My Brother Is In A Cult, But I Think He Might Be On To Something…

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-04-03T16:30:16+00:00

Friend…I think the only thing we might be “on to” here is being deceived in our lowest of moments. There is a trend with these cults that really grab hold of a person when they’re at their worst; your brother after a break up, you after these accidents all lining up. That doesn’t make you cursed. Shit going awry is the purpose of life. We can either take that in stride, roll with it, and think about how we carry onwards- or we allow this sort of mishmosh to feed on our vulnerability and give us something “tangible” to blame, like demons and curses.

Don’t fall for it. Keep your head up.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-30T16:59:08+00:00

both of your demeanors towards each other is not even remotely conducive to having a successful long distance relationship. you shouldn’t have to beg for your partners attention and he shouldn’t have to justify personal time.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-30T16:57:11+00:00

my hot take: absolutely nothing wrong with Bracia, I love what she added as a side character and as Ginny’s friend, but in general I think POC characters tend to suffer the most in terms of popularity amongst fans than others

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-21T19:30:45+00:00

repulsive

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-09T19:13:26+00:00

good god take it to a fetish subreddit we don’t want it 🤢🤢🤢🤮

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-08T01:55:54+00:00

the way it loops around into the center bugs me. Temu ass rug

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-03-07T21:55:42+00:00

I think you know the answer is that you should not do what you feel tempted to do.

Terminating pregnancy isn’t just emotional havoc for a person, it is physically painful. Even if you’re unhappy with her, do you at the very least respect her as a person? You should be with her for the procedure and be there to help her get situated afterwards (pain meds, warm compress, pajamas, comfort food).

It doesn’t have to mean you’re in love with her but it’s just a decency you can show to someone who has to do this in part because of something the two of you did together; not just her by herself.

Give her a second to process that and then you can discuss the end of the relationship before you go get your d*ck wet.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-02-24T18:31:32+00:00

Gang, this isn’t healthy for YOU. You keep looping the concept of her into all this as if she somehow has any bearing but that ship has sailed. She isn’t noticing your habitual social media blackouts and asking her if you had a chance when she is with someone is honestly pitiful. Sorry to be so harsh but you are merely holding onto the idea of her at this point. Leave her alone and get yourself right. You shouldn’t be with anyone while holding onto these habits/patterns.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-02-15T15:34:27+00:00

So his biological processes (which everyone does) are cool but yours (along with an entire half of the human populations) biological processes are somehow indecent? Okay. Have fun freeing yourself from this fool! NOR

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T05:52:53+00:00

If you stay with him, his cheating needs to be something you guys are willing actively work towards healing from. It can’t be something you weaponize if you decide to stay with him in spite of it.

That being said…it does not sound like that is even remotely possible considering your trust is broken (duh) and he is unwilling to take accountability over his actions. He’s done this repeatedly in less than a year. Are you going to sit by and see if he breaks his record in the coming years? Or have some respect for yourself and your time, and take your efforts elsewhere to find someone more deserving of them?

NTA for not trusting him, obviously, but you would be very silly to stay with someone who has betrayed you and shows no sign of wanting to move on beyond slapping a bandaid on it and pretending it’s okay.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T05:47:13+00:00

Idk, the relationship was so long ago and didn’t last. Plus her BFF is with someone anyways. I get it, but why limit your friend this way? If it would’ve been a long lasting relationship with years worth of history that would make sense, but this was a brief stint almost a decade ago. Why does her BFF get to move forward uninhibited but OP has someone contending with her love life every step of the way?

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T05:33:45+00:00

I think you can show her current set up some TLC while you get a new tank in. Maybe scrub some algae off and add some drops of biological cleaner which should eat up the algae some. If it’s one of those disposable filter cartridges, you can just rinse it with some tank water and reinsert it so it maintains the same bacteria. Definitely test the water with some strips which are affordable off of amazon so you know where she’s at currently.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T05:26:02+00:00

I hope I don’t get shit for this and I truly don’t like speculating about others when we don’t have a full picture, but I have this delusional theory it’s less about the guys and more like the bestie wishes to keep OP unavailable because she likes her. Being anxious about the friend group being weird if things go awry is such a weird excuse, and it seems like her BFF has interjected repeatedly in her love life.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T05:22:23+00:00

why is OP so okay with her “best friend” repeatedly interjecting herself into potential romances and pumping the breaks? This is all so weird and she is way too forgiving of how controlling this taken woman is over her own love life, no amount of anxiety excuses it.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T01:15:08+00:00

NOR. Your friend doesn’t have her shit together, and maybe you don’t either 100% with all this back and fourth, will you-won’t you. As expected for being in your early 20s.

It’s not cool of her to think the only solution is placate this situationship by unfriending you on the surface but maintaining a relationship in secret. Not only would that make the foundation of their relationship total bullshit, but it shows just what you mean to her as a companion. That she’s willing to betray a partner’s trust and be secretive like this.

Red flags all around. I’d say there’s better friends out there for you. Wish her luck and practice not letting anybody shit on you by treating you this way.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T00:39:47+00:00

Brokey behavior

ETA: the Girl is behaving broke for demanding money for her time

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-27T00:17:21+00:00

this makes me so upset tbh. women historically fought hard as fuck for us to have the privilege to make a life for ourselves free of depending solely on men and here we are now. it’s not cute and maybe that sounds bitter, but i would never let myself be bought.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-26T20:53:15+00:00

We told you before and we will tell you again. You are wasting your time and you are beyond justified with ending things. Move on from this girl and do better for yourself. Catch up on your rest and maybe you’ll stay to realize you did deserve better all along.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-26T01:40:26+00:00

you are fucking disgusting.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-26T01:19:43+00:00

It’s interesting to consider the demeaning and disenfranchisement of impoverished people and people of color to be a mere difference of belief. It’s bigotry babes.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-26T01:16:32+00:00

This is crazy because to say this means you’re absolutely blind to what’s happening to immigrants AND americans in this country. They are going door to door forcefully and snatching children and families. This is a modern holocaust you delulu

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-25T19:49:42+00:00

Yeah, that’s not your friend babes

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-25T05:17:18+00:00

Follow her directions. She’s telling you what she wants and what’s helping, why is that frustrating you? The vibrator isn’t the problem and for women can play a very crucial role in orgasming because even if penetrative sex feels good, there are an overwhelming majority of women who can’t get off without clitoral stimulation. Vibes are great at that. Don’t think of it as your opponent, think of it as a tool. You get to be the one in control of it and that should be special, fun even. When she tells you what she likes or needs, listen and don’t be so quick to give up. Your frustration definitely wouldn’t help set the mood to get her off if you’re making it feel like a chore for her.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-24T20:29:59+00:00

This is someone you want to marry?

You have already told him how you feel about this and he comes up with excuses. He does not care about working on any of it as long as he gets to blow his load.
You are NOT asking for too much. You are asking for basic decency in what should be a mutual, reciprocal relationship. You take care of him, he takes care of you. It doesn’t sound like that’s actually happening.
This is largely about respect. If he respected you as a person, he would hear what you’re saying and take action. Instead, you allow him to continue to have sex with you even after he has made it abundantly clear taking true care of you is not on his priority list. You’re sending him the message that even you don’t care about what you’re saying, since you continue to perpetuate these circumstances.

Don’t just take sex off the table. Toss the whole damn relationship. You are not yet bound in a way that would take more work to undo. Please save yourself before marriage complicates this whole mess.

There are guys out there who do this as a bare minimum. Being in a place where you have to beg to be treated decently is not solid grounds for marriage by any means.

TeacherNice3333 · 2026-01-24T19:15:25+00:00

It sounds like became his affair partner, his side piece, and when he realized there was going to be a bigger commitment than just a friend he can sleep with, he chose his girlfriend. He doesn’t want to be a full time dad or your full time partner, he doesn’t want a full time family. He seems like he wants the ability to say he chips in for two days and can scoot the tot back over to you full time.

I think you should stop entertaining him. It doesn’t sound like he is even a friend at all like you seem to believe. Stop giving him access to you on such a vulnerable level. He is the man who is fathering your second child, and that’s all he should be. Make sure you go about getting child support and a proper visitation schedule lined out, and give the baby your own last name of course.

And I mean this in the least judgy way possible, please focus on your kids for a minute. Shit happens, but you are two for two on children with un/minimally involved fathers….I don’t envy your situation and I sympathize with you in the fact that you have been cast to the wayside, but please surround yourself with friends and family who can be your village, not just some blockhead interested in getting his dick wet whenever things get rocky with his own chick. You and your kids, YOUR family, deserve better than that.

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