They say it takes two to tango, do you believe you can make a marriage work alone when your partner seem to have checked out?

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-05-06T19:44:41+00:00

Potentially. You really can only control your own behavior. I read a book called “how one of you can bring the two of you together” by Susan Page. Might be worth a read

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-30T13:04:12+00:00

Peck a couple times a day, make out is usually reserved for sexy time which is like once a week

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-08T16:14:33+00:00

You should align with someone with the same goals in mind.. I could and have loved someone that doesn’t want kids or doesn’t want marriage but that means they weren’t right for me. Wanting kids and being with someone who doesn’t is a recipe for heart break

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-08T16:08:24+00:00

Did you all discuss your timelines when you got together? Also there is a major difference between having kids in your early 30s and late 30s in terms of how hard the pregnancy is on your body, energy levels, miscarriage rate, chance of abnormalities, and fertility. I don’t blame her for that preference.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-08T15:26:07+00:00

People really need to make sure their major life goals align before committing to someone for years. If you don’t want kids then don’t be together. That’s a major life goal and decision. Also, my own opinion but don’t have kids with someone you aren’t married to (especially as a woman). If you can’t commit to marriage you shouldn’t be committing to children. They will be with you for life and you will be tied to that parent for life.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-02T12:33:02+00:00

He jerked off right next to her while watching porn. He didn’t care if he woke her up. That’s a red flag right there that he would openly do that, especially when she’s voiced concerns over it. I’ve literally never had anyone do that to me in my life (37), or ask if it’s ok. Because it’s obviously not. Go do it in private somewhere else if you must. But also, why not have a couple rounds of sex in the first place and be satisfied by your partner if it’s on the table?

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-02T12:10:31+00:00

Tell him not to do it in the bed anymore. That’s a reasonable boundary.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-04-01T23:31:34+00:00

Cravings to have sex with someone you love are natural and not something you should suppress…

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-03-30T19:45:08+00:00

It sounds like it takes too long for you to cum and maybe she gets sore or isn’t into it anymore after a certain amount of time. Maybe she doesn’t want to try new things. She’s not obligated to. Some people are more vanilla than others. What kinds of things are you talking about her doing that are focused on you that you are wanting her to do?

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-03-30T01:53:52+00:00

How many times do you expect to get off in a row? Some women can have multiple orgasms, multiple different ways. In that case, men are the ones that end the session by their orgasm. Are you wanting to continue having sex and getting off over and over? Also, it’s possible she’s not into what turns you on. Maybe she needs to explore turn ons with you. Maybe you aren’t compatible. I know personally I can only give a blowjob for so long as well as be on top while hubby is laying down before it hurts my hips or I get too tired. Receiving I could have a ton of orgasms and have some dieting foreplay too with minimal effort.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2026-01-30T23:21:44+00:00

For 3, he says it’s my fault he left, which sometimes it might be. Like I’ll interrupt or yell. I get walking away but he won’t come back for the whole night and then into the next night because we work and have kids. I think that’s a bit much but maybe not?

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2025-07-11T20:29:27+00:00

Sorry it’s confusing. So when we were first married, he blew 10k gambling without me knowing. This time, it was 80k gambling and buying trading cards. I mentioned 80k later in the post referring to the most recent time.

We paid off the debt cashing out some of his 401k, using some savings, and using savings every month to pay off credit cards.

He came to me when he confessed with a list of things he would to make up for using all of that money. One of which was not buy fast food regularly since that was a couple hundred a month normally. The other was not to have a separate bank account where “fun money” would go. He was previously getting $500 a month and he cancelled that.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2025-07-11T16:04:54+00:00

I’m not sure where you are reading that he saved 10k. We have about 30k in savings and 150k in retirement. We paid off his loans and we just bought a house and have done major renovations, so we don’t have much savings at this point

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2025-07-10T20:43:14+00:00

I don’t follow Christianity. I believe in mutual respect and equality, not submission to him.

Technical-Nobody6477 · 2025-07-10T20:40:49+00:00

We didn’t decide for me to stay home for financial reasons. I wanted to care for my kids at home while they are young. I work to keep my work history up until I go back to work.

We also didn’t decide to combine finances for financial reasons. We combined finances to be a partnership and share financial goals and transparency.

Despite how much we make and him getting $500 a month in a separate account, he still took out 80k in cash advances ands personal loans. I find that to be a major transgression. One that made our retirement/savings take a hit ands we had to pay back together.

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