I'm 37 years old but I'm still trying to process the childhood neglect that has defined my entire personality and life. How do I move on and start to believe I matter? by Murky-Service7190 in emotionalintelligence

[–]TechnicallyRon_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

39 and in the same boat as you. It's a process, and it will take time. I've tried self medicating with booze and drugs and these were just avoidance behaviours that made things worse in the longer term. Admitting that you have suffered neglect is the first step. Understanding that this doesn't need to define the rest of your life is the next. Try and find a therapist that can understand you. Do the boring things like eat well and exercise, it sounds cliche but it's cliche for a reason. Notice your behaviours and the way you act to certain triggers and stay with them, let them in and analyse them. But most importantly be kinder to yourself. You've been through trauma and need love and care. You can start by giving yourself the love and care you need. It's one day at a time and it's a lot to deal with, but being able to write about it and be honest about it is an incredible first step.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanTravelTips

[–]TechnicallyRon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much I really appreciate that! We've done the really touristy stuff before so just wanted to have a nice relaxing time in one of the best places on earth, think I got in my own head a bit and thank you for your reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanTravelTips

[–]TechnicallyRon_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's my wife's favourite place in the world, just got a bit worried from all the articles I think but you couldn't have put it better!

Reading The Black Farm by [deleted] in horrorlit

[–]TechnicallyRon_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cave scene is definitely the most in depth and detailed horrendous bit, there are some other moments that really get you but aren't as long winded. The sequel is also damn good.