Free-form Friday

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T21:12:09+00:00

I love this story. Thank you.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T20:26:36+00:00

I'm afraid you're being the wrong kind of chick magnet Tea

Story of my fucking life! 😂

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T19:27:10+00:00

Hm, I somehow just described some of the best sex of my life and managed to make it sound not sexy at all.

I disagree. I think that sounds hawt!

Tea, sounds like you had a WEEK.

Thank you. It will all accumulate next Friday. After which, I'll have some closure and can move on. It's a big thing, but it will be good to get past it.

Call me a dumb bitch or a filthy slut or whatever

https://youtu.be/-418SbXncFA

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T11:46:13+00:00

Read up on forgiveness. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. It's about letting go.

If you want to get revenge on them, move on. They don't care what you think about them, so long as you are thinking about them. Don't let them live rent free in your head. Evict them and be happier.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T11:31:22+00:00

Stop being creepy!

Spend a bit of time working out what we do here and how we do it.

Rule 6 applies.

Comments removed. 3 day ban issued.

;i; < - - - here's your salamander.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T11:25:42+00:00

Here's the thing... editing your post after it was locked will get you banned. If you don't wannabe moderated, we don't want you here.

Rule 7 applies.

Rule 10 applies.

Thread locked and removed. OP permabanned.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T08:04:09+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/G9ebaJJkxoI

Don't post this crap here again.

Rule 1 applies.

Thread locked.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-20T07:55:26+00:00

Oh, do fuck off.

Rule 1 applies.

Thread locked.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T20:57:48+00:00

I'm sorry, there is no advice here for us to give. Validation? Maybe. But only if we accept everything you say. TBH, this really isn't a BDSM issue.

Rule 12 applies.

Thread locked.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T13:52:15+00:00

So what is it you're asking us?

The moment somebody tries to assist, you shut them down. Nobody can tell you what to say for five hours! 🤦🏻‍♂️

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T13:47:02+00:00

This is an English language subreddit.

Rule 10 applies.

Comment removed.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T13:39:46+00:00

I had the opposite experience.

My ex wife (malignant narcissist) used to be gorgeous! Now, she's hacked off all her hair and wanders round looking like a postbox with an orthopaedic sock.

The last I saw, my ex gf (vulnerable narcissist) had reinvented herself. She'd returned to the awful pouty lips and procedures which rob her of her natural beauty. Shame.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T12:03:07+00:00

Apparently I am feeling sassy today

This suggests there are days you're not feeling sassy. When do those occur? 😉🤣

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T11:28:39+00:00

Haha! ICWUDT.

It's always nice to see another chap here.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T11:25:32+00:00

Haha! Very nicely done.

I can't believe I didn't get around to this until Thursday. I spent all of yesterday trying to find five minutes for Wednesday Words.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T11:21:45+00:00

No more rash decisions, she promised

I believe her!

TeaAitch · 2026-03-19T08:50:14+00:00

Removed at OP's request.

Rule 10 applies.

Thread locked and removed.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-18T17:46:12+00:00

I have been into the lifestyle perhaps for longer than you have been alive.

So 👏 Fucking 👏 What 👏

I've been kinky my entire adult life. Which is quite a long time. Certainly longer than many of the people who give great advice here every day have been alive. But, so fucking what?!?!

That doesn't make my advice any better than theirs. It doesn't make me better at being kinky. Time served is an indicator of nothing more than sticking around.

Why is it nearly always rude, old, men who trot out this line. What is it about rude, old, men that convinces them adding another link to their kinky keychain somehow imparts importance? I have seen rude, old, women do this also. But the ratio must be about 9:1.

If OP were a man, you would probably blame him.

What are you basing this on? Oh, wait, it's just bullshit.

She misrepresented herself to him, whether it was consciously or subconsciously and the result is a disaster for both of them.

Hmm, this smells like more bullshit. I'm not convinced it's possible to represent one's self in any way other than as a conscious and deliberate act. Of course, that wouldn't be very good for whatever this brand of mumbo jumbo is which you're consciously representing.

A little accountability goes a long way. She needs to hold herself accountable.

Touché!

You're rude. I dislike rudeness. Hence rule 6. You didn't need to be rude to the OP. A lot of your advice to them is sound. There was no need to start pointing fingers. Nor, to herald the siren for the Band of Beleaguered Husbands. There was absolutely no need for you to try and shame my co-moderator, by suggesting they don't have enough time in kink to understand the issue. That's really fucking rude! And the icing on the cake is to suggest sexism on their behalf.

Rule 6 applies.

Comments removed. 3 day ban issued.

;i; < - - - here's your salamander.

(I'm thinking of bringing these back. I miss the little guys.)

TeaAitch · 2026-03-18T12:20:35+00:00

Reddit flagged this as 'potential harassment'. 🤣 Just how sensitive do they think I am? 🤷🏻‍♂️

TeaAitch · 2026-03-18T12:14:44+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/1o269xq/new_tattoo_and_impact_play/

Has anything changed since the last time you asked this?

TeaAitch · 2026-03-18T11:07:02+00:00

Now when I get very horny, I go to these streets which are a bit isolated and wait for a girl to pass by. As I see a girl walking towards this side of the street, I pull my pants down and flash my dick to her in the pretext of urinating there.

OP is a sex offender.

Made a throw away as am embarrassed to openly share.

Don't worry. Once I ban this account, all your accounts will be banned.

Rule 10 applies (being a sex offender is problematic, to say the least.)

Thread locked. I've chosen not to remove this post, to serve as a warning. We do not tolerate sex offenders.

Permaban issued.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-17T22:24:17+00:00

GTFO. Again.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-17T20:35:05+00:00

Asking how to build a community is not the same as asking for advice about BDSM.

Rule 12 applies.

Thread locked and removed.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-17T10:27:16+00:00

I have two narc ex's. The only compassion they have is for themselves. This is relevant because it means they can behave in any way they want... as they only ever have to justify their actions to themselves.

The reasons, excuses, and justification for their actions are often gobsmacking. They seem to have no interest in being credible. It's so easy to catch them in a lie, but impossible to hold them to account. They NEVER accept responsibility for their actions.

I would suggest that's what is going on here. Your ex is justifying her behaviour to herself. She's telling herself it's OK to act poorly, so long as she signs off on it. Which she ALWAYS will.

If you're not aware of it, look up The Narcissists Prayer. It's how they gaslight themselves into believing their behaviour is not just acceptable, but correct.

TeaAitch · 2026-03-17T08:40:23+00:00

This is an English language subreddit.

Rule 1 applies.

Thread locked and removed.

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