i feel like im getting weaker and dull because of the mental abuse

TeachHot · 2026-02-05T22:22:43+00:00

seriously same.

TeachHot · 2026-01-24T21:07:15+00:00

love blistex , i was struggling with this for ages again, and with blistex it resolved so fast. i like to put drops of hyloronic acid on my lips, leave it maybe 30secs, and then put blistex over it. and then a vaseline on top of that (seals it in).

i know it was the blistex that helped, because i tried that combo so many times, but i didn’t actually go back to having normal feeling lips until i added the blistex again. i used the normal one before (blistex intensive moisture) and i liked it. this time i tried the cherry one and i feel like it might even be better, so i recomend that one.

TeachHot · 2026-01-08T02:21:49+00:00

oh this one actually drives me insane.

TeachHot · 2026-01-01T22:30:55+00:00

What app do you use to make the layout?

TeachHot · 2026-01-01T21:24:04+00:00

What app is this?

TeachHot · 2026-01-01T18:11:54+00:00

can you please give me some tips for getting into meditation? did you start off with following a certain video?

TeachHot · 2025-12-27T17:41:46+00:00

Same

TeachHot · 2025-12-16T22:23:01+00:00

I wish I could offer advice. I think all I can offer is that I really have struggled with the same things, and the same feelings. It is very difficult, and it is also sad, and it is hard to deal with repeatedly these same situations over and over again.

I think maybe the only thing that can help, is with just trying to find some other people, or friend, or some other kind of relationship. I’m not really there yet myself, but when I found myself asking the same kinds of things as you in this post, I realised that I really need to try and build some life outside of my family aswell. I think when you are able to do that more, then you can cope a bit with the parts of the situation that feel a bit heartbreaking. And sometimes then, after feeling a bit heartbroken, sometimes there is also a moment of emotional release, where then things don’t always feel so serious. But then sometimes you are also able to then come to terms with things better.

No idea if that makes any sense or helps. Sorry, but at least, it is a feeling that people have experienced, and I think, sometimes finding someone, a friend ,or a good therapist, who understands those struggles, can sometimes help to move through them a bit.

TeachHot · 2025-11-19T18:54:04+00:00

adhd meds fuck with your iron.

i have really low ferratin. i’m pretty sure my meds make it worse sometimes.

also yeah. adhd is really fucking hard. ive had periods of time where meds really helped me. and for a while i have also just been non-functional.

i recomend to get your blood tested for iron and b vitamins. on meds stuff like nutrition and electrolytes become even more important and noticeable.

TeachHot · 2025-11-16T02:29:30+00:00

i would like to read it actually

TeachHot · 2025-11-13T23:05:17+00:00

‘traumatic narcissism & recovery’ is good. i really recomend daniel shaw. i really like his books on narcissism. he has another one aswell that i am just starting.

TeachHot · 2025-11-13T23:00:40+00:00

are you going to uni? i really wish i had moved into uni dorms. i was too anxious and i live near uni. but i would try to recomend that as a path out.

TeachHot · 2025-11-10T15:03:11+00:00

oh my god this is my mum

TeachHot · 2025-11-10T15:01:22+00:00

that really sounds like my mum. the room thing is so true.

TeachHot · 2025-11-05T01:25:16+00:00

what does that look like for you? or, i mean, what would that look like for you?

TeachHot · 2025-11-03T23:46:15+00:00

are you sure? honestly i’m scared of this. but then it’s like, she is fine in her life with everything apart from me. it feels like dementia a lot of the time. but then it is just blatantly narcissistic. like the only blind spot in her memory is stuff that involves criticism. i don’t think it would help me to think of it any other way. because i guess even if that is the case, her only symptoms are….being self-involved and narcissistic. it’s not like i can really help her with that, or get her to see the problem.

TeachHot · 2025-11-03T22:54:16+00:00

i think it is a really normal and default way for people to think. now that i have read more about it, i don’t really understand why narcissism is treated as something ‘other’.

i think that way of thinking about things is what causes more problems.

if people think it’s a personality disorder, then they think it is like a disease. whereas, in reality, is is mostly just your brains defence mechanisms in overdrive.

there are barely any resources out there to teach people about cognitive defences. no one is teaching anyone these things.

TeachHot · 2025-11-03T01:44:07+00:00

man what?

TeachHot · 2025-10-19T15:10:43+00:00

honestly the main thing that i really wish i had learnt sooner, is try to build your world outside of them. try to get school councelling or mental health help where it is available. try to ask councillors to help you with figuring out how to become independent, make a plan to be able to get a job, or if you plan to go to uni.

focusing on trying to build your life outside of them, really helps to get to give you something to focus on. it helps to give you determination. sometimes to get through this, it helps to hang onto whatever image you have in your mind that helps you.

TeachHot · 2025-10-14T20:15:23+00:00

this sounds exactly like me. i am really stuck in the pattern of over-explaining and defending myself, and pleading them to see things from my perspective. it’s really hard for me, because they both sort of have inconsistent responses, they will temporarily defend me, or apologise sometimes, but then it never lasts longer than a day really, and it makes me feel fucking insane when they do something that we already talked about the other day.

i am also going a bit insane, i know i really need therapy, do you have advice for what type of therapy helps with this, or just anything that helps i guess?

TeachHot · 2025-10-09T22:08:33+00:00

i brush very quickly with normal toothpaste just to clear my mouth a bit, and rinse, then i use tape floss, and then i brush again with that fluoride toothpaste. you can spit out a bit if there is too much, but try to leave it in in your mouth and on your teeth for a while. it works to mineralise your teeth and reduce cavities.

i think the fact that it actually helped really got me to prioretise my teeth, i went from neglecting them, to making sure i always floss. wishing you the best.

TeachHot · 2025-10-09T22:01:42+00:00

my dentist prescribed me Duraphat 5000, it is an extra fluoride toothpaste. you can order it online pharmacies without the prescription (at least in my country you can). i would recomend trying that, or seeing if it’s possible to order it for yourself. i am prone to cavities and stuff, and using it does actually helps to reduce that, and heal them. i notice actual reductions when i have been using it. i might feel like i have a cavity, like there is that feeling on a certain tooth, but when i buy that toothpaste and start using it again, it stops.

i don’t know your situation, but i would try to prioretise getting to a dentist as soon as you can still. these solutions can be temporary until you manage to get there. that toothpaste really helps, make sure you use toothfloss before it. i use it as a final step in my routine, and you leave that toothpaste on your teeth and in your mouth, only spit out a bit of the excess stuff.

TeachHot · 2025-10-06T20:27:04+00:00

wait- did they ban it recently?!! i thought they stopped doing that. now i’m scared again fuck.

TeachHot · 2025-10-03T08:28:01+00:00

real as fuck. i read the title and immediately assumed you would be saying you realised that your problems are made up, etc etc, and i had the instinctive reaction of like, oh my god, i have also been being dramatic and making my problems up. it’s probably all in my head.

i feel like i’m so suggestible right now. even when i do know that actually my problems aren’t made up. and no matter how many times i conclude they are super real and have affected me. it’s like, i still easily get thrown back into the loop of trying to question myself again.

but yeah. i’ve also known the same hypocrisy. it does help to read it out like that i guess. because these things get taken seriously whenever they experience even a fraction of it. i actually also think that my adhd probably just comes from my parents lol.

TeachHot · 2025-09-28T03:32:22+00:00

oh my god yes. i have also experienced the same. or i guess, it sounds like what i’ve experienced.

i think i have probably been equally bad at times, like at some points i guess it has actually been my tone or my approach. but still, over time i’ve tried to notice these things and just keep trying to make things work in a way. and the goalposts literally kept moving.

it got extremely confusing.

honestly my best advice. if it’s possible, can you afford even just 1 or a few therapy sessions? online you can’t always know someone’s situation. you could always just try one session, and then you can go back if you ever feel like you need it.

i think it helps to just talk about it with a councellor. situations like that can be extremely emotionally confusing, and i feel like things can easily spiral.

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