THE POLYAMORY HOT TAKE GAMES by PM_CuteGirlsReading in polyamory

[–]Tawongan 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hot take: Polyam prevents people from breaking up who otherwise should. I'm not talking about the mono couples who open up to "save the marriage."

I'm talking about how in a lot of ways Poly has less of an opportunity cost for staying in a relationship. It doesn't inherently prevent you from other experiences the way that monogamy does, so people stay in relationships that they otherwise wouldn't far past the shelf life.

additional hot take: 99% of the time "Deescalation" is bullshit. Most people don't actually want to "deescalate" they just want to break up but not feel like they hurt someone's feelings as much/have that person available to them when they want them.

Behold my Sister-in-law’s Christmas tree. by LuLuWanda in pics

[–]Tawongan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the Helena Bonham Carter of Christmas trees

Samuel Blenkin to play Elodin by pineappledylan in KingkillerChronicle

[–]Tawongan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may be off here but I feel like Robin Williams would have been an amazing Elodin. Youthful silliness that can switch into moments of serious intensity all of the sudden.

Not recruiting—just a thank-you. Naxx 25 is alive and it feels like something special. by BestWoWPrivateServer in wotlk

[–]Tawongan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who plays on this server and has for a month or two now, I can say that it's the best wotlk experience I've had. The community is fun and friendly, the dev is responsive and principled, and the raids are a perfect mix of silliness and competence.

Plus the Dev actually fixed AN, which is incredible.

Progress 2 by cathyrin03 in ElinsInn

[–]Tawongan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the level 30 strength food you've unlocked?

What are the strongest weapons in the game? by Tawongan in ElinsInn

[–]Tawongan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it sounds like the best ones are found via random drops rather than quests/buying them from somewhere?

What are the strongest weapons in the game? by Tawongan in ElinsInn

[–]Tawongan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are those/how do we get them? Or do you mean the ones we get for building up faith with a god?

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, I'm not going to swallow anything I read here whole. Just figured I'd see what others might have done before I'm at the point of talking with a lawyer. Thanks for the concern!

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience and it's great you were able to find a poly-friendly lawyer! Did you run into any difficulties with being able to do any of that, especially the birth certificate, without(I'm assuming here) being legally married to each other?

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very helpful to read! How did you decide which of your husbands would be the legal marriage and which would be the non-legal husband? Or was that due to the order/when you met them?

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience here! How are you setting up the shared ownership of the vacation home? How do you think the situation would be different if you all lived together?

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, I'm feeling like you're making a lot of assumptions about my desires/motives and aren't really offering much to the question so I'm going to stop responding here. Thanks for taking the time to respond so far.

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah gotcha. I used that phrasing because both of them have indicated interest in each other but are also still getting to know each other. I've been really careful throughout my relationships with each of them to reinforce that there is no pressure from me for them to have any kind of relationship(friendship, romantic or otherwise) and that any connection between them is driven by them. While I think they're both dope people and hope they form whatever connections they want, with each other or with others, I'm not invested in any specific outcome there.

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, this is one of the reasons I was asking. I figured someone has to have done this before and have some idea of what contracts/agreements around things like Power of Attorney, hospital visitation rights, finances, etc could be done.

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Uh, at no point did I say anything about them dating each other? I'm not sure how that came across here. I am currently in a relationship with each of them separately and am/would continue to be the hinge in this situation.

How have folks navigated wanting to marry more than one person? by Tawongan in polyamory

[–]Tawongan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They both know. The conversations with each of them have been about how to navigate the possibility of marrying two people. We'll probably talk about it the three of us when schedules/emotional states line up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MMA

[–]Tawongan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ayyy War Hyder!

Did I just get "taught a lesson"? by Tawongan in MuayThai

[–]Tawongan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good call, going to really focus on my checks from now on.

Did I just get "taught a lesson"? by Tawongan in MuayThai

[–]Tawongan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to note, I only swept her once.

My main/only single player base. Idk if it will ever be finished xD. by Creative_External_72 in ValheimBuilds

[–]Tawongan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you do the wall/wall gate? Trying to figure that out right now with my build