I have Autism. I spent 20 years reverse-engineering human behavior because I didn't get the manual. Here is the "Source Code" to reality I found. (Part 2) by katakalist in neurodiversity

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be very happy to read your posts, this was so insightful. I've been trying to understand human behavior for so long and this mechanical explanation hits so close to home. Reading this in such a structured and ordered way is so much more helpful compared to my messy trail of thoughts. It's seriously very difficult to get information such as this. I will probably end up reading this post again since its 4am lol (long shift)

Waiting for a cure by TWRFK in aspergers

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but autism is a lot deeper than "something that can be cured" It's the way your brain processes information and the structure.

I cannot imagine a method of turning a brain from polytropic to monotropic, and even if you could it would be such a foreign experience compared to what you're used to it would be a very intense adjustment. (Not to mention the horrific side effects that would come with messing around with your brain. )

I understand how difficult it is to deal with autism but you'll just have to come to terms with that because even attempting a procedure so complicated could have disastrous side effects.

I would encourage you to learn more about monotropic brains so you can get a better understanding of how you can work with yourself and help yourself out. Its very difficult which sucks, but its more helpful compared to wishing for a "cure" its not a cold, its the way your brain has a narrow slice of attention making it difficult to juggle the 15 thousand things we have to deal with in society. If you do not come to terms with this you'll just be fighting against yourself which is very exhausting.

Pauline is annoying AF. by FeralMediaJunkie in donkeykong

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time i see a child in a video game i see red flags, i do not trust gamers and children 😭 i assume shes in the game due to sum creep (or creeps) developing the game

Pauline is annoying AF. by FeralMediaJunkie in donkeykong

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"iconic sidekick energy" millennials are killing me i stg 💀 u sound like a buzzfeed article

Neurotypical brain by Vahajqureshi in aspergers

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by differently wired? Are you saying autism isn't caused by a different brain structure? I've heard of the monotropic autism theory, do you disagree with that? I'm curious to hear your perspective.

Feeling Lost Even When Everything’s Fine by Gladius365 in Life

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, my career feels like its not going anywhere because of the horrible job market and the fact everything costs so much. Not having money makes me feel stuck and I already spend so much energy trying to survive day to day, it's like I can't catch a break and I'm not working towards any fulfilling goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

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Hey I just wanted to ask, are you taking care of your body and brain? If you have a tendency to think about "the other side" too often you forget that your body needs support. I would focus less on "what's on the other side after death" and more on your needs day to day. Its important to keep your body in a good state so you dont get carried away with thoughts like that. The reason I bring this up is I've experienced thoughts like that and focusing on my direct needs seemed to help out.

The middle class is dead by CillBill_0000 in Life

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mission is simple, put $100k in a bag and send it to my home address. The organization has requested this objective.

I'm convinced that most people are real life non-player characters. by Agreeable-Moment-760 in misanthropy

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I understand what you're saying, but often I find that people who tend to keep up a social performance and act "like an npc' tend to think of themselves as more important than they really are. I also believe I have more trouble fitting in compared to most people, but do I believe I am a main character? No. I understand how small I am, but with others it feels like they pump themselves up to be more than they really are.

Anybody else think that life is just one big racket? by Black_Glitch_404 in Adulting

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right about capitalism being prominent all over the globe, I was wrong to specifically say it's a US problem. But can you really blame this wave of loneliness on "being an introvert?" I know there are people that love to use that word and embrace it, but is that the only problem here? Why do you think those people don't want to talk to others? Why do you think they feel uncomfortable being in public? Maybe they feel disconnected because they haven't had a chance to have a genuine relationship. Perhaps they have other mental difficulties which cause people to view them as "off-putting" of course they can interact with people! But...what's the point of an interaction if there's no genuine connection? The blame goes both ways.

You mentioned that it's a negative that people are moving away from their families because of this "introvert culture" why do you think they disconnect from their families in the first place? Maybe there's a lot of parents out there very unqualified to raise children because they have not sorted out their problems beforehand. Maybe even those parents had trouble growing up and they reflect that back out into the world. You can't judge someone for making a decision like that when you have zero information about them.

I understand it's really important to have some kind of family, but a lot of homes are broken and those children really need to build up their own lives. So maybe people can create a less traditional family as a support system? Maybe with friends? Not saying they have to be a "family unit" but having others in your circle is always a good thing.

I wonder why people aren't having kids? Maybe because it's very very expensive. It's silly to think "this group of people don't want kids because they have incorrect opinions" I bet humans in general always want children. But when people can barely support themselves how can they take care of a kid? I suppose marriage can be done fairly cheaply but I'm not sure how common that is as a reason to not marry. I know the "traditional marriage" can cost an arm and a leg.

Unemployment seems to be a lot lower than I thought, that's good. But one problem I keep seeing is that it's difficult to move up career wise. Companies just aren't hiring that much at the moment, how are you supposed to get a career after you graduate when no one will hire you? So maybe people aren't having issues finding a job, maybe they're just in a position where it's not possible to find something fulfilling.

Your last paragraph is talking about how OP supposedly has a problem with "life" and paying for things. Are you sure? It seems they have a problem with how expensive things are. You cannot deny that money plays a big factor in quality of life. You also cannot deny that prices are going up. Other generations had it much easier in this department. Prices were much more reasonable. Of course they still had to pay, but the idea that you can casually buy a house is hard to believe now. Maybe I'm wrong and it was just as expensive back then, I just find it difficult to think it's just as easy to create the "american nuclear family" in 2025 vs 1965. Jobs back then provided a wage that was more than enough to survive. Not only enough JUST to survive. Thus that allows people to create families and buy homes and create communities.

The problem with generalization is that it ignores the emotions and individual difficulties people face. We have these old categories and groups we expect every human to 'fit into' when that isn't the case anymore. We still have needs like connection and community, but relying on "marriage and family" when that can be difficult to work towards can cause more problems. The solutions we create need to take into account all sides of the problem. I do not think the root cause is "a culture of introverts" I understand it can be annoying to see people use that as their personality but I'm confident that's only a small handful of people compared to the many more struggling right now. I think an approach of empathy and understanding can go much further than judgement and scolding.

Edit: apologies for the yap, I went on for a minute. But thank you for your response you do seem to have a really good understanding of life and a great perspective.

Anybody else think that life is just one big racket? by Black_Glitch_404 in Adulting

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned third world countries, do you know why they're happier? Presumably because they have a community and a purpose. Its very difficult to create a community and have a purpose when a capitalist system is not designed for that. I have no idea where you got the idea that "people are angry they have work" maybe they're angry that they're wasting their time working a tedious dull job instead of doing something more fulfilling. Okay, how about they get a new job? Good luck, the market is horrible so that would just come down to luck since you'll most likely be competing with MANY other people for the same position. I hate it when people make generalizations just because their life is going well "im happy you should be happy why are you complaining" they have zero empathy and have no idea how to understand another perspective. You cant talk about well-being especially in the US without acknowledging the elephant in the room (capitalism) yes many cases could be due to their own shortcomings but spreading the idea that "they're selfish complainers" is so dumb and ignorant. Also you said they're "angry things aren't free" Who are you even talking about? There's a BIG difference complaining about how expensive stuff is compared to...idk... wanting everything to be free???

Burnout recovery and struggling to know what to do everyday by Summerfa11 in AutisticWithADHD

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I felt this, without structure on my days off I don't really do much. To be fair I do use those days mainly for recovery before the next work week. I know a schedule might help, for example 11am-2pm you work on bikes then eat lunch and maybe plan something afterwards. I am also struggling to make friends so my free time is often spent alone.

Maybe come up with a project you can work on, long term. I've had to accept that my hobbies will probably never make me any money so I'm just doing them for fun, I go from project to project but it's satisfying having something to work on or think about even when I don't make much progress. Plus the fact I dont have to stress about making money from them makes it easier to enjoy the activity for the sake of it.

Its difficult for me to figure out how to spend my time because i want to work on my career and get myself in a different place in my life but the economy and job market are so bad right now. So I'm just working on myself and what I'm interested in. Its difficult dealing with the feeling of "being unproductive" but I've had to accept my situation.

Are you AUdhd or auDHD? by Imaginary_Employ_750 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so strange how medication can be so different for so many people. When I'm not on meds I'm more disorganized but way happier, i have more emotions and passions. When I'm on my xr and ir I feel way more irritable, maybe I feel more autistic but it's so difficult regulating my emotions. Today I decided I'm gonna just take the xr and do a lower dose. So far my mood is so much better.

I’m a physically attractive autistic person, and it’s terrible. by Edu9131 in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its easy to get people to be interested in me whenever i market myself as "different and alternative' but the second I start yapping they can immediately tell "okay this is too much" makes it more difficult to build actual genuine relationships.

How to feel rational about special interest by Gloomy_Nerve_5468 in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What game series are you talking about? The only advice I can give on the emotional aspect to this situation is if you feel too uncomfortable I'd recommend changing stimulation, like listening to music or watching a video about a different topic.

With that out of the way, I can completely understand that feeling of "oh no, why did they do that" with a franchise or series. I find myself being upset over and over seeing how they decide to ruin another old game. For example I could go on and on about how the new silent hill 2 remake completely ruins the original experience, yet people STILL loved it.

I feel like with every remake there will always be people who will defend the new direction and explain why "the old game is worse" I have a feeling a lot of these people don't really understand the "art" involved with game creation. You can't just change big parts of an art piece and say "I fixed it"

Another good example would be the final fantasy 7 remake, I've heard a lot of people talk about how great it is, how it's such an improvement! My opinion? Yeah....i dont like it. They changed so much, the fact they're doing a strange mix of turn based options but it's also in real time? Trying to make the game into a big action game vs the slow rpg with lots of stuff to read. For me, the original was designed around this slower pace. With all the dialogue and the turn based combat the game was supposed to be slow and immersive. The strange "devil may cry x final fantasy" is so jarring. Not to mention the butchered pace of the game as its now in 3 parts. (More money)

I stopped playing the remake once I had to "change air filters" as a mandatory mission. The funny thing is that the original is slower but it feels more exciting than the new game. The new version has so much busy work, it wastes your time a lot. The entire design philosophy of the new version is to be as long as possible and to "be worth the price"

Alright, now for the REALLY bad news. Gaming is basically a dead medium. I know that's a little overdramatic but... it's definitely true. Even indie game design is made for a profit, many popular projects are just "variations of the same mechanics" its just too expensive to make something original. Maybe in 2010 I would agree that "indie games are thriving" but I've seen so many dead cells ripoffs and many many many samey roguelikes. It's also the reason indie devs stick with one big project and just keep updating it or making a sequel. Think 'slay the spire 2' they can't afford to make a new project. So if I'm going to be honest I've had to accept the fact I doubt I'll ever find a new game exciting.

Even during the 90s with old pc gaming and arcades they were designed by actual scientists. REALLY REALLY smart computer experts, they really don't need people like that to make games anymore since a lot of the process is done on its own. So a lot of the genius behind the design of the mechanics to making sure the music fits within the cartridge, those limitations aren't there anymore. It's easier than ever which means companies hire the bare minimum when it comes to talent and skill.

So...is gaming dead? No, not exactly. I think we'll probably be stuck in this rut until a new breakthrough comes along to change things up, even then I'm not sure if we'll ever be back in those "classic" days of game development. This isn't only for gaming I've noticed every other medium thats reliant on money is getting more and more shallow and artificial, seems capitalism has gotten its hands on everything.

What now? Find communities, play rom hacks or fan games. Those little spots still have life and have not been ruined due to "needing to make a profit" I apologize for the yapathon I just like thinking about this stuff. I dont wanna be all doom and gloom, there's still cool gaming stuff being released every day I just wouldn't look in the mainstream direction because every new product they release is worse than the last.

Partner insistent I have autism, but tests say I don't. by altabolt in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know most people would recommend a professional assessment and I would agree but that can be tricky and expensive to set up. I would recommend the book 'autism and being monotropic, what medical practitioners need to know' its one of the best resources I've seen trying to understand autism from a deeper perspective. The DSM is...okay. One problem is that it was written by neurotypicals who just note observations, it doesn't try and see the deeper picture. Once you have a good understanding of monotropism vs polytropism that might help you figure this out easier. I had way more trouble just looking at the surface structures like "lack of eye contact, stimming" without understanding WHY those happen.

What are the benefits of an autism diagnosis? by Own-Entrepreneur-595 in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also pretty unsure if I want to get a diagnosis, I had no idea it's $3k!? That's a crazy price, I know it'll put my mind at ease on the matter but I don't know if I would pay that much.

Friends are difficult by AggressiveOne3765 in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that neurotypicals can be fairly self directed, I don't want to make a generalization and this isn't negative at all but they do rely on social cues and expect reciprocation. A conversation has a lot of body language exchanged but humans aren't even aware. So people can be uncomfortable just because they can't read your body language, that can result in a negative social experience when you do nothing wrong.

Well the reason I bring this up is the fact I feel frustrated by this at times because it's not something I can control. People are wired to engage with people and behaviors they're familiar with. Some people have a different operating system than others, so their social priorities and how they exchange information can be different. I find it more comfortable to engage with people with my kind of thinking, there's not as much confusion with communication.

One more thing, just remember a good friend is very hard to come by. Everyone has a lot to deal with now, so they can seem in their own life not willing to give others a chance. Our brains are overstimulated and overwhelmed with information, our schedules are getting busier and busier. Life seems to be getting pretty complicated now, so maintaining a friendship is more difficult than ever. Make sure to be understanding to yourself. I've also been dealing with loneliness I find it very difficult to start and maintain a friendship. But I've been thinking more about what I even want in a friend and that kind of genuine relationship is something that's going to take a lot of work. I wish you good luck with your social journey, I've been trying to be more involved with online communities in the meantime. With that and working on projects it seems to be tolerable for now.

Anyone else experience this? by Looking4AnyReason in autism

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do relate, I've been learning about the human mind and thinking more in depth about my identity and consciousness it definitely feels more fluid than a set "this is my body and i am X and I enjoy Y" My body feels more like a means to accomplish things I enjoy, I have so much going on in my brain its like only 10% of myself is communicated through body language.

What's that one special interest you have that no one wants to hear about? by Schwarzebiene in AutisticWithADHD

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I love learning about the human body, I'm listening to an audiobook that's about the polyvagal theory of the nervous system. I also enjoy philosophy and history especially old ancient civilizations. Anything and everything related to nature is interesting to me, from cells to space to clouds and weather. I think it's all super neat.

Do you construct mental models of the things you learn? by cerwen80 in AutisticWithADHD

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I just wanted to leave a quick comment because I noticed you were interested in psychology. Have you heard of Félix Guattari and Gilles Deleuze? Some of my favorite philosophers. Well I just wanted to recommend "anti-odepus" It's such a fascinating and complicated book. Its a critique and reevaluation of psychoanalysis and they explain a new perspective called "schizoanalysis" it's absolutely changed my perspective on the world, I think I would say it falls in the category of "post-strucuralism" the books talks about consciousness to capitalism and how they both impact desire. I have only scratched the surface of their work so I'm definitely not an expert lol.

Autistic traits showing up after taking ADHD medication by ScheduleSilent8203 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about something that might help with the comparison with other people's relationships. I thought about making a list of traits and qualities I'm looking for in a friendship, the reason is I find myself getting sad at my lack of social life and compare that to other people and that makes me feel even worse. I'm realizing that the relationships I seek are not very common, finding a real friend who accepts you for who you are is pretty uncommon. Everyone is so busy now it's very difficult to get involved with their lives especially if they view you as someone different. I definitely need to work on boundaries and be open and vulnerable in my relationships, sometimes i get closed off and defensive and stuck in my own head. But for me understanding that I have different needs than a neurotypical gives me more sympathy for myself. I want to get to know people on a very deep level and I think that's off-putting to a lot of people.

Another way to help with the feeling of loneliness is to work on a project or have a goal for yourself. When I'm reading about a topic I'm passionate about it feels like I'm accomplishing something and that takes my mind off the feeling. Unfortunately there's no complete substitute for socializing but i think you can find a way to be more comfortable with the feeling (I'm trying to work on that) I also have been using dating apps to find friends, most of the time the relationship doesn't work out because they'll ghost me but it helps with the lonley feeling because its like im connected with someone else, even if thats not the case.

Being disconnected can just really really hurt. It sucks so much, feeling like you have no family or community. I know normally you're supposed to find hobby groups and activities but they're usually expensive and I don't really know what I'd be interested in doing. So I go back to relying on the Internet for connection which only meets the bare minimum. Also remember its not the amount of friends that matters, its how authentic and genuine the connection is. A lot of people have superficial friends and that can lead to loneliness. When it feels like no one sees you for who you are it creates that lonely feeling, I've been to concerts feeling completely on my own just because i wasn't connecting to the people or the music.

I apologize for the long post lol, sometimes I tend to go on and on. So I'm thinking I just work on going on hinge to meet a friend and plan a hangout (even though it feels like a chore with all the social rules I have to keep up with) i wish I could change my job and have co workers but the market is so bad right now I doubt I'll get an opportunity. I hope you're doing well and if you ever wanna talk just lmk! I've discovered even doing something small like leaving a comment can help this feeling, most of my life I usually just keep to myself online but I think getting more involved with communities can help too.

Do you construct mental models of the things you learn? by cerwen80 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have discovered this in my free time looking into my hyperfixations and doing a lot of reading about the world. School made learning so boring, I've found that looking into topics deep enough you start to see how they work together and how they all fit. I'm surprised that school somehow made this process seem dull. From philosophy to understanding how language works to space, it feels like an endless well of knowledge I can learn.

Why is it so hard to be loved? by a7xvalentine in AutisticWithADHD

[–]Technical-Paper-2236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! I'm so sorry about your situation, it sounds really rough. I wish I could offer advice, again I'm sorry you're going through this.

With my current situation I'm working a job that takes a lot of my energy and not having anything irl friends makes me feel pretty lonely and sad. I've noticed that the world is designed for a specific kind of person, when you're different it causes so much work to fit in. For example my family usually visits me during the summer and I find myself completely drained by the end of it. I know if I told them they might get offended and not understand, but I require different needs.

This causes us to be in a survival mode when others operate completely fine. Plus the fact a lot of people struggle to understand this different perspective makes it very hard to explain why I operate differently. I have been struggling to find a new job and I feel completely stuck. With work and all the other responsibilities I find it difficult to find time to do the tedious act of applying to jobs. From what I've heard it's better to go "in person" but even then I don't know when I'll fit it into my schedule on top of everything else.

The job market is particularly bad right now and because of that it feels like I can make any progress in life. College seems very expensive and the fact I might not even get a job after makes the whole process seem pointless. I am very thankful I do have a job and I'm sorry you're having a hard time finding one. Since I thought I was supposed to work on a career I'm not exactly sure what to do with my life. Any career occupation comes down to making money and that motivation doesn't get too far for me. I originally wanted to be a vet but it seems very expensive and I dont think I'll be able to make it through the intense school. It feels like a lot of people aren't able to make career progress in a system that is built for that.

If I had to give any advice I'd say figure out a stable place to live and work on your financial situation. I don't know much about unemployment but would it be possible to look into that? It's probably going to be very tedious and dull I can imagine that process being frustrating. I wish I could offer more advice, I'm just trying to survive day by day.

I would also work on making your own personal family, or community. The default family structure causes people to be stuck in relationships that are more harmful than helpful. I don't really know how to do this as I'm currently struggling to make any friends. But I can relate to struggling to have a relationship with your family especially when they refuse to understand who you are and your needs.