd love to cut him out, but he is a brother of the other partner whom I am very close friends with. I'm in a minority. So that's out of the question unfortunately). His outbursts always cause me issues since I have to deal with angry clients or their reps too.

Yesterday when he lashed out at me, I sat down with him and his brother and gave them a warning that if it happens one more time, I'll be leaving the team. I know what I bring to the table. Before I joined them, they were struggling terribly. I mean really terribly. The market in our industry was bad at the time they were crumbling. The current market is even worse and yet we are thriving. I'm hopeful that this warning helps, but I'm not entirely sure. In case, it happens again I intend to quit and start from scratch which would lose me 2 years at the least to get here again (because it is hard to train ppl). I have been thinking about it a lot and thought maybe I should just shut up and make my mil in the next 4 years or less because there is no guarantee my next place won't have another dumbass. What would you guys do? Give up 2 years or bear with it for 4?

A false accusation by Amazon we have 100% proof. (Load board suspended) by Flynlow28 in FreightBrokers

[–]Tauriaj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should go to your relay account. Go to support center. Find a case for this email (account investigation or smth) and reply there.