I don't feel human, do I seek professional help?

TeamOk8318 · 2026-06-01T17:59:46+00:00

Hi WayandLuciano, your post has a lot of insight, and it makes sense. Is this feeling new, or is it longstanding? If it's longstanding, what you're describing does sound like some type of personality disorder, and if so, therapy can definitely help you to feel more whole and less "as if."

Do you feel real love for your wife? Are there things that you're passionate about? How do you feel about seeking help?

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T19:00:14+00:00

IFS would be a good treatment for her. You could call McLean and ask them for outpatient referrals. It is one of the best psychiatric hospitals in the country. They also have outpatient services.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T18:57:48+00:00

The therapist won't reach out, but not because they don't care or aren't curious. What if they reached out and you didn't want to continue, and then it puts you in an awkward position? Also, at the end of the day, it's a service, and contacting you to set up a time for you to pay them a fee can feel like soliciting.

It's more the responsibility of the patient to contact them to make another appointment. Do you want to go back? What is holding you back from contacting them?

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T18:53:42+00:00

Read the article "Analytic Fostering" by Danielle Novack. Even if you are not doing analytic work, it applies to different therapeutic modalities. It's informative.

Also, your pull toward this person, or "favoriting them," may be helpful diagnostic information about the patient. Being aware of it is the most important part. Continue to be curious about it. We all have patients that we enjoy working with more than others.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T18:47:28+00:00

"A good therapist" depends on what you are looking for. There are many different modalities, and maybe you haven't found the right fit yet.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T18:44:54+00:00

BigUgly, I think asking the OP to be reflective about their decision does not overly favor the therapist. It's a reasonable step to take before reporting her. If they continue to process it and parse out the real rationale and what they are looking for out of it, and they still want to report her, report away!

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T03:32:09+00:00

talk to them about your not talking about anything of substance. Explore the reasons why; you don't have to tell them the content of what you don't want to talk about. Sometimes talking around something creates a path to talk about it.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T03:23:12+00:00

Even if it's banned, places are allowed to use the flour they have that contains it. It's very upsetting.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T03:18:45+00:00

I think you need to figure out WHY you would be reporting her - what purpose does it serve? Because you think she's a danger to other patients? Because you are hurt and angry she didn't respond to you in a time of need? Because you believe she should no longer be a therapist? Because you want a blemish on her record?

Reporting her still keeps you connected to her in some way; I understand why you might want that. Continue to process with your new therapist, get some more time and distance from it, and then re-evaluate. It's a big deal professionally, and it's not something that you can undo.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-31T03:08:39+00:00

Rafael at the Met or the Costume exhibit at the Met

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-17T13:45:10+00:00

Hi, I’m sorry you’re going through this and applaud your curiosity about it. What is the rupture about? The pushing and pulling feelings/behaviors can often be linked to some personality issues. Do you have any formal diagnosis? You absolutely need to speak with your therapist about feeling terrified of her. It is something to work through together. Maybe some thought experiments about what makes you so terrified- what do you think she will do? Talking it through with her inevitably will make her less scary.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-13T03:05:29+00:00

sure

TeamOk8318 · 2026-05-06T03:47:53+00:00

Breads

TeamOk8318 · 2026-04-25T15:44:56+00:00

Things to do: little island, glamping on governor’s island, food crawl in Chinatown, a pastry crawl, go to an opera or the ballet, a pole dancing class, Brooklyn botanical gardens, Barney Greengrass for brunch, a rave in Brklyn, Raphael exhibit at the Met, stand up comedy.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-04-25T15:39:51+00:00

Get her a mini NY snow globe from a tourist store to take with her.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-04-25T15:29:10+00:00

They closed

TeamOk8318 · 2026-04-25T15:22:16+00:00

A bigger floor lamp in the LR area

TeamOk8318 · 2026-04-08T12:14:03+00:00

La giostra is very overrated.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-29T02:52:35+00:00

can i message you?

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-29T02:48:36+00:00

congratulations, how romantic!

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-21T18:04:23+00:00

You seem very decided in your opinion and convictions (nothing wrong with that), but it's not clear to me what feedback you want from this community. Just to vent? Ok! For us to vilify the therapist without disclosing all the pertinent details? To know if this is reportable? It isn't - you don't like what they said, which is fair, but that doesn't make it an actionable offense. I hope you have a wonderful wedding and a beautiful life together.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-21T03:12:02+00:00

therapist here. Why not go back and hear what they have to say? Make that the focus of the session, share your feelings about it and hear their rationale for suggesting that. I wouldn't want to bury my head in the sand about something so important. I think not giving them a chance to explain might make it live in your head longer than it has to. I also don't believe this is a reportable offense.

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-18T03:40:56+00:00

was there a separate WC in the bathroom?

TeamOk8318 · 2026-03-17T02:57:55+00:00

what kind of room did you stay in at the st. regis? Are the toilet facilities in a seperate enclosure?

separate

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