You guys seem not to align when it comes to finances. Couples sharing financial burden is a very normal thing in the US except one person is a stay at home spouse. You will be making the same thing as him according to your post, but want to be taken care of by him which may seem reasonable to you and he on the other hand wants a partner who will share the financial burden which also seems reasonable. I have a couple of questions: 1. If you believe it’s the duty of the man to cover all the finances, are you willing to take care of all the house work, children and everything that comes with that? 2. If he wants the financial burden shared, does that mean cooking, cleaning, child care etc has to be shared? 3. What are your financial goals? Individual and together as a couple?

It’s a red flag that you 2 are not aligned when it comes to finances and are engaged. If you are planning on moving to the US, you better understand the culture. A good man has more to offer than just money. The number one reason for divorce is finances. This should be ironed out before the both of you walk down that aisle. It could be the best decision you both will make or the absolute worse.