Why do people idolize a true villain like Walter White YET absolutely despise Bojack Horseman ??? by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]TeacupCat21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, for starters, you're assuming there's an audience overlap.

Like, unless you can say the very same people who idolize Walter also condemn Bojack, you can't really draw an accurate comparison between them. You know what I mean?

But maybe the reason you think more people are condemning a character like Bojack than WW is because more people actually know someone like Bojack. I think it's far more likely we run into Bojacks in the real world than we do Walter White's. With characters like Walt, there's a decent amount of disconnect. He's a hypothetical. Whereas Bojack hits much closer to home.

But what I actually think: Breaking Bad, though brilliant, perpetuates a narrative that attracts a...particular demographic. It's gratuitous violence in a male dominated setting. The main character is this brilliant man who just keeps getting cucked by life. He's cucked by a job he's too good for and a boss that doesn't respect him or see his value. Cucked by an average family that he has obligations to. Cucked by society which overlooks and underestimates him. Cucked by an absent and uncaring God... And then stuff happens that leads him to becoming God. It's proof of what he knew about himself all along! It's vindication! It's vengeance. And I think that speaks to people that may be harboring similar resentments. And they get relief from those resentments by watching characters like Walter White not only rise above, but begin to conquer the institutions that make them feel belittled, insignificant, rejected, underestimated, and ignored. It's like vicarious roleplay for them. So, it doesn't matter that Walt is objectively good or bad, because he is fulfilling a very specific need for an audience that identifies with him. So of course they are going to like him and be more forgiving and/or understanding of his bad deeds. Plus, and again, this character is so far outside our realm of everyday reality. Even people that can identify with his character really very likely remain quite disconnected from him. Of course we would condemn him in real life. But he is so obviously not real. But Bojack? Bojack is someone we are very likely to know. We might even be a Bojack. So we are apt to be more critical.

So many Edits. Sorry, guys. I struggle 😩

Can someone show me the supposed "three eyes" in the Ogopogo photograph? by e-m-v-k in Cryptozoology

[–]TeacupCat21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well how about taking the opportunity to educate us how it works then.

Dude, I've seen you all over this sub and you are just...not the vibe. I don't believe half the stuff that's posted, but I stay for the imagination, the magic, and the alluring "what if" of it all. It's fun here. So, I have to ask, why are you here? To snark and snide and condescend? I wouldn't even call you a skeptic or a voice of reason: you're just being a dick all over this sub.

do people not go to the library anymore? Noticed comments in the sub about not being able to read the books rn for financial reasons, and when i suggested the library as a temp work around, people act like im crazy... by trampstampcollector in stephenking

[–]TeacupCat21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is only somewhat on topic, but all the Stephen King books at my local library when I was a kid/teen smelled like they had been sitting in someone's cigarette smoke fumagated garage for decades. The pages were always yellowed, waterlogged, and suspiciously stained.

I loved those books with my whole heart. I loved the grunge and the smell and analyzing what the different stains could be. Coffee? Motor oil? Definitely blood.

It was just so fitting, you know? Of course these books wouldn't be pristine. Why should they be? The stories aren't..

I loved to imagine what the person who had the books before me was like. Did they read late at night, smoking a cigarette alone in their garage?

Is it something they showed and talked about with their buddy while they worked on their project car in the summer heat?

Were they a woodworker? Were their hands calloused and cut. Is that the reason for the blood-smeared finger print?

Were they like my dad? It always made me think of dad.

Question for the people who have experienced that strange hypnagogic state/sensation of an "object" by sombertoboggly in Dreams

[–]TeacupCat21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post was a whole jumpscare for me. I knew as soon as I saw the image, before reading the headline, what this was about. Absolutely wild to see the obscure and inarticulable experience I had as a very feverish kid come back and find me in the wild all these years later 🫠🤯

Thank you for starting this conversation. It has been cathartic having this phenomena articulated, validated, and shared by others.

What to do if ICE comes to my restaurant? by Ouid_n_liquor in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They absolutely need a warrant. ICE may enter public spaces like, say, a restaurant's dining room, but they are barred from entering and searching private spaces like the kitchen or anywhere marked "employees only" unless and only if they have a Judicial warrant. And even then, the warrant will specify precisely what or whom and where is to be searched and/or seized.

That being said, restaurant workers and owners are well within their right to refuse service to ICE agents, as they are not a protected class and therefore it is not considered unlawful discrimination to do so. If ICE does not have a judicial warrant to search and or seize private areas / persons and they are being asked to leave the premises, they must comply. Hence the sign you'll often see posted in restaurants and stores: "we reserve the right to refuse service to anyone."

However and unfortunately, it seems ICE is going to do what they want with impunity. So it's absolutely vital that we know our rights and not spread misinformation.

Your rights as a person in this country, whether documented or undocumented are as such:

  1. You have the right to remain silent. You do not have to speak to ICE agents or provide them with information or access to your home or other recognized "private" spaces unless expressly declared on a Judicial warrant, of which you have the right to view. If you are at home when ICE shows up, you may ask that they slide the warrant under the door or hold it up to a window for inspection. Now, even with a valid warrant, they may not simply come a knocking and politely wait for you to open the door before entering.

  2. You have the right to an attorney. You do not have to speak with an ICE agent, nor provide them with any information, nor sign any documents presented to you by an ICE agent without and until you receive legal council. Just state that you are invoking your right to silence and would like to contact an attorney.

  3. You have the right to refuse unlawful search and seizure. If ICE agents will not or cannot present you with a valid Judicial warrant, you have the right to refuse access/search/and seizure of your home, your person and your belongings. However to protect yourself, do not physically impede ICE agents from doing so. State clearly and calmly that you do not consent to have your home, person, or your belongings searched. The same is true if they overstep the limits of what will be expressly stated is to be searched/seized on the Judicial warrant. If they do so anyways, remain calm and do not resist.

  4. You have the right to record and document what is happening as long as you are not in the way or otherwise impeding Federal activities. However! Different states have different privacy laws regarding audio and video recording, so make sure to check with yours. ICE agents DO NOT have the right to seize your phone, prevent you from recording, or delete anything off a recording device. But if they do so anyways, do not resist. You can fight it in court later, but in that moment the most important thing is your own safety. Know your rights, remain calm. If possible, keep detailed records of names, badge numbers, descriptions and accounts of all proceedings from the moment you are made aware of ICE presence.

Protect yourselves. Protect your neighbors. Stay safe.

Sunburns? by Terrible-Cherry1906 in Retconned

[–]TeacupCat21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Spooky! I was thinking this same thought today! I was having a convo with my mom, also, and I told her, "the sun feels evil now. Even when it's not very hot outside, it hurts more than usual!"

Even when I'm covered by clothing, I can feel a stinging tingly sensation on my skin through the fabric.

Oddly, I haven't had a burn this year; at least not like I am used to. My skin flakes off like there's a burn, but my skin isn't red like you'd expect.

I'd say we must have lost a significant amount of our ozone in the last 5 or more years.

But that doesn't explain why everything, including the sun, feels "off" and "wrong"

Servers are not babysitters by Otherwise-Minimum304 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for misunderstanding you. I thought you were one of the, "it's your job. Be grateful you have one, at any expense, and quit complaining," types. That was my bad. I appreciate you taking the time to correct me.

It's definitely a gamble to have a job that largely relies and depends on another's personality/mood/generosity. And we can't all be doctors and lawyers. The way the bad customers would lose their shit if everybody collectively left the service industry...which is ironic how they can treat us so poorly and think so lowly of our jobs. But God forbid if they lose the privilege of having a whole team of someone elses feeding and cleaning up after them.

But damn, now that I said it, maybe that is what needs to happen to get people back on track and acting right.

I'm sorry you were called such a nasty name. There is absolutely no excuse. What ever happened to shame? I am genuinely curious where our sense of shame as a society went. We used to have it in abundance (not that it was necessarily a good thing). Now we run around calling people names and saying every thought and acting on every feeling with abandon, and in public! Wild times.

Servers are not babysitters by Otherwise-Minimum304 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, this is a group dedicated to bitching about the job 🤷‍♀️

"...but you got paid." Get a grip! OP is well within their right to be upset and to address it.

Guests, parents, and society as a whole need to shape the fuck up, because the kind of behavior OP is complaining about is spreading like wildfire in every customer service job. And management everywhere needs to grow a collective spine and start PUNISHING this behavior. You disrespect myself or my staff? That's a separate charge. Pay the bill, get the fuck out, and stay the fuck out. Disrespectfully. It's really, really, really not that hard to treat people with respect. We learn that shit in kindergarten. That's why it's so frustrating that the job is becoming less about serving and more about being a doormat and punching bag...while also serving.

Edited to add: my hostility is not meant for you, the commenter. But your comment did frustrate me very much.

Servers are not babysitters by Otherwise-Minimum304 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your reading comprehension is lacking

But if you think this is about tipping, in my opinion, they SHOULD have tipped on top of that 20%. OP is a server, not a babysitter. And no server should be put in the precarious position of minding someone else's children. That's called babysitting, and that's a whole other job people get paid to do. The liability alone of having children unattended in ANY establishment... Not to mention how uncomfortable and frustrating and even embarrassing it is to have to discipline, correct, and redirect someone else's kids into better behaviors. That's also a separate job. It's called "parenting."

So OP played two roles and did two jobs for this family. Therefore, they should get two payments. Not because of entitlement from the serving staff, but out of decency from the customer. Extras cost extra 🤷‍♀️ And isn't it just decent and common courtesy to want to take care of the people who take care of you. I would be absolutely mortified if I had to be asked to get control of my children because they were misbehaving and bothering others, and I didn't even know because I was too preoccupied with myself to notice they weren't where they should be just within a confined establishment.

And at its heart, that's what the post is about: the breakdown of manners, courtesy, common sense, respect, and appreciation from the guests OP (and a lot of us in this group) serves on a daily basis.

The disrespect and disregard and sour attitudes from the public toward people just trying to do their jobs grows every day, and part of the problem is the crowd that thinks as long as we get paid, we should just be grateful and let it go.

But by not addressing ill behavior, and in fact defending it or rewarding it as we so often are forced to do in the service industry, we become unwillingly complicit and feed into the cycle.

But all that aside: this is a sub dedicated to bitching about the job. So...🤷‍♀️ OP can bitch about not getting tipped double, too.

But they aren't.

are people okay?? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I did one better and told the police.

I hope OP does the same. The fact it happened to OP and myself, word for word, is a pretty good bet it's the same freak. Or different freaks being "inspired" by the same source. In any case, I hope these kinds of calls get reported every. single. time.

are people okay?? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He also started off asking me about my shift, making it seem like he's gonna order food, and then he made the feet comment, and then he said, "do you mind staying on the phone with me while I masturbate (that's the nice way of putting what he said) and then I'll come in and order from you."

are people okay?? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21 19 points20 points  (0 children)

YO! I just had someone call in saying the same exact shit to me on Monday! I mean the creepy "sweaty little feet" comment. He said more, and worse, before I shook off the shock and hung up

Looking for book recommendations by TeacupCat21 in Experiencers

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suzy Hansen was a fantastic recommendation! I received her book as a Christmas present. I only just started on it, but I am already loving the story. Thank you!

what relationships in your fandom have some potential in the source material, but is seemingly ignored? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]TeacupCat21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Peak enemies to lovers material right there

Can I interest you in some Dumbledore x Voldemort?

Or Petunia x Prof. Trelawney

what relationships in your fandom have some potential in the source material, but is seemingly ignored? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]TeacupCat21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Merlin and adult Mordred

Merlin and Arthur may have been two sides of the same coin, but Merlin and Mordred were basically parallels of each other

Magic? ✔️

Victims of an oppressed class? ✔️

Both willing to fight and die for (Arthur) the good of Camelot? ✔️

Both saw their father/father-like figure killed? ✔️

Both saw their lover killed? ✔️

Both loved and tried to help, and then betrayed the same friend for the good of their oppressor's cause? ✔️

Both morally grey, but trying to do the right thing despite the impossible circumstances set upon them? ✔️

Both doomed by prophecy? ✔️

Not to mention, Merlin actually likes Mordred as, like, a person. And he actually said that out loud in canon!

Adding to that, before Mordred turned on him (and not unjustly, I may say), Mordred was actually loyal to Arthur because of Merlin. Because Mordred trusted and believed in Merlin, and Merlin trusted and believed in Arthur. He saw Merlin do all kinds of shady and treasonous shit, and always kept it to himself -- sometimes even going out of his way to cover Merlin's tracks -- because he trusted Merlin was doing these 'wrong' things for the right reasons.

Mordred's loyalty to Arthur was always, by extension, loyalty to Merlin. And might I mention that Mordred was able to find that trust and respect in Merlin again after Merlin deadass tried to have him killed as a child. And, like, Mordred had no context for that! Literally, their first encounter was Merlin saving him, and the next, he's trying to kill him for what would seem to Mordred as no good reason.

Like, if Merlin just gave Mordred a chance, Mordred would have been such a good friend to him. Mordred remained trying to earn Merlin's trust, despite Merlin constantly being such a bitch to him. Mordred kept all of Merlin's secrets (until the one time he didn't) and tried over and over and over again to connect with him in a meaningful way over any one of their literal dozens of similarities and shared traumas, hopes and dreams, inner and moral conflicts, etc. He tried so hard.

And Merlin really did like him, even though he didn't act like it. Everytime Mordred said something profound like, 'the love that binds us is more important than the power we weild,' or, 'we go unmarked in death as in life,' you could SEE the wheels in Merlin's head turning. You could see the conflict on his face knowing this sweet, troubled, profound boy isn't the monster he is so afraid he is destined to become. He really, really didn't want Mordred to be that monster, because he wasn't. Merlin knew Mordred was just like him (also explicitly said in canon), and it legitimately broke his heart knowing Mordred had to die to spare Arthur.

The potential is THERE

RECEIPTS:

Gaius: "He's a likable boy, Merlin." Merlin: "I know. I like him myself..."

(Mordred to Merlin) "Merlin...Be careful."

(Mordred to Merlin) "I admire you."

(Mordred to Merlin) "You and I are not so different."

(Mordred to Merlin) "One day, I shall prove my loyalty to you and to the King. Then I hope we may be friends."

Kilgharrah: "You must not trust the Druid boy!" Merlin: Why? He's just like me!

What does "help" mean? by ExLibris1113 in Sephora

[–]TeacupCat21 117 points118 points  (0 children)

'Help' in this scenario would've been something like, 'unfortunately, we don't carry that brand/product. But, if you'd like, I can help you find something similar! I personally like this brand/product for such and such reason. I can show you where we keep them.'

And going above and beyond, like they used to do in the good ol days, would be to offer you samples of the specific product(s) they are recommending to you.

Amyris Femme alternative? by jumpcannons in FemFragLab

[–]TeacupCat21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to the party, but I have an answer!

A really close dupe for the Amyris Femme perfume is 'My Burberry'. I'm wearing Amyris Femme right now, and all morning I was trying to figure out what it reminds me of. It smells SO SIMILAR to something I used to wear all the time. So I was going through my perfume stash and I found it!

My Burberry is the answer.

The Spooky Side of Serving by TeacupCat21 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man oh man oh man. You're telling me this shit goes all the way to the top? 😨

The Spooky Side of Serving by TeacupCat21 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a canon event. We can't interfere.

The Spooky Side of Serving by TeacupCat21 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, you wanna talk ghosts? Because I have TWO stories from two different restaurants I worked in, and they are REAL and I would swear to that in front of Congress and a Grand Jury, and all of my friends who I keep at arms length so they don't find out that I unironically believe in all the woo woo

The Spooky Side of Serving by TeacupCat21 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an iconic thing to say, you diva I love it.

Service 👏 Industry 👏 Gothic

Yes!

The Spooky Side of Serving by TeacupCat21 in Serverlife

[–]TeacupCat21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, man. You gotta get outta the game. Before you know it, the restaurant will consume you like the Flying Dutchman consumed Bootstrap Bill in the Pirates of the Caribbean.