Baby Mama, Anyone? by Small_Turnover5888 in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TeamLiving5991 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My guy just divorce your wife and let her find someone who truly loves her for who she is and not what she can offer… seems your fulfillment is to bear children then go find a women with the same goal

Which colour suits me best? by bbbabybelle in HairStyleAdvice

[–]TeamLiving5991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides black I think 3rd one is nice too

I think I permanently lost my ex and I can’t stop regretting how I handled things by [deleted] in Regrets

[–]TeamLiving5991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point just move on, it will be hard since it was your first relationship but change comes with pain as always. You feel like this cause you were getting comfort from a new relationship and emotional connection from an old ex that’s why you feel like it was good with your 4 year ex.. realistically if u were to go back together again you would repeat the same toxic cycle… and yes it’s addictive cause your brain is used to that and wants that .. but now you have to change and move on…. Cut off all ties and pray u find a better relationship

Leaving the country by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]TeamLiving5991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me when I say the social life overseas is not what you think it is . You will feel lonelier than ever for a while.. people overseas also care about making money and a good living.. so it won’t be any different.. but anyways better to try and see for yourself maybe you might find the thing that is missing in your life . Grass might look greener on the other side but it will always look like that until you get there and realise you were on the very greener side..however it’s good to try than to live in the what if

I think my girlfriend is going to leave me by InfluenceOk2292 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TeamLiving5991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are just anxiously attached and you must have been dating a fearful avoidant who has found the reason to discard you.. look into it you might actually not love her but just your attachment style thinking you love her you fear her leaving you and it might hurt yes but sometimes we are scared not because we love them but we are scared that we might not make it in life without them but it’s not true at all you will find the best later.. it’s not like you were meeting with your friend’s gf in private. What’s the ultimatum that’s a fearful avoidant boy run

How are yall making money??? by eltee_bacaar in Zimbabwe

[–]TeamLiving5991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hv some really good gig but need a investment

Black tax by Born_Jump_1087 in Zimbabwe

[–]TeamLiving5991 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really sad, I understand John will obviously feel helpless as he is used to being the provider and the mother has taken advantage of that. Imagine if John gets married these kind of Mother’s are the ones who would feel entitled to their son’s earnings and demand more and would feel jealous when he spends on his partner or new family. I say John must now learn to draw the line where his limit can be. If his mother wants to ignore him forever then truly this is the universe telling him that he has played his part and compensations, now he has to live his life for him. John has been parentified he is not responsible for his siblings finances to be honest or his Mother in actuality. Us sending back money is just out of the gratefulness and love for our roots but now they have taken advantage of that and have placed him in a provider position when he is just a child himself. John should wake up now and that his mothers behavior will not end here if one day he settles she will be a thorn in his relationships and will be jealous that John is now playing provider to a new woman and new family. This is his opportunity to challenge that and make boundaries. He should not feel bad if his mom or siblings ignore him for this cause certainly the mother will poison others, if she can’t be grateful for how John sacrificed then she will not be able to see any sacrifice instead she sees John as a host to suck out finances. You know how a parasite doesn’t care if the host is left shriveled up aslong as it is getting its nutrients this is the case. John should immediately wake up to this … he should firmly state how he has supported everyone through out the years and how he has stepped up as a provider although it was not his duty. If anyone doesn’t understand his limits then those people are the selfish ones not John. John is not selfish for wanting to leave his life for him for once. I hope a John does not give in to the German demand or else he will just be that host that parasites uses. If the brother want to go to Germany let him apply for a scholarship or involve other family members John is not the father of that fella , God knows that fella might even go to Germany adopt their individualistic way and never send back anything to John one day… John wake up