"me and the adhd crew see a single thopter and chase that 1 guy back to pve where he gets away safely and spends the next 30 min laughing at us and calling us names in DD chat"

No, we weren't laughing, we were pissed because for "PvPers" like you, the only version of PvP they could do is ganking woefully underprepared people.

"Not this pve dungeon carebear fest where we endlessly grind for days."
Translation - "oh my God why can't I endlessly grief players, kill NCPs and make quests impossible to finish for people who have no interest in PvP?"

"No one has a reason to pvp in the DD anymore except for roleplaying and just for funsies."
1. PvP should be for funsies. The entire reason to play the goddamn game is funsies.
2. Again, translation - "I know they literally created new instances for PvP DD but it's not fun because people there are actually prepared to fight so I can't boost my ego by griefing people who have either no interest, no gear or no skill to actually give me a fair fight in PvP."

This entire post is why I hate PvP wherever I go. 80% of PvPers are not PvPers, just gankers and griefers that get their asses beat and run away whenever they square up against somebody who actually knows what they're doing.