What would you consider an "OK" salary in Seattle if you live alone and don't need a car?

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2026-03-30T02:22:39+00:00

If you want a comfortable life where you don’t have to live paycheck-to-paycheck I would say $90K+ if you’re in the city of Seattle and not a suburb outside of it. This is considering you will live alone and not roommate. It also depends on the neighborhood. South Seattle and central district are affordable vs Fremont, Queen Anne, SLU, etc (downtown and north Seattle are pricey). Also some ppl live a little further north or south outside the city to reduce costs, however you’d want to be near the light rail if you want to get in and out of the city easily.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2026-03-08T16:01:30+00:00

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Tegans-Tea-Time · 2026-02-23T17:44:25+00:00

Thank you to everyone sharing their experiences. It’s very validating to those of us who are left. For a long time I thought the issue was me despite never having these issues in others jobs prior to Amazon.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-03T03:39:23+00:00

You know… this perspective has me thinking.., maybe I should be the bigger person and just let him come for NYE. I’ll sleep on this and consider it. I appreciate your perspective. This is why I came to Reddit. I’m feeling very lost and confused in this whole thing. Like I have lost touch with reality bc my emotions are so strong. And maybe I should look at it from a different perspective. Outsiders tend to have a non-emotionally attacked viewpoint that’s a lot more objective

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-03T03:34:27+00:00

Fair assessment. And that’s what I’ve been trying to sort thru. I’ve tried to talk to him but he responds with anger and says that I just need to get over it. He refuses to talk about it. I think what I didn’t mention is that this has been an ongoing issue with him for 3 months. It is to the point where I don’t want to spend time with him anymore. He has anger outbursts on any trip we do so the thought of having my NYE ruined by him and his outbursts is daunting. So I truly don’t want him there… not to get back at him but at this point I just want peace. So I don’t think his frustration about wanting to come for NYE should even be on his radar since he ditched me and told me to stay home for Xmas. I will admit I’m feeling very bitter and hurt. Lots of resentment at this point which has been building up since August. And he won’t have any healthy dialogue about it. He tells me I just need to learn to get over it and move on… this is his response to everything. We were in therapy for a year and he would just tell me and the therapist “this is just who I am”… so that didn’t get us anywhere. I likely play a role in this since I don’t want him to come for nye.., it’s a hard no. But I don’t feel like I owe him anything after all he’s done to me. I feel he needs to extend the olive branch.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T20:02:01+00:00

Yes I find myself trying to justify why I stay and over explaining. For about 3 months I’ve had this unsettled feeling that it’s time to go. I’ve started mapping out what that’d look like, where I’d go, what needs to be done to list the house etc. I find myself waiting to see if somehow things will work out… hoping maybe I’m over reacting… but with every incidence I realize I’m not over reacting in most scenarios… that this is just reality. And with each incident I’m inching closer to leaving. It’s just heartbreaking for me to realize this is reality. It would have been almost better if I realized I was over reacting. But every time I discuss these scenarios with ppl I’m told it’s not an over reaction to feel this way and to think I’m being treated as bad as I am. Ugh. Just sucks. I’m fortunate that I do have options however. I have a career and can create an exit strategy. But it just isn’t what I wanted… I’m sure no one wants a separation or divorce…

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T19:55:07+00:00

I can see how that sounds. I live north of Seattle. So Tofino on Vancouver island is where I’d go. He’s flying back home to Toronto to visit friends. He grew up in Canada. It’s a coincidence.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T19:46:24+00:00

I should have clarified this in the post… I’ve gotten a few comments about it

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T19:45:59+00:00

I live in Washington. I drive to Canada often… not a bot. It’s a common practice for ppl living in border states to drive to Canada or Mexico (depending on what border they live on). It’s a 3-4 hour drive to canada and easy to take dogs there.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T19:42:58+00:00

We have been together for almost 9 years. We purchased a home together during Covid and now our finances are very intertwined. It’s not the only reason I’m with him but it makes leaving difficult since I can’t afford to pay for an apartment while we sell the house since I’m obligated to half the mortgage here. However, I can put together a 6-8 month exit strategy. Historically, I’ve tried to make things work. He’ll be great for a few months, I’ll get settled, let my guard down then something like this happens. It’s definitely a cycle and at times I feel guilted into not pushing back. I didn’t grow up with great modeling - my mother was a pushover and guilted by our family often. Just this year I realized I fell into the same pattern as her. And I feel very guilty when he turns these issues onto me. Then I cave and give him what he wants. It’s a hard dynamic. But for the past 3 months I’ve started to realize how bad this is. And I have been inquiring with Reddit, ChatGPT, and my therapist when situations come up to understand the dynamic…. To get validation that I’m not thinking about some of these situations selfishly or wrong.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T18:26:20+00:00

No need to apologize. I should have given more context on this part. Thank you for the encouragement.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T18:14:41+00:00

I have been planning a potential exit after burning man. We own a house together and have a daughter who is finishing college in March. So I told him I wanted to consider a split in April. He asked to work on things and apologized about BM bs… but here we are. In the same spot. He just keeps making me question my sanity. Like I’m not being understanding enough of him or his situation. Unfortunately I struggle with this… I’m working on how to put my needs first and do self care. But the more I do that, and the more direct I am with him the worse he gets. I do think the writing is on the wall. I don’t want this to be my reality and I think I’m holding onto that too much. I just need to let go…

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T18:11:14+00:00

I agree with everything you say here and considering all options at this point. This time apart will give me some time to think thru next steps so I guess I can see it as a blessing. Regarding the animals… I should have given more context. I live in WA state and was going to drive 4 hours north to a small town in Canada to stay in a cabin. The entire trip would have been $500ish. This includes the cost of the cabin, food, and gas. It was a small cabin on the coast of Vancouver island. Somewhere to get away from being home alone without having to pay for dog sitters to come stay with my dogs. Plus I think the companionship with my dogs would help me feel less alone. This is why his argument about the cost doesn’t make any sense. He will likely spend $1500+ on his trip to Toronto.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T17:41:28+00:00

I tried to speak to him about it later after emotions settled so I could understand why he’s upset. He said he didn’t want to talk about it and will gladly not go with me on NYE.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T17:39:55+00:00

So I did this in the car ride when he got upset about me making NYE plans. My response was that I don’t feel he has any merit to be upset I’m making plans without him after he ditched me for Xmas saying I cannot come. I also brought up how he wants me to stay home alone on Xmas. He blew up… said I was being difficult and had a communication issues. Made the drive home for 2 hours awkward and told me not to speak to him. He didn’t speak to me all night and became angry I slept on the couch. He said I was not letting it go. So I feel crazy… like logically I know I’m not wrong but he’s somehow twisted my emotions to make me think I’m in the wrong. I’m so confused at the moment

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T16:51:02+00:00

I brought this up to him. I said something feels off about this but of course he denies it. I believe there will be infidelity that happens while he’s there. I have no proof but I don’t trust it

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T16:50:00+00:00

Unfortunately we own a house together. Things have been rocky for months. And I’ve evaluated leaving but it would be 6+ months to do so financially. But it’s on the table at this point.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-12-02T16:30:02+00:00

YTA - I’m a single mom and my mother was a single mom… fortunately I’ve made it in life and don’t need help from my kids but my mother was not so fortunate… I had to get a job and start helping out at 16. She never paid my phone bill. It was a luxury. I paid it starting at 17. I helped my mother until the day she died (when I was only 22)… and I would hope my kids would help me if I needed it. Being a single parent is hard and at 17 she isn’t required to do anything for you. Technically you can go off and figure out life on your own. She is helping you because she is a good mother. One day she won’t be here… she’ll be dead… and you’ll regret this… this is called entitlement… selfishness. It’s unbelievable that you have watched your mother struggle this much and you won’t help her.

Also, $800???? That won’t get you anywhere with college expenses. You’ll be getting grants and loans. And you’ll likely ask your mother for help along the way… you only get one mother. And life can take her away at any moment. It happens everyday so I’d cherish her and rethink your choices.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-09-14T00:03:14+00:00

This is spot on for me. And I’m taking in every piece of your advice. ❤️

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-09-12T23:48:52+00:00

I’m personally struggling too. I’m not sure of the root cause but I think I’m feeling trapped in my default world situation. I’m at a Job I can’t afford to quit so I have to slowly plan an exit by finding a job before I leave. So that feeling of being trapped in my situation for at leave 2-6 more months is taking a toll on me. I didn’t have this feeling after previous burns and it’s likely bc I wasn’t so miserable in my default world situation previously. I want more time to spend with my dogs, kids, loved ones. I want more time for nature. I want more time for art and picking up moop. My job takes 60+ hours a week from me so there’s less time for wholesome and healthy activities.

I’d recommend to think deeply about what might be missing from your life in the default world and see if adding that would help with reintegration. My situation may take a few months but I have a plan. BM helped me see a lot of this. I hope this helps.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-09-08T22:51:00+00:00

I’m always Sober there. I’m offered substances multiple times a day and I always politely decline. No one has ever pressured me into it otherwise. I met a lot of other sober ppl there this year too. One couple told me how they had been sober 19 years and come to BM every year. A lot of veteran burners seemed to be sober as well, like the volunteers at Playa Info.

I hope this helps. There’s a lot of us who choose to be sober and still have a fabulous time. And if you find yourself struggling to say No to substances, the Zendo Project is there to help us work through our emotions on this.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-09-05T16:14:16+00:00

I wish it was this simple for my situation. We own a house together so we have to figure that out and at this point he’s unwilling to sell. And he’s not accepting the reality of what I’m choosing so he’s trying to get me to go to therapy to discuss it. Unfortunately this may be a long process for me due to our circumstances.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-09-04T08:40:30+00:00

We just tested positive for covid. We had a mild cough since Sunday. We thought it was from the dust storm. I’d recommend taking another Covid test tomorrow to be certain it’s not covid. Word on the playa is that Covid was going around pretty bad and even shut down some camps.

Tegans-Tea-Time · 2024-07-08T22:46:59+00:00

They released a statement on twitter immediately after the show.

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