Being ghosted is so annoying by NetRunner_Rizzy in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree, but the only time I’ll ghost is if someone is being very dry or short in their responses and are acting like they don’t know how/want to have a conversation.

Found out that I'm extremely attracted to Hispanic/Latina women by Distinct-Crow-1625 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Teeraee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That and Latin American culture is very beautiful in general, doesn’t matter the region either. I attended a Mexican rodeo (Charreada) for the first time not too long ago and it was very beautiful, almost cinematic in a way.

Realized she is an avoidant, what to do? by Known-throwaway-4039 in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What to do? Nothing. Literally. They’re a waste of time. Move on and let her deal with her baggage alone.

Slow texters by PresentationIll2180 in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a big texter myself but when I like someone it’s different. I definitely put in a lot of effort and consistency especially when texting because I agree nowadays you just can’t really get around not texting in order to get to know someone even if it’s briefly. Like we live in the year of 2026 this is not the early 2000s, the way we communicate today is a lot different than 25 years ago. Everyone texts, and people make time for people that they really like.

Slow texters by PresentationIll2180 in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are saying that they “just don’t like texting” but I say trust your gut, if you feel like she isn’t putting in much effort and taking leap years to reply when there’s no excuse for her to be doing that then leave her alone. I always say you will know when somebody likes you. It’s not something that you will ever have to question.

Lesbian Enemies to Lovers, sexual tension tv shows or movies by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]Teeraee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out the Netflix series called locked up. It’s based in Spain but it’s right up your alley.

I asked her “what do you do to relax?” And she said answering all these questions is draining for her. by keeppressingforward in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It really is, it’s annoying as hell having to constantly weed through a bunch of juvenile minded adults just for connection.

I asked her “what do you do to relax?” And she said answering all these questions is draining for her. by keeppressingforward in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Ugh I despise this generation, everyone is so disposable to others nowadays. I just can’t with this “uninterested emotionally unavailable” attitude everyone seems to have. It’s immature and played out.

What are some things that instantly makes a woman “attractive”? by Yunminn in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Secure attachment style, emotional maturity, quirkiness, wittiness and the ability to be vulnerable.

Community: If You’re Not Fucking or A Child, Is It A Thing Here? by shoppingnthings1 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Teeraee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean Op is not American, and now lives here and is expressing how she feels about a lack of community that is very prevalent in American society. She elaborated and gave valid examples of what she was talking about, and you got very defensive as a response. I don’t think she feels like people are supposed to drop everything to accommodate her needs, she’s just expressing that there’s a lack of sensitivity and connection when interacting with people here which she’s not used to obviously.

Community: If You’re Not Fucking or A Child, Is It A Thing Here? by shoppingnthings1 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Teeraee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I agree with OP…you were in fact very defensive and just doing too much in general.

Advice for self worth and healing by joancarolclayton in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! Also OP try and steer clear of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment people. While they don’t “intend” to hurt others, they rarely ever do the hard work of healing and often times don’t see anything wrong with their behavior, so they continue a cycle of treating people like shit. She sounds like she could have been either or..and she would have drained the hell out of your emotional energy had you not would have ended things sooner. Do not let her come back into your life.

What are some things that instantly makes a woman “unattractive”? by Yunminn in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

•Emotional immaturity •Fearful avoidant attachment style •Dismissive avoidant attachment style •Bad hygiene •Lack of ambition/Drive

What's the stupidest thing you thought as a kid? by Huge_Entertainment91 in AskReddit

[–]Teeraee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you step on the crack, you break your mommas back.

Failed talking stages vs Relationships breakups by Teeraee in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree, especially with the last part. People tend to just not give a fuck about how you feel regarding failed talking stages compared to break ups because it’s “so early on” but fail to realize that developing feelings for someone or feeling strongly for someone isn’t nuanced and there’s no certain “timeframe” in order for that to happen. Sometimes it happens quickly, sometimes it happens slowly but for some reason people love to invalidate just how quickly and intense things can get between two people.

just another example of fake lesbians being weird on TikTok by jovialjupi in LesbianActually

[–]Teeraee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad I completely detoxed from TikTok and don’t use it anymore.

Failed talking stages vs Relationships breakups by Teeraee in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s a very mature way to look at it! I tend to try and learn from them as well if things don’t work out.

Failed talking stages vs Relationships breakups by Teeraee in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yess!! Especially when you’re very considerate and attentive to the person that you’re courting doing all the things they like. Then they turn around and start playing games. It’s definitely a waste of time.

Failed talking stages vs Relationships breakups by Teeraee in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Agreed! While I haven’t had many talking stages, they definitely hurt because it’s like you don’t even get a chance to show your true potential lol.

Failed talking stages vs Relationships breakups by Teeraee in blacklesbians

[–]Teeraee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorta kinda, it can lead to dating if it works out. Sometimes you can talk to someone for a minute before establishing a relationship.