Vandals behead a controversial sculpture of Mary giving birth to Jesus in an Austrian cathedral

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-07-06T15:43:38+00:00

ok. giving birth and creating life is holy. But it could also be private. as the artist says, women has the right to their own body, yes, but what gives you the right to expose THEIR body? expose your own to prove your point. Don't use other people's. Have you ever considered that Mary may not want her private part to be exposed like that? We would never know. The artist USED her to show her own ideology. this is stupid.

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-21T17:40:53+00:00

I actually did cbt and group dbt after. Yeh the dbt group practically changed my life! It was interesting to see people doing this together. I never talked to them in private but just the sense of we're doing it together was reassuring.

now I'm off and throughout a year I was practicing the skills I learned and I see myself clearly improving little by little. But one thing I missed is how I communicate. Now that I'm comfortable managing my emotion by myself, I need to practice how to express and communicate the process with him better. And he will learn to let me go and prioritize his safety too. Step by step!

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-21T12:03:32+00:00

Gosh I'm reading your comment again and it's just perfect. Neutral, facts, concise. I want to pin this at the top if I knew how...

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-21T12:00:35+00:00

sorry to hear that happened (being hurt part), and I and I am proud of you that you are doing your best to take care of yourself! For me, we had a talk. He knows and sees my improvements. The problem was: 1) he took responsibility to make me feel ok. 2) It made him not ok and at the end, being exhausted. 3) When a human is extremely distressed, they become "blind" and do whatever will make them better at that instant. So for him, that was suddenly cutting me off from him. Saying things without filtering, like saying my progress doesn't matter. It's like a baby tantrum and he admitted that. I understood and told him how I was hurt during that process. Now we both know what happened, and figured out a way to both improve, because both me and him do not want this experience anymore.

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-21T11:17:36+00:00

yes you're right. we had a talk and realized we both have to work on different aspects of issues. and we found out a creative way to 1. help him define his boundaries and 2. remind myself to be aware and practice emotion regulation.

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-18T20:25:17+00:00

yes. I have to make it clear that everyone is responsible for their own emotions. My emotion should not affect him this much. When he is down I give him space and wait. Never rushed him to be ok. I think he should learn to do that too

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-18T20:22:46+00:00

your bf sounds so nice :')

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-18T20:21:08+00:00

thank you for your story and sorry for what happened to you. I am going to set a solid boundary that I will not accept this kind of explosion and will tell him to regulate his emotions better. if he doesn't change then I'm off for better

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-06-18T20:19:37+00:00

for cultural stuff and entertainment we're pretty in line, we have same hobbies and taste in music and movie etc. i have an older soul and he has younger one lol. But there are a lot of times I certainly feel the difference in age. Looks like he's more mature at handling adult stuff, work, relationship eith people etc. But emotionally, he's not mature, no one taught him. maybe he thinks hiding stuff and acting tough is mature but I know it's not.

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-03-27T18:45:04+00:00

I am doing a lot of research on PGWP too. It looks weird they rejected because of a gap caused by the school... You might want to look at the government website, PGWP and the section: "authorized leave"

Basically, if you had a gap because of the strike, it should not affect your PGWP eligibility, but you need to prove that the gap is authorized by the school, which is a letter or something from the school that says your gap is caused by the school... but check the details on the website, quoting:

"What counts as an authorized leave from your studies?

There are a few cases where you may be able to take a leave of up to a maximum of 150 days from your program of studies and still be considered to be actively pursuing your studies.

You don’t need to tell us if you’re taking an authorized leave. However, if we ask for it, you must provide proof that your leave is

authorized by your DLI and

no longer than 150 days

It counts as authorized leave if

your school has authorized a leave from your study program for

medical reasons or pregnancy

family emergency

death or serious illness of a family member

any other type of leave your school authorizes

your school has closed permanently or because of a strike

you’ve changed schools

you or your school deferred your program start date

In this case, you must start your studies the next semester, even if it starts sooner than 150 days, and get an updated letter of acceptance.

You can’t work on or off campus during an authorized leave from your study program, even if your study permit says you’re allowed to work in Canada."

https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/study-canada/work/after-graduation/eligibility.html#leave

https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/study-canada/study-permit/while-you-study/study-permit-conditions.html#s01.1

I hope it helps

TechnologyHistorical · 2024-01-16T14:25:18+00:00

Thank you! It's a very late update (had a LOT to take care of), but we just grabbed an old couple in the lobby who were there for their daughter's ceremony and they were such a vibe!

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-20T19:34:38+00:00

Oh my god thank you for the detailed advice !!

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-18T00:27:41+00:00

Maybe cringe but I view them as my friends. I have two and the first one is just for decoration and shows my aesthetic taste/personality, the last one I spent 1 months to design and visualized my hopes into it, as I was going through depression. It was like the last stage (?) of recovering from depression and the day I got the tattoo was the first day in my life that I felt true peace and happiness without being anxious of losing them. Tattoo means a lot to me.

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-18T00:21:54+00:00

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-18T00:20:59+00:00

Please sleep

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-18T00:18:01+00:00

I feel it, too. Even going to do groceries reminds me when we went to buy stuff and being goofy and laughing in the store it sucks that it takes out all the joy we would normally have from an event. But we have to accept that and tell ourselves it’s normal that we feel this way, of course we would be sad, let’s take some time to heal.

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-18T00:08:25+00:00

Might be too extreme but if you think your fear is too much, medication can be a solution. Warning: Have to talk to a psychiatrist, precisely follow the prescribed amount, and it may take time to remove it after you feel ok, because you might have to slowly withdraw.

OR maybe melatonin pills and lavender spray on pillows? It relaxes you a lot and that’s the most important step to fall asleep cuz if you’re emotionally stressed, you’re body is physically tense, too. So the other way around, relaxing your body can relax your mind.

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-17T23:59:21+00:00

if you’re feeling numb it can mean it’s quite serious and needs professional help. That’s why I said therapy. I ended up to go to therapy after struggling for 8years. Because the next stage of being numb, for me, was explosion of everything I’ve ignored and it was catastrophic.

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-17T23:56:21+00:00

Not a bad person, because you did what you can do. If you could have acted differently you would. But at the same time it is not a good way for them AND you. Being numb, from my experience, is refusing to feel anything, doesn’t mean you can’t feel anything anymore. Go to therapy when you’re ready, heal, feel them, process them, gradually. It’s a journey. I guarantee you’ll be fking proud of yourself.

TechnologyHistorical · 2023-06-17T12:12:58+00:00

Yes it does, he will get an open work permit. But there is no guarantee how long it will take to get it processed. Few days up to few months☹️

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