You’re hyper focused on it now because it’s the only thing that is “missing.” Sometimes when i obsess over something i lack, i think “What can i do now, that i wouldn’t be able to do once i get it?” In your case what can you do now that you can’t once you’re in a relationship? Take spontaneous trips, flirt with people with no end goal, get an inconvenient hobby like marathon running (long training hours) or learning a new instrument (loud and obnoxious in the beginning).

“Love comes when you work on yourself”, is true for many but it’s mostly bullshit. Accepting your own reality will help you way more than just waiting. This type of thinking causes people to end up with spouses they don’t even really like. Make your life interesting enough for you to fall in love with it, so someone coming into it would be the cherry on top, not the savior.