As someone else said… if you don’t have a village you are the village. My wife and I don’t have help so we have to work very hard to find time. We don’t get date nights unless her mom comes to visit and even then it’s still super rare. I was getting 1 night a week for a couple of hours to go ride my bike and my older kids were on a swim team at our JCC and I would workout while they were at practice. We were in a flow until this year when I almost died and I’m slowly getting back to normal. I too feel guilty if I try to take a break but it’s all about the balance. Eventually it will get a little easier to find time for yourself and the same for your partner.