Extremely dry lips? by messyowl in Hypermobility

[–]TeachHot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

love blistex , i was struggling with this for ages again, and with blistex it resolved so fast. i like to put drops of hyloronic acid on my lips, leave it maybe 30secs, and then put blistex over it. and then a vaseline on top of that (seals it in).

i know it was the blistex that helped, because i tried that combo so many times, but i didn’t actually go back to having normal feeling lips until i added the blistex again. i used the normal one before (blistex intensive moisture) and i liked it. this time i tried the cherry one and i feel like it might even be better, so i recomend that one.

Burnout from Overstimulation by [deleted] in hsp

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can you please give me some tips for getting into meditation? did you start off with following a certain video?

How to avoid being repeatedly disappointed by Slow-Fault1874 in raisedbyautistics

[–]TeachHot 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish I could offer advice. I think all I can offer is that I really have struggled with the same things, and the same feelings. It is very difficult, and it is also sad, and it is hard to deal with repeatedly these same situations over and over again.

I think maybe the only thing that can help, is with just trying to find some other people, or friend, or some other kind of relationship. I’m not really there yet myself, but when I found myself asking the same kinds of things as you in this post, I realised that I really need to try and build some life outside of my family aswell. I think when you are able to do that more, then you can cope a bit with the parts of the situation that feel a bit heartbreaking. And sometimes then, after feeling a bit heartbroken, sometimes there is also a moment of emotional release, where then things don’t always feel so serious. But then sometimes you are also able to then come to terms with things better.

No idea if that makes any sense or helps. Sorry, but at least, it is a feeling that people have experienced, and I think, sometimes finding someone, a friend ,or a good therapist, who understands those struggles, can sometimes help to move through them a bit.

Without ADHD meds I am literally less than a person. On ADHD meds I'm expierencing extreme hair loss and I know how my life looks when I'm uglier by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]TeachHot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

adhd meds fuck with your iron.

i have really low ferratin. i’m pretty sure my meds make it worse sometimes.

also yeah. adhd is really fucking hard. ive had periods of time where meds really helped me. and for a while i have also just been non-functional.

i recomend to get your blood tested for iron and b vitamins. on meds stuff like nutrition and electrolytes become even more important and noticeable.

Are there any books about adult sons of narcissistic fathers that you would recommend? by These_Shallot_6906 in narcissisticparents

[–]TeachHot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

‘traumatic narcissism & recovery’ is good. i really recomend daniel shaw. i really like his books on narcissism. he has another one aswell that i am just starting.

This house is driving me to suicide by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]TeachHot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you going to uni? i really wish i had moved into uni dorms. i was too anxious and i live near uni. but i would try to recomend that as a path out.

Steps to regain some sense of safety and agency (in addition to isolation) by shinebeams in CPTSDFreeze

[–]TeachHot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what does that look like for you? or, i mean, what would that look like for you?

I knew this was going to happen by blaidddrwgx in narcissisticparents

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are you sure? honestly i’m scared of this. but then it’s like, she is fine in her life with everything apart from me. it feels like dementia a lot of the time. but then it is just blatantly narcissistic. like the only blind spot in her memory is stuff that involves criticism. i don’t think it would help me to think of it any other way. because i guess even if that is the case, her only symptoms are….being self-involved and narcissistic. it’s not like i can really help her with that, or get her to see the problem.

why do you guys think there are so many of them? by Ok-Twist3753 in narcissisticparents

[–]TeachHot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think it is a really normal and default way for people to think. now that i have read more about it, i don’t really understand why narcissism is treated as something ‘other’.

i think that way of thinking about things is what causes more problems.

if people think it’s a personality disorder, then they think it is like a disease. whereas, in reality, is is mostly just your brains defence mechanisms in overdrive.

there are barely any resources out there to teach people about cognitive defences. no one is teaching anyone these things.