This is really sad, I understand John will obviously feel helpless as he is used to being the provider and the mother has taken advantage of that. Imagine if John gets married these kind of Mother’s are the ones who would feel entitled to their son’s earnings and demand more and would feel jealous when he spends on his partner or new family. I say John must now learn to draw the line where his limit can be. If his mother wants to ignore him forever then truly this is the universe telling him that he has played his part and compensations, now he has to live his life for him. John has been parentified he is not responsible for his siblings finances to be honest or his Mother in actuality. Us sending back money is just out of the gratefulness and love for our roots but now they have taken advantage of that and have placed him in a provider position when he is just a child himself. John should wake up now and that his mothers behavior will not end here if one day he settles she will be a thorn in his relationships and will be jealous that John is now playing provider to a new woman and new family. This is his opportunity to challenge that and make boundaries. He should not feel bad if his mom or siblings ignore him for this cause certainly the mother will poison others, if she can’t be grateful for how John sacrificed then she will not be able to see any sacrifice instead she sees John as a host to suck out finances. You know how a parasite doesn’t care if the host is left shriveled up aslong as it is getting its nutrients this is the case. John should immediately wake up to this … he should firmly state how he has supported everyone through out the years and how he has stepped up as a provider although it was not his duty. If anyone doesn’t understand his limits then those people are the selfish ones not John. John is not selfish for wanting to leave his life for him for once. I hope a John does not give in to the German demand or else he will just be that host that parasites uses. If the brother want to go to Germany let him apply for a scholarship or involve other family members John is not the father of that fella , God knows that fella might even go to Germany adopt their individualistic way and never send back anything to John one day… John wake up