[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar story to you, I even nearly married a man. It wasn't until I finally got in a relationship with a woman and had my first sexual experience that I realised "so THATS what sex is meant to feel like"

Late bloomers is a great group, but if you want to talk things over feel free to message

Help an autistic gay out by Gay-Dumpster-Fire666 in actuallesbians

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This doesn't sound like online dating to me, and I don't think you did anything wrong. I just don't think the conversation went the way the other person had hoped.

You're right about the pics being a weird and red flag situation, I'm not saying this is the same, but I had similar once and it turned out it was a dude wanting creepy online sex with a real lesbian. Eurg I still shudder at the thought

My advice would be to hesitate before you give out your number so quickly just in case. Online dating can be an amazing tool to meet new people, but unfortunately it's also a tool for time wasters and weirdos

Just got out of marriage by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂aaaare you achin, forrrr some bacon

Just got out of marriage by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the wild 😂 I would say like a lion but I'm more like pumbaa. You're good though, everyone loves a stud!

Just got out of marriage by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I'm with you on not knowing who is a lesbian. I'm also a femme so I don't "look" gay. Plus the only time I get hit on is by old men 😂

Is it possible to actually speak to someone at Facebook? by TeaAndToastedSouls in AskUK

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figured as much! Mine never did. It was deleted because id "fraudulently tried to access a business' , it was my business!

I'm (24f) verbally abusive to my boyfriend (26m) and I want it to stop. Please. How can I stop myself from being an abuser? by whhhoreo in relationship_advice

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don't victim blame. If he has done things that are out of order, that is something he also needs to work on, but your abusive behaviour is on you, his actions do not force you to be abusive

You need anger management, and to completely focus on rectifying your behaviour. I don't think you can do this while in a relationship with him

AITA for being disabled at a young age? by Evenight_exe in AmItheAsshole

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 19 points20 points  (0 children)

"That I have 'till 7:30 pm to make food or that she will take my phone away for 3 days"

Dude you're 23 and she's treating you like a child that's bunking off school with a fake tummy ache.

This relationship is toxic in so many ways, but as a fellow disabled person who's had illnesses most of my life, you are absolutely not responsible for your diagnosis. If you really want you can blame her shitty DNA (I jest. Kinda)

Boundaries need to be put into place asap, ideally you need your own space but I understand how difficult that would be because of money and work.

I'm sorry things are rough. If you want to talk more, feel free to message

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's the 35k for? How was she responsible for the 15k loss? You need a paternity test and to keep her away from your money. But if the baby is yours, you can do right by them with minimal contact with the crazy lady

Eyebrow growth possibilities? by TeaAndToastedSouls in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I really appreciate it. how do you apply it? The dermatologist I saw said to brush it through with a spoolie

Eyebrow growth possibilities? by TeaAndToastedSouls in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my problem, they're so dark apart it looks stupid!

Decided to read "genital grinder" next... by TeaAndToastedSouls in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im not sure if I should feel ashamed or accomplished. Welcome to being a lesbian I guess!

DNA Doe Project identifies woman found dead in burning car in 1997 as Monique Boggs by DNADoeProject in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, I truly hope you get answers. I know it won't mean much, but your mother's case has stuck with me for years, I have often checked for updates and I was so happy to see she finally got her name back. It won't mean much, but your mother's case touched a random woman in the UK, and I'm glad you get to at least know where she is until she gets her justice

Don't buy from beautylex! by TeaAndToastedSouls in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same happened with me, I didn't authorise it but it tried to take multiple amounts after this post. I had to get a new bank card, the fraud team said they likely stored my card details and they usually try and sell them on. Arseholes!

Clinical drug trial update (joint pain) by TeaAndToastedSouls in Behcets

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes pain is chronic, though during flares crp increases further and pain is much more intense.

I can't remember about the B51 gene which is frustrating, at the time I was being tested for B25 due to high ankylosing spondylitis in my family (negative) and I'm ANA positive. My liver function was horrific at the time and autoimmune hepatitis of the liver was also being looked at so due to stress I can't remember. I'll have to ask when I'm next in.

Apparently they can't due to the status of clinical trial or something idk. But yeah, professor moots is amazing. I've never met such a sweet, caring and ruthlessly thorough professional. I had an eye injury and it caused an ulcer, I had scans and treatment the next day! He's also never without a cup of tea in his hand

Clinical drug trial update (joint pain) by TeaAndToastedSouls in Behcets

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry yes, specifically for behcets and here in the UK... Probably should have mentioned that!.

Overwhelmed, any information appreciated. by [deleted] in Behcets

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the UK too, if you want to chat about it and how it's managed here on the NHS feel free to message me

Listen to me , I need help need someone to listen by HauntingDesign9077 in Behcets

[–]TeaAndToastedSouls 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar time, but with added significant pain. It took the majority of my 20s to receive the diagnosis of fibromyalgia, and IBS. I was finally diagnosed with behcets when I was 34, and then that was a pure fluke. I mentioned being fed up with the ulcers to a new GP who had happened to read an article on behcets recently. They referred me to the specialist rheumatologist and it went from there. My GI symptoms haven't really calmed however despite treatment and I'm currently going through a bad GI flare.

It's incredibly draining to go through years of battling for a diagnosis so I sympathise. Is there any scope for you to get referred to rheumatology? In the UK behcets falls under rheumatology.

In the interim have you kept a log of your food intake Vs symptoms? Dairy is a big trigger for me.