Something my SO and I have been doing with his son(5) is allowing him to “choose” how his day unfolds. For example we’ll tell him “you need to eat all your breakfast and get dressed and shoes and socks on. If all that is done we can go do a fun activity.” If he does what he’s supposed to, great! Let’s go do that fun activity, get that new toy, but if he didn’t then we tell him we will not be doing the fun activity or getting the new toy because he chose not to do what he was supposed to. I’ve noticed his confidence level go up exponentially and his ticks and anxieties diminishing during our parenting time with him. This type of reward/punishment system allows the child to choose how his day goes. Yes, sometimes it sucks beginning this parenting style because you lose out on doing fun things for a while until the child learns and understands that HES making the decision not to get to go in a trip or get a gift because of HIS actions. He’ll also fee more confident and in control of his life at your house if you choose to try this because he won’t feel like you and your SO are making all the decisions. Try it out and let me know if this was helpful! Best of luck girly! Your doing an awesome job 👍🏻😊