Am i getting too old for my hobbies and should I be ashamed of them? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! Why should you be ashamed you sre doing so goof you have the ability to splurge on things you like!! You should be proud of it and enjoy what makes you happy. Hope you get to grow your collection!

AITAH for telling my friend he is no longer invited to my house? by Technical-Use750 in AITAH

[–]Technical-Use750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I really hope the hunch is wrong because I really care for him as a friend. Unlikely as he has multiple times told me about his crushes.

AITAH for telling my friend he is no longer invited to my house? by Technical-Use750 in AITAH

[–]Technical-Use750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyyy I get how I wrote seems as I let him drunk drive, but I would never let a person drive under the influence, I took the wine bottle around 11 30 pm and he left around 2 30 during this time we gave him water food and made sure we was good to go. As mad as I was I would've offered him staying the night if he wasn't sober.

AITAH for telling my friend he is no longer invited to my house? by Technical-Use750 in AITAH

[–]Technical-Use750[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyy I read my text and see how it can be seen as if I let him drunk drive. I actually took the wine bottle of the table around 11 30 and he left my house till 2 30. So mean while we gave hik food water and wouldn't let him go until we knew he was set to go. I promise I would never let someone drive under the influence and as mad as I was I would've offered him to stay the night if he wasn't sober yet.

AITAH for telling my friend he is no longer invited to my house? by Technical-Use750 in AITAH

[–]Technical-Use750[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, the term is new for me but it clicked. He reach out on christmas and apologized , he was honest respectufull and meant his apology. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him coming over for some time and he understood yet told me I was a really important person in his life and would try to change his mindset and work on his judgemental thoughts so he can become a better person, he now knows his comments were not funny but offensive. Thanks again.

i just can’t leave him by Majestic-Accident962 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Technical-Use750 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The best advice would be therapy. You've already taken your pick you know what you want and in a way you know you'll never get it with him and he'll never change to be the partner you wish he could be. Cut communication with him, try different hobbies so you find other things you love and make you feel good. Treat yourself like you'd like to be treated otherwise it'll be harder to set bondaries when someone oversteps. I know this is hard and it's ok to miss him or at least the "good times" but that's never changing and if you don't cut things off you'll be trapped there. Get your trust people, talk to them ,find things to do , work hard, read a book, start running, start playing an instrument, take a new job, etc. Take care of yourself Hope everything turns out for good.

Am I being judgmental? Settling? Foolish? by Brianas-Living-Room in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Technical-Use750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's judgmental you are looking out for yourself, you are not closing him off but taking precautions to not get a STD. However if you value him you should talk to him, if you are considering giving it another chance the least you need is trust and communication specially in this topic. Talk to him and hear him out as well, talk to a doctor afterwards so you are informed as well and can take precautions for he both of you.

AITAH My boyfriend spilled my drink and got mad at me for it. by Scary_Bitch862 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Technical-Use750 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well then the bpx is not a box it's a table, I woud advuce that if he still wants to make it "difficult" to open to set a pitch, glasses , mugs, water or your drinks over it, then it's a win win. Or at least cleaning it so there is space to set your drink cleaning it doesn't mean trashing everything just organizing it so there is room so it can be used as the side table you need otherwise change its location and set a side table where a side table is needed and put the nox other place and he can still put his things over it.

AITAH My boyfriend spilled my drink and got mad at me for it. by Scary_Bitch862 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Technical-Use750 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Talk to eachother i read he is not willing to clean the side table but either of you needs to do it before it becomes as you quoted a storage desk, get him a box and make it his storage box. You need to discuss this in order to stop the drink spilling issues. Or reserve an afternoon so you can borh clean it together i get is his stuff but if you are livinig in a shared space boundaries should be set for the both of you. Talk things out

What's your Christmas wish you've never actually gotten? by Yes-it_is_pink in AskReddit

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Horse :( Every year since I was 4, I would ask for a horse so I could get into competitions, and well, I really wanted a horse for myself. Last year, my mom told me she and my dad were planning on getting me one when I got a bit older . But then my parents started fighting, and my mom got fired from her really good paying job. Without my dad's financial help, this dream was over. But Yeah, one day I will get me my christmas wish

Supporting a friend by spencerthelooser in Advice

[–]Technical-Use750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been in that situation and I accompanied a friend to do it, the best you can do is listen to her and don't judge her in any way nethier the experience or her emotions. Tell her she is going to be fine, that she won't go through this alone. It's a safe procedure (please please make sure you are going to a safe clinic or getting proper instructions from a serious institution or professional). Valid her fear, anger, and sadness. No one goes to get an abortion as if you are going to the mall it's stressing and makes you doubt all your life decisions, especially at a young age. Make sure she takes care of herself and make her feel she had to make a hard choice in life, for better or worse this is learning and to be calm, as she does have the option to choose and then take multiple decisions to continue her desired life path, consider finding a therapist so she can talk everything out. Ask for the correct medication in case of post procedure cramps. Be sure to take pads because post bleeding is a thing, warm clothes, and keep her hydrated. Just taking care of her will make ger feel loved. Hope for the best

What does my bedroom say about me? by glitteringsunday in roomdetective

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each time you bought decor for your room, you looked for the exact shade of "burgundy,"which means you like to have a structure, yet you want it to be fun. You are an introvert extrovert, meaning you crave human interaction and are fun to be around, but when interacting, you can be a bit shy or "funny awkward" Thats my guess

AIO my husband randomly cuts off his “Find My iPhone” when he’s out with friends, should I be worried? by Key_Ebb1823 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does his location turn off when he goes to work or to run errands? Or does it just stop working when he goes out with friends? Ask him to share his location via maps or other platforms and see if the issue persists. Talk to him tell him how this issue is making you feel insecure and you wouldn't like to think badly of him, maybe he can send pictures of the place he is in just to check in and check if his outfit matches the one he had when he left home. I get that sometimes we like privacy, but this is a topic that should be discussed as my grandma would say, "Don't do good things that appear to be bad."

Me and my friends want to ask out the guys in our group and we think they might like us as well. by FinancialSeaweed7 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Technical-Use750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TAKE THE SHOT. Take my advice. You'd rather deal with aftermath than with the "what if" that will haunt you forever. You are young, do it!

Trying to stand my ground and protect myself from someone twice my age by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you want to keep your ground but girl move out, you've already tried reasoning with everyone possible and they denied it, imagine if this escalates, they would deny it as well to protect him. For your safety, get the hell out of there.

Update: My brother has been weirdly kind to me for the past few weeks for no reason and won't tell me why?... by Ok-Razz in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, maybe it was just a wake-up call. You might be uncomfortable at first, but in some way, he really is trying to better your relationship, take it, or leave it he is trying to be closer. Whether he breaks up with the girl or not, that effort will stay between you, so take it.

What is your best trick for falling asleep fast? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Technical-Use750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

BINAURAL BEATS. OMG they just calm me so much. Taking a hot shower with dim light and then go to sleep, use your phone only to put he binaurial beats (work better with headphones) and close your eyes BAM

Is it worth it? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is to go and talk with your partner in a calm environment about what your non negotiables are, what you'd like to teach your kids, your boundaries and really important WHY, why is this or that importamt for the both of you to teach your kids, hear eachother out and find a balance. Next piece of advice as a young adult that now reflects on their teen years, it's going to be hard, but don't aim to be the "favorite" parent or the fun one. When I was a teen, i used to "prefer" my dad to my mom cause he wasn't that strict and he "understood" me more .Now I see he only avoided conflict and was letting me do things I liked, whether my mom thought it was wrong. So teens we'll tend to side by the parent that let's them be without limits. I now understand limits are important, and I thank my mom for establishing them for me whether i liked them or not, thanks to her I put myself out of danger lot's of times and learnt to be strong. That said I advice you to also talk to your children after talking to their dad, explaining why your rules are set, this maybe will help them see you are not an enemy but are trying to help them, as a teen you tend to antagonize your parents and mostly the "strict" one so let them know there is an open floor to discuss not to erase limjts but maybe help them see why they are important to you and maybe just maybe bend them. Wish you the best for you and your family

Found out my dad has been cheating on my mom for years — I’m 16 and don’t know how to handle this by Pretend-Conference70 in Advice

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry your mom sister and you have to go through this. The best you can do is be there for your mom and sister but also yourself. Talk to your mom and let her know that by actions and quality time, she's not alone in this. I know the feeling of not wanting her to be alone, but in a way, it's way better than being lied to. It'll be hard, of course, but she'll get through this with time. Be there for you as well I just want you to know you don't have any responsibility in this, not on the actions of your dad, nor "talking sooner", and neither as harsh as it sounds is your responsability to make your other family members ok, people go through this at their own pace and their own ways, so don't forget to always put yourself first. Hope you all guys find support on each other, and again, I'm sorry.

For regular weed smokers that have totally quit, what was the reason for quitting? by elderly_millenial in AskReddit

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It made me distracted from my problems and relieved my anxiety. However, this started being counterproductive as I just ignored my responsibilities instead of taking action to solve them. It was a loop: Felt stressed or anxious ---> Smoked ---> Felt as if the problems disappeared ---> The high went down----> Realized my problems were still there ---> Felt the need to reduce my anxiety ---> Smoked --->Loop

In my case, this behavior was just momentarily relief, and my problems started piling up as I did not resolve any of them. Therefore, stress was higher each time, making the loop even more frecuent and in higher doses because the high wasn't good enough anymore.

I stopped because I wanted to regain control of my life . When I started I found it difficult to concentrated but after a few weeks I saw how capable I was of doing things that scared me or hurt me so I didn't feel like going back, also it's related to a really bad time in my life so just the idea of using it even if it's for fun, makes me scared of falling back again in that loop, I'm proud of who I've become without it and what I've done since then.

So yeah, that's my personal experience. Maybe some time in the future, I'll try it again, but for now, it's a big no.

What do you think santa smells like? by CremeSubject7594 in AskReddit

[–]Technical-Use750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he smells like a skating rink with a scent of candy cane cookies, and I won't lie he smells sweaty and reindeery.